danger w/ beauty

I am not talking about only one gender here and everyone in particular. This will pertain to both the male and the female gender and to only some people within. This blog is not directed at any one person…in fact, this thought has been with me for some time and only now have I figured out how to express it.

Many of us get our identity from the feedback we receive from others. For example, if George does a lot of charitable things for his school, chances are, George will get positive feedback from the people who he helped out. If George does this throughout his life and continues to get this positive feedback, George may develop a positive image of himself. In other words, he will begin to identify with this feedback and develop his ego based on this feedback. It is human nature for people to do this.

Let’s, for the sake of this blog, just use the example of a beautiful woman. Lol….I know, figures coming from me. Okay, it can really be any woman…or any man for that matter. But, I want to stick to the beautiful woman because it is easier to explain and to understand. Since her childhood, Margy grew up getting praise from her parents on how beautiful she is and how she is such a princess. When she gets into her teenage years, she starts to discover all the boys are giving her tons of attention. Even the girls gravitate toward her. Margy….well, she really is a truly beautiful woman. She is tall, perfect body, beautiful eyes, beautiful everything…..just a gorgeous girl. Well, Margy starts to discover that she can say anything and do anything and everybody just laughs with her and supports her behavior.

Now, into young adulthood, Margy, still a beauty queen as she was in her teens, continues on with the same behavior. She can be rude to others. She can get her way with everyone. She can dictate situations to her own personal satisfaction. The guys she is around never attempt to speak up. After all, most of them are after only one thing. The women she is around never attempt to speak up. Heck, if I am friends with Margy, she will be opening up opportunities for me with the people she has around.

Pretty soon, Margy, from all this “false” feedback, believes she is more in life than she really is. Until, her true close friends and family step in and try to offer her advice. Maybe, they try and point out the woes of her ways? However, Margy knows they are just trying to be rude, or, they are even jealous of her. Afterall, throughout my life, Margy thinks, I have never done no wrong. Nobody has ever spoken to me the way my “so-called” close friends and family are speaking to me.

Confusion and possible reality sets in….only after Margy ages and loses the “power” of her beauty.

So, being a beautiful person can be dangerous. One might think it breeds narcissism. Sometimes having people in your life that “check” you once in awhile, can be a great thing.

Of course, this can happen with men too.

What do you all think...yeah/no/maybe so?

Just my 2 pennies….