Are Love And Happiness Mutually Inclusive?
We all seek love; believing it will make us happy. Nothing can be further from the truth. Love on its own cannot make us happy and it is perfectly possible to be happy without it. Love is only one component of happiness.
Please note that I’m talking specifically about the love between a man and a woman here.
Happiness is not an emotion; it is a state of mind. But it does not come by itself. You have to work on it constantly. You have to make other people happy so they can contribute to your happiness as well.
We often confuse the euphoria of being in love with happiness. It only temporary blinds us from all the other things that make us unhappy. It will soon wear off. Our unhappiness with other things will have a negative impact on our love and pull it down as well. We have to be happy to enjoy unrestricted love.
Many things can make you unhappy but only you can make you happy. To be happy you must be satisfied with your life. You cannot claim to be happy while you hate your job, your house, or your sister-in-law. You have to identify and eliminate the things that make you unhappy. (Don’t eliminate your sister-in-law. It will bring more unhappiness. You won’t get away with 10 months.)
Take stock of the things that make you unhappy. Rectify the things that you can change, and then re-evaluate the things that you cannot change and accept that you cannot change it. Contentment is the first step towards happiness.
Love is not self-sustaining and does not bring lasting happiness, but it thrives on it. Work on your happiness and love will soon follow.
Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. Get a good start!
Comments (106)
You still remember?
I just got back home! And at the moment, I'm listening to that song.
V. Lee, is fin to go offline...
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Those Dolls were sizzling hot!!
Am listening to this coz missing my baby like crazy...
Yuck!....
Oh, I should send flowers and messages to viewers? So much to learn ...
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That's my emoticon in my belly dancing costume!
I Will Repeat!
This just in. A guy from Zurich just viewed me. Very funny profile he has!
About me:
I love science fiction, sailing, and Africa...not necessarily all together or in that particular order. I've heard my back rubs are as lousy as my memory, so maybe you can help me improve on one or both of those. I love a beautiful woman with a goofy laugh as much as I love a goofy-looking woman with a beautiful laugh. I dance better than I sing, but I sing better than I play chess. I want my lover to be my best friend, my confidante, my rock, and, most importantly, someone to help me finding the butter in the fridge ....
I’m looking for:
Romantic, understandable, humorous and with a healthy appetite ;)
Hmmm.....I do have a healthy appetite.....for food, that is!!
What were you guys thinking?!?! Tsk tsk tsk
and then
and then
I told him that!
Shut! Up Now....
Hey! Where's Catfoot?!?!? is he sulking in a corner coz we lasies have hijacked his blog?!
Seriously, I think some of you here need to get some sleep....
Wayyyyyyy past your bedtime already
Who are you talking about Angel?
It's just 5:30 pm here...
I have to agree, men are visual creatures....
Angel
I was referring to your Bob and Viv there!
I'm back. Np problems. Had some mail to attend to. (truth is I logged out to view your profiles secretly.)
I'm very upset. My rugby team lost today. Not just lost, The got a hiding.
Oh! My Bad...
Back now. And 5 people have looked at my profile already. Gosh.
Hi Cat! Would love some of that coffee
for a moment I thought you deserted me.
Nescafe classic gold. Have some. Angel will send the invoice.
Jump in a lake, will you.
yes,please....like Nescafe gold too.
Angel can charge me for a cup later...
oops! I wrote to you by mistake. My Bad!...
Why would a 29 year old be interested in me.
Hello how are you doing this evening i hope you doing good I would love to meet a kind and a life-loving man. I want him to enjoy every single second of life with me, as I am sure that is how I will feel next to him. The most important character traits for me are honesty, loyalty and a big kind heart.
Congrats Angel You got the steak knife.