Expectations. Part 1

That only works if they recognise the kindness behind the cruelty.

I know what you meant.

My friends come to me when they want the practical, no-nonsense advice to their problem. Not the crying-together sympathetic approach. They go to others for that.
I am very perceptive of people and situations, despite my traits above, and thus can see the situation objectively.
There are pros and cons to all types. That is why it is good to have a mix in any grouping.

Hello Mercedes & Molly!

Or based on my personality type shall I say Hello from the hermit who decided to come out of their hermitage?.

Star, I'm just sticking my nose outside the door to have a look around

@ Innocentia ,

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And, does the above stem from and is due or related to high self esteem?.

I'm really very interested in hearing what you say.

I'm also sending you the questions of the initial subject of this blog for you, if you want & wish to answer these.

It would be great if you want to do this and have your expectations for the first date with someone you met online, along with your personality type results.

The initial subject regards exactly that, expectations for the first date with someone you met online and the questions are,

(1). Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?. 

(2). If yes, what are these?. 

Thank you so much for the valuable input.

Have a very lovely weekend!!!!

Star, to answer your question to Innoc, to me extroverts are socially extroverted. That does not mean that they are internally assertive.
Assertiveness is a quiet, non-aggressive , way of putting your point across. Introverts often do that better.

Star, I think I lost them when I went into reading the traits in detail.

I know myself anyway, percentages or not

I am back

Yes. I have one expectation. That the communication does not stop. We had to get along well because we wanted to meet in person. So it does never make sense to me when people meet and that personal meeting was the end of a good communication.

I wish you, too, a lovely weekend

Good morning everyone and Happy Sunday to all! Sorry, I could not log onto this site starting from late afternoon yesterday Saturday(unexpected outing) but back here today Sunday

Happy belated St Patrick's day to Molly & Deedee, hope you had a great St Patrick's day!

Good morning Molly ,
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Happy belated St. Patrick's day and hope you had a great time!.

This is a response to all of your 3 comments addressed to me on this blog.

First of all, thank you for participating in the initial subject of expectations for the first date with someone you met online.

Then, following through the new subject of personality types and coming on board with those who have taken the BMTI personality test.

Most of all, sharing your results with the rest of us in this group and personality type you were found to be based on the BMTI personality test.

Furthermore, sharing with us the description of the personality type you were found to be.

That is the Logistician(ISTJ) type of personality.

1. The description of The Logistician personality type(ISTJ) brought forward in the context of this blog.

Taking into consideration your consistency in this blog and having read the description of The Logistician personality type brought forward by you, your comments on this blog about the personality type you were found to be and how and to what extent this applies to you, I will start with the positive of this personality type or what I see as positive.

Then, some questions came to me naturally when reading certain parts related also to the comments you made in this blog after you provided the description of The Logistician, personality type you were found to be based on the specific test.

The questions that came naturally to mind, I make known and/or bring these forward and in the form of direct questions to you.

The most important positive identified in the whole description of The Logistician brought forward and provided by you, regards the Logisticians as friends related also to the key traits or strengths brought forward by you in the beginning of or that you begun your comment with.

Molly says,

Logistician friends are not spontaneous. They are not talkative, or particularly playful in their affection. What Logistician friends are is loyal, trustworthy, honorable and dependable. Others may come and go with the ups and downs of life, but Logisticians stay by their friends’ sides no matter what, with a deepness of commitment that other types may not even believe is po.

Star says,

Well if it was to choose between someone who is "talkative, particularly playful in their affection, spontaneous" and someone who was "loyal, trustworthy, honorable and dependable", of course I would have chosen the latter.

What is someone going to do with talkative, spontaneous, particular in their affection if they aren't loyal, trustworthy, honorable and dependable?.

Molly says,

Insensitive – While not intentionally harsh, Logisticians often hurt more sensitive types’ feelings by the simple mantra that honesty is the best policy. Logistician personalities may take emotions into consideration, but really only so far as to determine the most effective way to say what needs to be said.

Star says,

I have coupled the part Insensitive – While not intentionally harsh, Logisticians often hurt more sensitive types’ feelings by the simple mantra that honesty is the best policy" to the following from the last paragraphs of the description you provided and what seems to me one as a solution,

Logisticians are not naturally receptive to others’ emotions, not unless they are stated clearly, and a partner usually only says “I’m angry” when it’s too late to address the initial grievance.

What seems to be a solution in this case is, others to state or express their feelings clearly from the beginning and to "address the initial grievance".

But, what do you think about this?.

Thanks(continued to page 2).

@ Innocentia ,

Thank you for coming back with your wonderful vibration I can pick up and feel.

In addition to this, your responses that I did read, will read again and respond to them more extensively after my response to Mercedes.

Enjoy your Sunday!

I'm circulating at this point the specific personality test once again (provided/brought forward for the first time in this blog by Krinka) for, it's too many pages up to now for someone to go through and find this.



Just in case anyone else online also wants or is interested in coming forward and participating through sharing with us their results.

Hi StarG




PS
My conversation with Pat8 was not a serious one. We were just kidding to each other. The walking stick we talked about was mentioned on an old blog. I found it funny so I brought it up here.

Star, from my experience, quieter people often have steelier personalities than extroverted ones.
It is much more difficult to change their minds once they have made them up.

Holy cabanossi, there's some pretty detailed answers here.

@ Innocentia ,
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A reason may also be expectations and the expectations of the other, second person for the first date as the subject of this blog was.

Whatever the reason was, what I know for certain is that, you shouldn't have been wondering or left to be wondering about the reasons why by the other person but this should have been made clear to you by the other.

If that person hasn't done so then, let go of this person and discuss with someone worthwhile you may meet the possibility of continuing communication if you like or don't like each other when you first meet in person.

This is what I've done with the guys met in person in the (far) past. We both knew what will take place if a or b option and what we will both and each one of us do.

I will close this letter by saying that I absolutely enjoyed reading your blog about synesthesia and found it to be very informative as well as one of the best blogs that have come out.

I include a copy of the link to your blog below for everyone who has not read thiwants to read and be informed or find out about synesthesia, below.



Well done for bringing synesthesia forward, providing information and bringing awareness.

I had absolutely no idea about synesthesia; your blog was the first time and place I've heard of synesthesia.

Well Done!

Take care!

1. Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?
Yes, I'm honest about what I want and do expect the same. It can be that we don't hit it off, but I wouldn't meet someone to play with someone's feelings.

2. If yes, what are these?
Honesty - that's the only thing I would expect. Not a given when you meet someone of CS is my experience.

On the personality test, I'm a LOGISTICIAN (ISTJ-A). The description is fairly fitting.

Hey KNenagh

What a great unexpected nice surprise!!

So great to see you here!! Welcome on board of all subjects you so carefully noticed, paid attention to and answered in a very clear, simple and straightforward manner.

As a principle of fairness I'm usually responding to messages based on the time they were made but, rules have their exceptions.

I know that you are not here often. I have actually left a message for you on the blog for which the link is provided in the beginning of this blog.

You were then my last commentator then this blog as a continuation of it on expectations for the first date was created.

Please have a look and read this if you haven't already done so.

Thank you for your responses to the questions of this blog and matters raised.

It is obvious to me that you are not playing with the feelings of others and indeed "honesty" is a virtue in another.

Honesty, to the best of my memory, has been the no.1 expectation or what was most important for the first date and,rightly so if one hopes at least for a worthwhile and substantial relationship.

As far The Logistician, the personality type you were found to be based on the BMTI test and after taking this, does "fairly fitting" mean accurate?.

You are the second person within this group who have taken this test who were found to be The Logistician personality type.

Molly in this group was also found to be with The Logistician personality type based on the specific test and is also from Ireland.

I've met many Irish people up to now in person and real life, also had to interact, cooperate and saw frequently.

I know very well how they are(friendly & kind) so won't ask a silly question based on that two Irish within this group were found to be The Logistian type of personality

Take care.

Hi Stargazer, yes, they were accurate.

I was surprised that it shows a bigger percentage of being introverted than extroverted (I thought I was pretty outgoing). Having higher percentages of being observant, thinking and judging is not surprise. The text describing this personality type is spot on for me, I can relate to all of it.

I'm German living in Ireland - some of the Logistician personality traits are very "German".

Interesting blog, it does show the reason why I don't have time for dishonest people and messing around.

Hi StarG
I don't know if it's accurate or not. I simply took the test and screenshot a few of the results. I didn't really read the explanation. Sorry.
Maybe... just maybe I'll take the test again and read all the results.. maybe.