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I'm not so depressed that my job is suffering, but when I get back to the company yard with this trailer and drop it off, I'm going to sit down and come to a very serious decision on whether or not I can drive anymore. Not because I'm unable to. But, because of the fact that one of the biggest things held from me during all the dramatic buffalo cookies with the ex, was my medications.

I take them because a few years ago I suffered such a severe case of pancreatitis that if I didn't get to the hospital when I did, I would be dead. I'm not a heavy drinker. Not by any means. I have a drink 3 times a year. Once for the wedding anniversary, once for the passing of a father I never had the chance to meet, and once for the passing of a grandfather who I truly saw as the most influential person to guide my very existence.
And it isn't drinking anything more than a shot of whiskey for the last 2 and a shot of tequila for the first. Otherwise I stay away from the liquor.

But due to the severe nature of the pancreatitis to begin with, I've suffered since. And unless you have been through it, I won't go into detail. Let's just say my industry isn't set up for the problems that come from it. I have dealt with it the best I can and I am embarrassed for myself to no end.

But that's where the problem lies. They purposely held my medications long before I came back to work. Just for the sole sake of making me suffer. I was assigned a hospital appointed case worker a couple of months before I left to cone to work due to various reasons. The biggest were the forcing me to miss my Dr appointments on purpose, and the physical violence that encompassed the relationship, and the withholding certain medications that I absolutely needed because they are medically necessary to be able to properly live.

Now I didn't ask for a caseworker. That's social services for adults. Basically how you hear about people taking children from families due to neglect and abuse, just for adults. I have been trying my best to avoid this decision; of having to give up my career, live in group housing for invalids, apply for social security disability, and be assigned a nurse to care for me 24/7. But, I personally don't see myself as that bad off. I just need to be able to get back to my home state, pick up my medications, be able to get a new place, and to avoid any and all contact with the other half.

That's the part that scares me. The other half. There's alot of vindictive behavior and violent games that have made it to where I have been staying away. At first I was forced to stay away by their violent actions and the infidelity. Now because of the divorce, there's a restraining order against me, which is perfectly fine with me. But since it was filed, I have kept to myself. No contact. I have received several dozen texts, emails, messages, calls and so forth. I have avoided them all. I have multiple times been told of the relationships between them and others and like I've said before to all who tell me including when she has told me about the things done behind my back and closed doors. I don't want to hear it nor do I want to know about it. Her texts since I've been back to work these months have gone from hatred to desperation to cruelty to lies and back to hatred. I don't wish anything but love, happiness and joy and success in their life. I just wanted to let it be what it is and move past and heal. But today there has been a very backwards cold vindication to everything from their end by attempting to get me fired due to me filing a couple of forms with the courts due to the threats and harrassing messages and that it is affecting my job. But I think, for the benefit of the universe, I shall be giving it all up and just wander off into the sunset and let my life be in nothing but the Lord's hands.

Many blessings to you all. Many thanks for your kind words and encouragement. This crazy wolf is going to run one last load. DJD

It's been a few years since I visited my brother in Dayton, Ohio.
The last time was for the funeral of his wife, about 4 years ago.
I was running out of excuses and got on a plane and made the trip. I got to see nieces, nephews and their kids. Today it was happy times for all of us.
We left hot humid weather in South Florida and the first day here was highs in the 80's with low humidity. Tonight it's 67 which would be considered winter in my hometown.

I'm here for the weekend and have a list of 'things to do, places to go and people to see' that includes the aircraft museum with it's iMAX theater and 3D movies.

I just got the news my extended family in a land far, far away had their first born today. Sadly, we cannot travel to be there for the event.

My family used to buy Lavoris mouthwash when I was a kid. I thought the company went out of business as I haven't seen the product in a generation. I went to the dollar store (where things are $1.25 now) and was surprised to see they still sell this nostalgia product.
I brought home a bottle!
It's cinnamon flavor with a bright red color. Wow... a blast from the past.

When I was 23 I had reached the point where I was staring down in the abyss, and I saw that what I was becoming was my dad.
( !!! ).
I was given a book to read by a "friend", (Not that I Understood the concept of friendship at the time). That book helped me find the right road, (If indeed there is such a thing).
The book was called, " Adult Children Of Alcoholics and Other Dysfunctional Family's - by Janet G. Woititz ", and it was all about me.
It described in detail the behavior of my family and myself, the roles we took on or were given, and more importantly how to make the change to a healthier way of life .
Looking back I honestly think it was then that I finally realised I was not alone,( There are a lot of people out there who've been f*cked over by their own nearest and dearest), and there no such thing as "Normal" behavior.

To cut a long story just a bit short I Changed, (As stated elsewhere "An Easy thing to say But a hard Thing to do").
I no longer have any regrets about my past, no "what if's" or "maybe's" haunt me, ( "What if's" and "Maybe's "Could teach ghosts about haunting)
I have learnt a few true lesson in life, on how to cope when shit happens.
These are:
it's nothing personal.
Do your best to deal with the repercussions
Try to put it behind you as best you can
Move on with your life
and It's not your fault.

At age 25 I came down to Plymouth for aweekend to see a friend, here I met the lady who was to become my wife and never left,
She already had twin boys (6years old),( now in their 30's), A few years later we had a daughter, (now 21 who still lives at home and is doing a degree course at the Art college here in Plymouth).
As I have mentioned on my profile my wife became so seriously ill that I had to stop doing paid work and become her full time carer,
I kept my self busy by getting involved in my daughters primary school, ( I was Chairman of the P.T.A and a parent Governor),
I also did some volunteer work with the red cross
We had our problems as everybody does but I was happy with my life and the way it was going

My wife died almost 7 years ago now of an unrelated cancer, that came totally out of the blue.It was a bit like being hit by a train even though was no sign of the rails it ran on.

I grieved, I got better, and now am looking for someone to share the rest of my life with.

Now you may be wondering "Why the f*ck has he told me all this? I hardly know him"
Well it's my life. and maybe someone who reads this will take some comfort from the main message in it. "YOU ARE NOT ALONE"
Add to that,
I have nothing to hide and am serious in my intent. So lets just call it, (almost), full disclosure, On the grounds that if someone who reads this ends up being the one I am looking for
it's better they know what kind of lunatic they may be getting involved with.

But as I have said on my profile .......
"It's not that I don't Have emotional luggage, It's more of I have laundered it Ironed and folded it, And put it in the third draw down next to the one labelled Shirts!"

I left a note on his dresser
And my old wedding ring
With these few goodbye words
How can I sing
Goodbye old sleepy head
I am packing you in like I said
Take care of everything
I am leaving my wedding ring
Dont look for me
I will get ahead
Remember darling
Dont smoke in bed.


Two weeks ago I fond this song and the more I listen to it
is the more I like it.
I am at my dauthers house helping her to make this house reddy for this afternoon House warming party and bbq this evening.

My other dauther wilbe here as well so the family
wilbe togather once more also I,m going to meet new people today

But before all of this we are going to the market in Rotterdam I have not been there for a long time.

Well I wish you all a wood week-end
Walk good everyone..

Good bye everyone...

Abt 3 months I join CS has gave me new experience even though not changing anything in my life.

Next Sunday is my H day.. My wedding day.

Thank you everyone for welcoming me when first time I joint...

Like every creature I came to this world without knowing what was ahead for me, I was fed by others people hands, I was wrapped in some robe or whatever it was, I didn't care for anything, cause everything was awaiting to get me later in life, but that day of the week was, Monday.

When he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him.
Luke 15:20


Last February, John Allen, a British lawyer living in Holland, smiled across the supper table at his wife and three sons, ages eight to fourteen. Someone snapped a picture. They were happy. A family vacation to Indonesia was in the works.


Five months later the five Allens boarded Malaysia Airlines Flight MH17, but somewhere over Ukraine the plane was blown out of the sky. The whole family perished in an instant, along with their fellow passengers.

We can’t comprehend the evil and calamity in the world. Such tragedies deeply upset and depress us, but they also represent a poignant reminder. Take every opportunity to cherish your loved ones. If you’re peeved with a family member, forgive them. If you’ve neglected them, give them a call. If you’ve rebelled against your dad or mom, go home with the humble attitude of a repentant prodigal. If you’ve been tense with your kids, give them an extra hug. If you live far away, work harder to stay in touch. Whatever it takes, take care of your family as well as you can. It’s at the core of God’s plan and provision for the world.

God bless everyone!

My oldest daughter is down from Oregon. She and the family spent the week visiting relatives and stuff. The kids were in Spring break and so was her husband. He is one if the chairs in the Pharmacology Dept. Last night was Dad's turn.

Me and my twins went to visit them and to have some dinner. Her son is quite an athlete and excels in basketball. Gramps (me) used to spend alot of time playing and shooting hoops with him as a young boy. Shooting hoops became our passion so now when he's down shooting hoops is a must! And last night was no exception.

e went to the park and my son took his son along with us and my new grandson got totally excited with the basketball. Hmmmm! It appears there's a new basketball player on the horizon.

I went to a church event today and when I got home my son had bought his son a basketball just big enough for him (He's 1 yr and about 7 months old). I was so happy when I saw my little grandson playing with the basketball trying to dribble it.

As I sat at the computer I heard them dribbling the ball. It made my heart swell with happiness. and I got a few tears in my eyes. You see, when my son was his age he didn't let me hold him and when I trIed to get him interested in sports he would pull away from me. And now here he is. He's close to his son and they were outside dribbling the new basketball.

Dribble ... dribble ... dribble!

A tear came to my eye and a lump gathered in my throat as I remembered how my son shunned me and here he was now with his son. No, I'm not hurt or mad. I'm very happy!