The friends issue
Family, that’s one thing. Even the whacky relatives are part of the furniture, but friends are different, friends are the family you choose.So - if your friend makes friends with someone you really dislike, and wants to be all pals together, what do you do? Smile sweetly and play nice? Point out the new friend is a troglodyte? Or just quietly back off because anyone who can have that as a friend is obviously not the person you thought they were?
You can do that with friends, but it happens in relationships too. SHE disapproves of HIS friends, HE thinks HERS are a pain in the proverbial. SHE thinks he spends too much time out with his buddies, and doesn't need so many boys nights out, especially with those particular boys. HE blames her friends for every glitch in the relationship. And so it goes on.
Who do you choose in a case like that? Love me, love my friends / Dump the friends, or dump the love / Lay down ground rules / other. Well, that's why I'm asking, really. Has it happened to any of you, that your new best person has a toxic friend, and how did you handle it?
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But then my siblings REALLY made sure to find someone with lots of them.
My mum is sweet talked easiely
I chose not to cross that certain line is all.
I think mum doesn't want me to be on my own (but I got definite warnings about the wedding and baby stuff, that's not necessary in my age
But I nearly always date people that I get to know well before actually dating them. But it was always friendship with the potential of dating, if you know what I mean.
And yes, I too can and do stay friends afterwards as well.
Obviously, you have to have a break to get over the romantic connection, but then you can become amazing friends again.
But a friendship that always had an edge of potential - hmm. Could be very interesting.
And I don't flirt with real friends.
So it is easy enough to differentiate between the two
I would find it very hard to date somebody I didn't "know' well enough now
But I might have to reduce the waiting time, or I'll run out of time
Last one took a year of foreplay before the meet.
I think I should reduce that time if ever I go again
You are so not a redhead.
Failing that, dahling, this is the best I can do for you -
We do not own anyone nor need to like their taste.
One of my friends likes bacon sandwich
Have lovely weekend and valentines day
The real decisions start if you end up with a lush fella who is, to use your example, lovely in every other way but wants bacon every morning for breakfast?
Then I'm sure I would get the 200 questions.
Even then they still wouldn't believe me.
My friends were a bit taken aback when I joined CS and even more taken aback when I started seeing someone. Now they've got used to the idea that I'm going through my second
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Oh and because I don't delete comments.
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It is quite simple. I like my friends. I cannot for the life of me see why I should be friends with somebody I don't like. If I get a new girlfriend and she does not like my friends (or if I don't like her friends) then obviously our lifestyles are incompatible. I can understand if she hss a dislike in one or two of my friends, but if she dislikes my friends in general, then she is the problem, not my friends.
So I did. Never did learn to like the guy, but hey.