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Changes in levels of civility.....
....corresponding to those in a sense of responsibility. Just was at the ex's, checking her vintage vehicle for an upcoming 600 mile trip to visit her family. We are both the oldest of many siblings, and with time parents are leaving us, so we were named estate executors/principal trustees. Sort of an old school decision on parents' part.
So very old school, that in both families, through hard work, they were able to acquire some rental property, to help with retirement, and to pass on to the kids. Some might say white privilege, as well, until they take a look at the realities of large working class families. Neither of us, both health care professionals, who have been in the roughest clinical trenches, the military and so on, could have done the same. Digressing once more.
Even without the family curse of the drink, there tends to be a fair amount of dysfunction in some such nuclear families. And in our honored administrative tasks, we're seeing our share.
Years ago, when many deals were sealed with a handshake, and renters were often friends, and even family, a damage deposit, first and last prepaid month's rent, and a lease, were often the exception in such circumstances. To make this short, in spite of free or low rent, every thoughtless act as tenants seems to come up. Arrears on rent, lots of damage, unannounced midnight moves and leaving things still there, drug sales in the apartment, police visits for same, and much more.
I know more modern and woke landlords are evolving with the sad changes in the times. But all the shenanigans bring anxiety and tears to the 93 YO one remaining great granny parent, Yet no one seems to want to change old ways.
Fairness in helping out is appropriate. But being mindful of the need to let go a little, and to realize our limits, sometimes have their places.
So very old school, that in both families, through hard work, they were able to acquire some rental property, to help with retirement, and to pass on to the kids. Some might say white privilege, as well, until they take a look at the realities of large working class families. Neither of us, both health care professionals, who have been in the roughest clinical trenches, the military and so on, could have done the same. Digressing once more.
Even without the family curse of the drink, there tends to be a fair amount of dysfunction in some such nuclear families. And in our honored administrative tasks, we're seeing our share.
Years ago, when many deals were sealed with a handshake, and renters were often friends, and even family, a damage deposit, first and last prepaid month's rent, and a lease, were often the exception in such circumstances. To make this short, in spite of free or low rent, every thoughtless act as tenants seems to come up. Arrears on rent, lots of damage, unannounced midnight moves and leaving things still there, drug sales in the apartment, police visits for same, and much more.
I know more modern and woke landlords are evolving with the sad changes in the times. But all the shenanigans bring anxiety and tears to the 93 YO one remaining great granny parent, Yet no one seems to want to change old ways.
Fairness in helping out is appropriate. But being mindful of the need to let go a little, and to realize our limits, sometimes have their places.
It's Never Too Late
Have you thought of what would it be if
you were the same age when you were so active in everything?
You are in a stage where you want to bring back the real you to life. You might have had a tough time till now and coping up with it would have been difficult but there is always a way to get out of it if you are willing.
Focus on the brighter aspects of life, Keep yourself engaged. Meet new people, spend time with friends and family, focus on accomplishing career growth and most importantly give yourself time everyday and talk to yourself, positive talks, The way you talk to yourself can make a huge difference.
This can help you
you were the same age when you were so active in everything?
You are in a stage where you want to bring back the real you to life. You might have had a tough time till now and coping up with it would have been difficult but there is always a way to get out of it if you are willing.
Focus on the brighter aspects of life, Keep yourself engaged. Meet new people, spend time with friends and family, focus on accomplishing career growth and most importantly give yourself time everyday and talk to yourself, positive talks, The way you talk to yourself can make a huge difference.
This can help you
Morning Wake & Feel Good
Many times I've written about how my body like to wake up oh it can be anywhere after midnight and it doesn't matter if I fall asleep early or late. The sleeping hours were more of a challenge when I used to have to drive to an office but being semi retired not so much.
Although I'm getting quite used to this new life style I don't often blog about the many things that just pickle me tink first thing in the morning while the rest of the world on this side of the planet snores but trust me, sometimes I feel so damn happy over something little I just want to shout it out. Not many people like a morning person so I refrain, my brother especially get annoyed if I wake him when excited. In his mind I'm like one of my tiny dogs all excited running around stuck in third gear all dressup with no where to go.
So this morning's trigger was on FB. One of my co-worker who I only got to work a few months with stole my heart with his story of adopting two siblings from our state, Florida's child welfare division. He started the process long before I met him. His wife works with disabled children and for whatever reason they wanted to adopt and were most likely going to adopt a child with challenges. When we worked side by side I knew he put in for a kid or two but for whatever reasons the adoptions did not go through.
Finally (after I moved away from the job) two small siblings became available with a horrible past from a drug infested Mom's life style. After the trial runs he got that little boy and girl. The state put him through hell to qualify but he has to pay nothing for this adoption nor will he have to pay their medical and the kids get a state college free education if they want, those are HUGE perks.
Back to my happy trigger this morning. It's dark, I've done my chores, got a cup of Fall's pumpkin spice coffee and looked at Facebook. Came across Josh's pictures which I hadn't seen in forever and went to his page to see tons of pictures of two children that came to him shy, afraiid with faces of no expression to sooo many faces of giant Chesshire Grins in either family outings, fishing, picnics and so much more along with a thankful tribute from the Mom about how happy their lives have changed. I swear the little boy is starting to look like his adopted father. The father's grin is so big that is all you see when you look at his face, one big grin.,
It just made me so happy I had to come blog it out of my system before I do my pole dance.
Although I'm getting quite used to this new life style I don't often blog about the many things that just pickle me tink first thing in the morning while the rest of the world on this side of the planet snores but trust me, sometimes I feel so damn happy over something little I just want to shout it out. Not many people like a morning person so I refrain, my brother especially get annoyed if I wake him when excited. In his mind I'm like one of my tiny dogs all excited running around stuck in third gear all dressup with no where to go.
So this morning's trigger was on FB. One of my co-worker who I only got to work a few months with stole my heart with his story of adopting two siblings from our state, Florida's child welfare division. He started the process long before I met him. His wife works with disabled children and for whatever reason they wanted to adopt and were most likely going to adopt a child with challenges. When we worked side by side I knew he put in for a kid or two but for whatever reasons the adoptions did not go through.
Finally (after I moved away from the job) two small siblings became available with a horrible past from a drug infested Mom's life style. After the trial runs he got that little boy and girl. The state put him through hell to qualify but he has to pay nothing for this adoption nor will he have to pay their medical and the kids get a state college free education if they want, those are HUGE perks.
Back to my happy trigger this morning. It's dark, I've done my chores, got a cup of Fall's pumpkin spice coffee and looked at Facebook. Came across Josh's pictures which I hadn't seen in forever and went to his page to see tons of pictures of two children that came to him shy, afraiid with faces of no expression to sooo many faces of giant Chesshire Grins in either family outings, fishing, picnics and so much more along with a thankful tribute from the Mom about how happy their lives have changed. I swear the little boy is starting to look like his adopted father. The father's grin is so big that is all you see when you look at his face, one big grin.,
It just made me so happy I had to come blog it out of my system before I do my pole dance.
A weekend of laughs and lots of drinking.
I went to a party this last weekend. My cousin's eldest daughter turned 18, so my brother, sister, mother and I had to drive from just south of Copenhagen to the southern part of Denmark. The border with Germany was a 20 minute drive away from where we were having the party.
Anyway, we set off at 11 am, and we arrived at around 2 pm. We then got settled in in our accommodation, and then we drove to the party site. A huge party tent was standing there, music was blaring out of it, and a lot of food was being brought in. When I say a lot, I really mean a LOT. Think Roman times food feasts. That's the level of food they presented. We are talking steaks, sausages, bread, a LOT of greens, dressings, cheese, fruit and whatnot. It was insane! The food was amazing! I have never eaten as much as I did then. Holy moly it was good! On top of that, there were unlimited items to drink, including soda, beer and wine.
Once the food was over, the alcohol and snacks hit the table,the music went up, and people went mad on drinking, dancing and just having fun. I got to talking with a guy and his wife. The wife was a cousin of the birthday girls mother, and her husband was SO much fun! They were on their honeymoon in Scotland, so we bonded over just how amazing Scotland is.
At one point, we were presented something called a "kinder surprise shot". Oh my that was good! But it's also extremely dangerous! The ingredients are 1 part Liquor 43, 3 parts chocolate milk and one part whipped cream. Mix it well, and serve over ice. When I get paid again, I am buying a bottle of Liquor 43, and then I am definitely making those again! Wow they were good.
As the evening went on, people got drunker and drunker. At one point, they played a song called "Hip hurra det' min fødselsdag", which translates "Hip hurray it's my birthday". During that song, a well known, and very dangerous, tradition played out. The birthday person gets a tray with 18 shots, which can be with anything from water to absinthe. People then stand in a circle, cheering on while the birthday guy/girl downs the shots as fast as possible. 49 seconds was all it took for this 18 year old girl to down them. 49... That is just insane. What is more insane, is that her friends said "I have seen her do it faster than that". Her sister turned 16 on the same day, that the 18th birthday party was held, so she got a tray of 16 shots, which she downed in.. I think it was about a minute. I swear, those people are on another level when it comes to drinking. But they are great fun to hang out with and party with.
The drive home was long and not much happened.. Well, apart from a ton of rain and four Corvettes blasting by us at full thunder. THAT was awesome!
In two years time, we are gonna go to another 18th birthday. I need to find the perfect gift!
Oh, also.. I went to a job interview today. It went well. I will know more during the week.
Anyway, we set off at 11 am, and we arrived at around 2 pm. We then got settled in in our accommodation, and then we drove to the party site. A huge party tent was standing there, music was blaring out of it, and a lot of food was being brought in. When I say a lot, I really mean a LOT. Think Roman times food feasts. That's the level of food they presented. We are talking steaks, sausages, bread, a LOT of greens, dressings, cheese, fruit and whatnot. It was insane! The food was amazing! I have never eaten as much as I did then. Holy moly it was good! On top of that, there were unlimited items to drink, including soda, beer and wine.
Once the food was over, the alcohol and snacks hit the table,the music went up, and people went mad on drinking, dancing and just having fun. I got to talking with a guy and his wife. The wife was a cousin of the birthday girls mother, and her husband was SO much fun! They were on their honeymoon in Scotland, so we bonded over just how amazing Scotland is.
At one point, we were presented something called a "kinder surprise shot". Oh my that was good! But it's also extremely dangerous! The ingredients are 1 part Liquor 43, 3 parts chocolate milk and one part whipped cream. Mix it well, and serve over ice. When I get paid again, I am buying a bottle of Liquor 43, and then I am definitely making those again! Wow they were good.
As the evening went on, people got drunker and drunker. At one point, they played a song called "Hip hurra det' min fødselsdag", which translates "Hip hurray it's my birthday". During that song, a well known, and very dangerous, tradition played out. The birthday person gets a tray with 18 shots, which can be with anything from water to absinthe. People then stand in a circle, cheering on while the birthday guy/girl downs the shots as fast as possible. 49 seconds was all it took for this 18 year old girl to down them. 49... That is just insane. What is more insane, is that her friends said "I have seen her do it faster than that". Her sister turned 16 on the same day, that the 18th birthday party was held, so she got a tray of 16 shots, which she downed in.. I think it was about a minute. I swear, those people are on another level when it comes to drinking. But they are great fun to hang out with and party with.
The drive home was long and not much happened.. Well, apart from a ton of rain and four Corvettes blasting by us at full thunder. THAT was awesome!
In two years time, we are gonna go to another 18th birthday. I need to find the perfect gift!
Oh, also.. I went to a job interview today. It went well. I will know more during the week.
The Joys Of Having A Family You can Always Lean On
Just had a fun exhausting night with my sister-in-laws and kids. This evening is the last day of Ramadan and I didn't get to share "iftar" with them due to busy work schedule so I decided to invite everyone to have Iftar at my place. Lots of cooking and baking...foods turned out great 6 adults and 7 teenagers including my ex=husband and his wife came over. Luckily I was done with all the cooking and baking when they arrived. Haven't seen them for some time and all were very happy to come see me. I'm the favorite aunt for all the kids so we had lots of fun dancing in between desserts
Every kid had a turn dancing with me, I'm exhausted! I'm pretty close to my in-laws and I'm always part of the family even after the divorce, they are always there for me whenever I need help and I'm so happy to keep it that way
Family members who stand by each other are rare to find. I'm lucky to have them and will always treasure them
I hope you're all having a fun weekend too
and HAPPY EID to all those who celebrate
Every kid had a turn dancing with me, I'm exhausted! I'm pretty close to my in-laws and I'm always part of the family even after the divorce, they are always there for me whenever I need help and I'm so happy to keep it that way Family members who stand by each other are rare to find. I'm lucky to have them and will always treasure them
I hope you're all having a fun weekend too
and HAPPY EID to all those who celebrate
The first day of our Rooster Near Year
Time flies fast, the Money Year gave the place to the Rooster Year at last. People have family reunion,send good wishes to each other... but I have no one to visit and no one visits me this year, family life seems go away from me ... 
I remember once my Dad said; a family means lots of people gethered around. I am no lucky have a big family... I am not afraid of living alone, just felt a little bit strange sometimes about myself ,my life... Now I try to pick up my old hobbies again as I have much more free time and moreover, my cat is staying with me, I appreciated he appeared in my life as he is not the illusory but the real one.
Here is some of his latest life photos.
I made this cross stitch special for our Rooster New Year .
Happy Rooster Year !
I remember once my Dad said; a family means lots of people gethered around. I am no lucky have a big family... I am not afraid of living alone, just felt a little bit strange sometimes about myself ,my life... Now I try to pick up my old hobbies again as I have much more free time and moreover, my cat is staying with me, I appreciated he appeared in my life as he is not the illusory but the real one.
Here is some of his latest life photos.
I made this cross stitch special for our Rooster New Year .
Happy Rooster Year !
The rise of alpha Dads
My dad kept giving me love pats. Love pats are soft punches of encouragement that are administered on the knee, shoulder and arm.
Family.....
Important for many, especially if they are grounded and fun. But many of us have few close family. You see all sorts of preferences for characteristics here in searching for a partner. But how about their having a large, loving, fun, grounded, supportive family,..... perhaps to share with some who have few or none? A form of adoption? It does happen. Aa.
It Was "Cali" Time Last Week!
I decided last week to visit my kids and grandkids in California last week.
I took Amtrak and then the Metro Line and landed in Ontario. CA where my son lives. His beautiful wife and the G-kids greeted me so wonderfully I was pushed to extreme happiness because of this love!
Needless to say, his dog just couldn't get enough of me nor the cat. These 2 pets are the best. When I woke up after overnight they were with me in my bed. All snuggled up like 3 pupa's in a cocoon!!
I got re-acquainted with my new G-son, Gabe. He knew I was a stranger and he looked me over for awhile. But in a short time we were pals. His older brother, Leo, was all over me too. They also love their Mom and Dad to the max. When one of them leaves the house to go shopping you should see the excitement in the kids eyes when they walk through the door. Heck the dog and the cat too. Leo and the pets run to the Mom or Dad and Gabe crawls to them as fast as he can.
I know I have mentioned this before but my siblings were a pain in the neck. But God rewarded me with a great family. And my son is just 1/3 of it.
During the week I went to stay with my sisters. They are getting very old now and are not really able to take care of themselves properly. I have offered to live with them, and even pay rent, but they refuse my help. I can't figure my siblings out. But simply put they have never been loving towards me. I have long ago accepted this but I know they need to be watched. But because of their attitude towards me it's not as carefully as it should be. Yes, they are obstinate!
The week also meant a visit with my niece, Cecelia. She is a darling and a real delight. She has the manners and attitude of a saint. We spent the day together and we also went for our favorite pasttime meal. A cheeseburger together. She has never been accepted by my siblings because she in not a blood relative. She was adopted by my late brother, a man she proudly called and loved as her Dad!
The weekend was then spent with my daughter and pal, Carly. She is the twin sister of my son and we have a great relationship. Quite simply, we love to hang. She drove me back to Arizona and we spent the weekend at the Casino where I work. She "fell in love" with the guitar player then she left to go home.
I am so proud of my family. They have all done well and they deserve everything they have.
Yes, I love my family very much!
I took Amtrak and then the Metro Line and landed in Ontario. CA where my son lives. His beautiful wife and the G-kids greeted me so wonderfully I was pushed to extreme happiness because of this love!
Needless to say, his dog just couldn't get enough of me nor the cat. These 2 pets are the best. When I woke up after overnight they were with me in my bed. All snuggled up like 3 pupa's in a cocoon!!
I got re-acquainted with my new G-son, Gabe. He knew I was a stranger and he looked me over for awhile. But in a short time we were pals. His older brother, Leo, was all over me too. They also love their Mom and Dad to the max. When one of them leaves the house to go shopping you should see the excitement in the kids eyes when they walk through the door. Heck the dog and the cat too. Leo and the pets run to the Mom or Dad and Gabe crawls to them as fast as he can.
I know I have mentioned this before but my siblings were a pain in the neck. But God rewarded me with a great family. And my son is just 1/3 of it.
During the week I went to stay with my sisters. They are getting very old now and are not really able to take care of themselves properly. I have offered to live with them, and even pay rent, but they refuse my help. I can't figure my siblings out. But simply put they have never been loving towards me. I have long ago accepted this but I know they need to be watched. But because of their attitude towards me it's not as carefully as it should be. Yes, they are obstinate!
The week also meant a visit with my niece, Cecelia. She is a darling and a real delight. She has the manners and attitude of a saint. We spent the day together and we also went for our favorite pasttime meal. A cheeseburger together. She has never been accepted by my siblings because she in not a blood relative. She was adopted by my late brother, a man she proudly called and loved as her Dad!
The weekend was then spent with my daughter and pal, Carly. She is the twin sister of my son and we have a great relationship. Quite simply, we love to hang. She drove me back to Arizona and we spent the weekend at the Casino where I work. She "fell in love" with the guitar player then she left to go home.
I am so proud of my family. They have all done well and they deserve everything they have.
Yes, I love my family very much!
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