Are Love And Happiness Mutually Inclusive?
We all seek love; believing it will make us happy. Nothing can be further from the truth. Love on its own cannot make us happy and it is perfectly possible to be happy without it. Love is only one component of happiness.
Please note that I’m talking specifically about the love between a man and a woman here.
Happiness is not an emotion; it is a state of mind. But it does not come by itself. You have to work on it constantly. You have to make other people happy so they can contribute to your happiness as well.
We often confuse the euphoria of being in love with happiness. It only temporary blinds us from all the other things that make us unhappy. It will soon wear off. Our unhappiness with other things will have a negative impact on our love and pull it down as well. We have to be happy to enjoy unrestricted love.
Many things can make you unhappy but only you can make you happy. To be happy you must be satisfied with your life. You cannot claim to be happy while you hate your job, your house, or your sister-in-law. You have to identify and eliminate the things that make you unhappy. (Don’t eliminate your sister-in-law. It will bring more unhappiness. You won’t get away with 10 months.)
Take stock of the things that make you unhappy. Rectify the things that you can change, and then re-evaluate the things that you cannot change and accept that you cannot change it. Contentment is the first step towards happiness.
Love is not self-sustaining and does not bring lasting happiness, but it thrives on it. Work on your happiness and love will soon follow.
Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. Get a good start!
Comments (106)
you're hot...they simply want you for who you are...maybe it's infatuation...
You're making fun of the aged.
It has always been. You know it. You helped to set it up.
age doesn't matter...what's wrong with you?
I'm serious here!
Sorry about your rugby, mate. Time to change teams, ja?
Nope, It will be to difficult to travel to another rugby Stadium every time. It is the best team in the country in any way. They lost to an Australian team. Maybe better luck next year.
I almost fell of my chair. You were hiding your best pics. Not that the other one was bad either.
I took that selfie few hours ago for someone special...he said it's very nice and he likes it so I uploaded it...
looks very sane for a change...
Good blog. I am constantly working on my happiness..
Sounds like I have been missing out on a lot of fun and laughter on here but then you have the rowdy crowd on .. Viv, Dc and Crazy.. just to mention a few
I should have been in Lala Land. I don't know what I'm still doing here.
Had three cups of coffee in the last hour. but it's not helping any more.
careful she will surely charge you for neglect
Cat, I'm sane , really really..
Oh, I'm not doubting that. I just meant it is not a requirement.
well, I've just been told to change my crazy ways...
so what should be the requirements?
That will depend on who said it.
And now I must go to lala land. If I'm late tomorrow, I will be grounded until I'm 90.
my parents used to say it...
the nuns did too...
my ex-husband did...
someone said it too...
my son said it too...
It's not nice to talk about me. While I'm not present at the time of doing so! Right?....
Can all those people be wrong?
You should be present at put board meetings. You just left without trace.