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How nice it is to be free.
No restrictions.
Well as you may already know, there were so many of us in CS jail in the last week or so. All for different reasons but bottom line is that on my note it said: "This site is free for those who respect the rules", or something in that regard.
Most of you probably has never been banned or in jail, so let me tell you how I felt when I got banned from posting, not that most of you care, but perhaps, if you are like me, seeking constantly to improve ourselves, then that was a very good lesson. I hope I learn enough that I wouldn't be banned again.
I knew there are so many on here that don't share my position on matters that affect my life, but the reality of it is, there will always be those that don't like me, insult, and or dislike, however, this site does provide this very nice section to express our different opinions, different experiences, belief and values and I will strive to be better always. Never losing our cool is the bottom line. Be diplomatic and debate with respect. I know I fell off the wagon so many times, but I will try to be very civil and diplomatic in all our discussions.
Most of all, I want to express my gratefulness on this site for having provided me not only once but twice in finding a very true love and friends, like you.
Thanks for all your reads and comments (if any).
I have missed you all.
Note: I want to thank all those who wrote me everyday and kept in touch with me while in Jail. So many of you have made me feel like I never left. You all know who you are. Thanks.. 
No restrictions. Well as you may already know, there were so many of us in CS jail in the last week or so. All for different reasons but bottom line is that on my note it said: "This site is free for those who respect the rules", or something in that regard.
Most of you probably has never been banned or in jail, so let me tell you how I felt when I got banned from posting, not that most of you care, but perhaps, if you are like me, seeking constantly to improve ourselves, then that was a very good lesson. I hope I learn enough that I wouldn't be banned again.
I knew there are so many on here that don't share my position on matters that affect my life, but the reality of it is, there will always be those that don't like me, insult, and or dislike, however, this site does provide this very nice section to express our different opinions, different experiences, belief and values and I will strive to be better always. Never losing our cool is the bottom line. Be diplomatic and debate with respect. I know I fell off the wagon so many times, but I will try to be very civil and diplomatic in all our discussions.
Most of all, I want to express my gratefulness on this site for having provided me not only once but twice in finding a very true love and friends, like you.
Thanks for all your reads and comments (if any).
I have missed you all.
Note: I want to thank all those who wrote me everyday and kept in touch with me while in Jail. So many of you have made me feel like I never left. You all know who you are. Thanks..
16 Things You Should Say Goodbye To In 2016
A colleague shared this with me and I am passing it on!
16 Things You Should Say Goodbye To In 2016 by Rania Naim
1. Say goodbye to the voices in your head that tell you that you are incapable of doing something or being someone. They lie a lot, and you should know that by now.
2. Say goodbye to the need for validation. We all need validation from time to time, but you also don’t have to constantly pursue it. As long as you see your utmost potential or how far you’ve come, you don’t need to seek after anyone to affirm that for you.
3. Say goodbye to all the moments you were not so proud of; forget them and remember that you are a human being who is still learning how to live.
4. Say goodbye to the promises you didn’t keep, know that timing is everything, and good things take time.
5. Say goodbye to the self-doubt and the negativity last year brought. It might not be the happy ending you wanted, but it could possibly be the happy beginning you didn’t see coming.
6. Say goodbye to the times you cried and the times you were in so much pain, and give yourself a pat on the back for getting through yet another obstacle. Sooner or later, you will get to the finish line.
7. Say goodbye to the people who don’t want anything to do with you; they are not meant to be in your life for one reason or another. Focus on the ones who do and the ones who care.
8. Say goodbye to the memory you keep replaying in your head, whether good or bad, the one that is keeping you up at night wondering where it went and whether or not it will happen again. You rewinded them and paused them way too many times; now it is time to find something else to watch.
9. Say goodbye to the addiction you had for your phone, or your laptop, or social media, or anything you were voraciously obsessed with. Spend more time with nature, and teach yourself that too much of anything will eventually suffocate you.
10. Say goodbye to the expectations you had for yourself that by now you should have done this or done that. Life can be messy, and the last thing you need is getting attached to its chaos.
11. Say goodbye to all the words people told you about yourself, the ones that made you love yourself a little less. Think of how little these people know about you and your story or why you are the way you are. Think of how some people like to belittle others to feel good about themselves, and while you are it, say goodbye to these people.
12. Say goodbye to the times you were immature, or out of line, or had no common sense. Remember that these are the moments that remind you that you are not perfect and that you are a work in progress. Take it as a humbling experience and move on.
13. Say goodbye to the times you missed someone who didn’t miss you back. Eventually you will not miss them anymore, and you will learn that other people miss you more than you know.
14. Say goodbye to the trip you didn’t take, or the city you never went to, or the wedding you missed, or the opportunities that passed you by. Not everything will go as planned and you don’t have to carry the guilt with you everywhere you go. Let that be a reminder that no matter how hard we try, we will not always be in control.
15. Say goodbye to the all the flaws you keep pointing out in the mirror and the times you really didn’t like who you were looking at. Buy a new mirror if you have to, but more importantly, start liking who you see and change the way you look at yourself.
16. Finally, say goodbye to the thought that next year will be the same and that nothing will ever change, and start saying hello to all the wonderful possibilities, dreams, and opportunities that are waiting to manifest themselves to you.
Have a beautiful day/night wherever you are!
16 Things You Should Say Goodbye To In 2016 by Rania Naim
1. Say goodbye to the voices in your head that tell you that you are incapable of doing something or being someone. They lie a lot, and you should know that by now.
2. Say goodbye to the need for validation. We all need validation from time to time, but you also don’t have to constantly pursue it. As long as you see your utmost potential or how far you’ve come, you don’t need to seek after anyone to affirm that for you.
3. Say goodbye to all the moments you were not so proud of; forget them and remember that you are a human being who is still learning how to live.
4. Say goodbye to the promises you didn’t keep, know that timing is everything, and good things take time.
5. Say goodbye to the self-doubt and the negativity last year brought. It might not be the happy ending you wanted, but it could possibly be the happy beginning you didn’t see coming.
6. Say goodbye to the times you cried and the times you were in so much pain, and give yourself a pat on the back for getting through yet another obstacle. Sooner or later, you will get to the finish line.
7. Say goodbye to the people who don’t want anything to do with you; they are not meant to be in your life for one reason or another. Focus on the ones who do and the ones who care.
8. Say goodbye to the memory you keep replaying in your head, whether good or bad, the one that is keeping you up at night wondering where it went and whether or not it will happen again. You rewinded them and paused them way too many times; now it is time to find something else to watch.
9. Say goodbye to the addiction you had for your phone, or your laptop, or social media, or anything you were voraciously obsessed with. Spend more time with nature, and teach yourself that too much of anything will eventually suffocate you.
10. Say goodbye to the expectations you had for yourself that by now you should have done this or done that. Life can be messy, and the last thing you need is getting attached to its chaos.
11. Say goodbye to all the words people told you about yourself, the ones that made you love yourself a little less. Think of how little these people know about you and your story or why you are the way you are. Think of how some people like to belittle others to feel good about themselves, and while you are it, say goodbye to these people.
12. Say goodbye to the times you were immature, or out of line, or had no common sense. Remember that these are the moments that remind you that you are not perfect and that you are a work in progress. Take it as a humbling experience and move on.
13. Say goodbye to the times you missed someone who didn’t miss you back. Eventually you will not miss them anymore, and you will learn that other people miss you more than you know.
14. Say goodbye to the trip you didn’t take, or the city you never went to, or the wedding you missed, or the opportunities that passed you by. Not everything will go as planned and you don’t have to carry the guilt with you everywhere you go. Let that be a reminder that no matter how hard we try, we will not always be in control.
15. Say goodbye to the all the flaws you keep pointing out in the mirror and the times you really didn’t like who you were looking at. Buy a new mirror if you have to, but more importantly, start liking who you see and change the way you look at yourself.
16. Finally, say goodbye to the thought that next year will be the same and that nothing will ever change, and start saying hello to all the wonderful possibilities, dreams, and opportunities that are waiting to manifest themselves to you.
Have a beautiful day/night wherever you are!
Good Relationships
In order to create good relationships - with your mind, think about what you have to learn from others; with your eyes, look into good qualities of others; with your words, recognise, value and appreciate their accomplishments; with your actions, cooperate and do something for others.
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Happiness..............
One must remember that most people on our planet today have very little freedom – Every society in our world is very different and each attempts to find meaning and happiness in a completely unique way. .. ..."Happiness is not something ready made..... It comes from your own actions." -- Dalai Lama. .. .. Happiness is one of the many emotions humans experience. It may perhaps be the most important feeling a person can have and it is the one feeling everyone strives to achieve, yet strangely, for the most part, people seem to only get a glimpse of it. Pleasurable satisfaction, a state of well-being and contentment are the more outstanding elements of happiness. .. ... true happiness is found in the emotional connections established between people. .. ,... the length of one’s life, the presence of love, and the amount one’s progress or success throughout their lifetime. ... ... “Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” -- Denis Waitley. .. seeking only pleasure cause many problems on both self and others. Therefore, I think that striving for authentic happiness is the best way to solve problems that humans cause by seeking pleasure and make the better world where many people can become happy .... ,,.... ,,,.... the concept of happiness is complex and hard to measure, many people believe that happiness is mysterious, elusive, and totally out of their control. This is not true. Actually, happiness is a choice. Each person can decide whether to be happy or not. ,,... ..."Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." -- Abraham Lincoln....
How to Be Grateful?
Do you say a prayer of gratefulness daily? Well, I don’t. I was facing a crossroad in my life recently. I decided not to do what I used to do career wise. But due to the habitual mode of having a regular job, I accepted a position not in alignment with what I want to do. What I want to do is also a part of what I did in my last job. To cut the story short I just did not want to deal with certain aspects of my previous full time employment anymore.
It was only after accepting the offer that I started to look deeply into myself. I read and also spent time in meditation. While being guided through a particular meditation online, asking me to think of all the times I have been grateful, it daunted on me that I wasn’t grateful most of my life. The truth is, the universe has always been kind to me, handing me what I want all the time. Even the things I did not want was given because I have not consciously looked inside myself before.
After looking deeply into what I want, rather than just take what comes my way without paying attention to my mind, I decided I will pay as much attention to my thoughts as possible made me feel a lot better. The offer was also a gift from the universe because in my state of confusion then, I did want a job, but I wasn’t paying attention to what I really want.
A friend gave me the advise this morning. She said her nephew who is only 4 years old, never feels guilt telling someone else he does not want something anymore. Whereas I do – most of my life. I do not like to disappoint people. That’s the nice way of saying it. Rather, I have been conditioned to always seek approval because I did not receive much as a child.
Thanks to my friend, I looked deeply into my behaviour pattern that drives me towards unhappiness. Now, I am conscious I can live without the guilt of wanting anyone’s approval again. It is freeing for the mind.
A free mind is a mind that is able to break from its usual habits. The ability to say ‘NO’ to your own mind when it is driven to do the same thing over and over again that causes you discomfort is liberating.
It is apt that I was beside a child on my way home in the train when she said, “I see cars, I see trees.” It was as what my friend had said. The child was just pointing out to her mother what she sees, without interpreting it and adding unnecessary layers like adults do.
When you cause upset to anyone it may feel uncomfortable at the moment, but it does not have to carry any guilt or burden at all.
Share your views of what you are actually seeing in your mind. We see, but we seldom do SEE it like a child. Be aware of your mind and be grateful because the universe always gives you what you want, even fear.
It was only after accepting the offer that I started to look deeply into myself. I read and also spent time in meditation. While being guided through a particular meditation online, asking me to think of all the times I have been grateful, it daunted on me that I wasn’t grateful most of my life. The truth is, the universe has always been kind to me, handing me what I want all the time. Even the things I did not want was given because I have not consciously looked inside myself before.
After looking deeply into what I want, rather than just take what comes my way without paying attention to my mind, I decided I will pay as much attention to my thoughts as possible made me feel a lot better. The offer was also a gift from the universe because in my state of confusion then, I did want a job, but I wasn’t paying attention to what I really want.
A friend gave me the advise this morning. She said her nephew who is only 4 years old, never feels guilt telling someone else he does not want something anymore. Whereas I do – most of my life. I do not like to disappoint people. That’s the nice way of saying it. Rather, I have been conditioned to always seek approval because I did not receive much as a child.
Thanks to my friend, I looked deeply into my behaviour pattern that drives me towards unhappiness. Now, I am conscious I can live without the guilt of wanting anyone’s approval again. It is freeing for the mind.
A free mind is a mind that is able to break from its usual habits. The ability to say ‘NO’ to your own mind when it is driven to do the same thing over and over again that causes you discomfort is liberating.
It is apt that I was beside a child on my way home in the train when she said, “I see cars, I see trees.” It was as what my friend had said. The child was just pointing out to her mother what she sees, without interpreting it and adding unnecessary layers like adults do.
When you cause upset to anyone it may feel uncomfortable at the moment, but it does not have to carry any guilt or burden at all.
Share your views of what you are actually seeing in your mind. We see, but we seldom do SEE it like a child. Be aware of your mind and be grateful because the universe always gives you what you want, even fear.
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Best way to be fit is losing weight, what do you t
We all want to be healthy physically and mentally.
In my lifestyle I walk everyday and do aerobic exercise weekly.
I wonder what results have people obtained in their life styles to be in shape.
Please comment your experiences, how much weight you have lost or not.
I also do stretching and weight exercises once in a while.
My metabolism is very slow and weight loss is very difficult. I am average and feel great but sometimes would like to get into those old jeans I used to wear.
Diet is another factor so eating healthy is important too.
In my lifestyle I walk everyday and do aerobic exercise weekly.
I wonder what results have people obtained in their life styles to be in shape.
Please comment your experiences, how much weight you have lost or not.
I also do stretching and weight exercises once in a while.
My metabolism is very slow and weight loss is very difficult. I am average and feel great but sometimes would like to get into those old jeans I used to wear.
Diet is another factor so eating healthy is important too.
Please Rate my Profile.....
Ok I have been on here for a while now. I know I'm not going to meet someone right away. But I have hit a wall.
I see that people have read my profile - BUT that is it - I get nothing. So Please Someone - Anyone check out my Profile and tell me truthfully ( I can take it ) what is wrong with me???
I see that people have read my profile - BUT that is it - I get nothing. So Please Someone - Anyone check out my Profile and tell me truthfully ( I can take it ) what is wrong with me???
Does patience pays off..
Do you ever experience one of those times where you feel like people around you just wants to take advantage of you? that they only try to find you when they want something from you?
I dont like to make a big deal out of things anymore, i only react to things with a simple yes or a simple no, but i try keep it polite.
After all there are things in this life we can truly have by sharing them
I try to be reasonable with my own feelings, i think when we are being positive we are emotionally smarter and it kindda hurt less.
I think that, its nice to be nice
But it takes a lot of patience and also courage just to live a life nowadays,and that i know for sure.
its how Eminem would say it, dont feel the pain, just carry on , smile, rejoice.
Maybe he gone through shit to get where hes at right now.
I dont like to make a big deal out of things anymore, i only react to things with a simple yes or a simple no, but i try keep it polite.
After all there are things in this life we can truly have by sharing them
I try to be reasonable with my own feelings, i think when we are being positive we are emotionally smarter and it kindda hurt less.
I think that, its nice to be nice
But it takes a lot of patience and also courage just to live a life nowadays,and that i know for sure.
its how Eminem would say it, dont feel the pain, just carry on , smile, rejoice.
Maybe he gone through shit to get where hes at right now.
Rudeness
Few weeks ago there's this man who messaged me and after a while asked my fb id to chat there. Well because of my privacy settings I asked his fb id instead,so he gave it and I sent him a friend request, he accepted it and we chatted there.
But the next day I became so busy that I couldn't response fast and sometimes also because of our time differences. He messaged me saying I am rude and unfriended me so I apologized. I said sorry and explained why I replied late. He says maybe I am not yet ready for a relationship and all then we said bye in a good way.
After 3 or 4 days we had a chat again and he sent me a friend request again so I accepted it. We chatted only for like 5 mins. or only exchanged 5 messages I think then we moved on. No chat again after my last message to him that he didn't answer. Lol..
Then all of a sudden last two days ago he messaged me here asking if I am ready now to give him time to get to know and be in a relationship. So because I thought he's a nice guy and really sincere I said yes but I told him to be more patience because I can't always response fast as I am not online all the time. And he said yes and asked again for my fb id. And I was like, '' What??? AGAIN???'' Lol I mean all I know is we are already friends there. Yes for the second time actually after the unfriended thing.
So I felt offended and dissapointed to know he unfriended me again for the second time around. I felt bad because as far as I know I didn't do anything bad to him. If he felt ignored it was not intentionally and I apologized and he accepted it so why? WHY HE KEPT ADDING AND UNFRIENDED PEOPLE then call people the ''Rudest person he ever know''. Aww I really felt so bad. I told him in a nice way that I think we're not for each other and that I can't be his fb friend for the third time because I'm offended and dissapointed after he unfriended me twice. And that's it
He said I am the rudest woman he ever know and told me to go hurt other people. Even called me little girl. Haha.. then blocked me..
Okay... done ranting.. So , Am I really rude? :(
But the next day I became so busy that I couldn't response fast and sometimes also because of our time differences. He messaged me saying I am rude and unfriended me so I apologized. I said sorry and explained why I replied late. He says maybe I am not yet ready for a relationship and all then we said bye in a good way.
After 3 or 4 days we had a chat again and he sent me a friend request again so I accepted it. We chatted only for like 5 mins. or only exchanged 5 messages I think then we moved on. No chat again after my last message to him that he didn't answer. Lol..
Then all of a sudden last two days ago he messaged me here asking if I am ready now to give him time to get to know and be in a relationship. So because I thought he's a nice guy and really sincere I said yes but I told him to be more patience because I can't always response fast as I am not online all the time. And he said yes and asked again for my fb id. And I was like, '' What??? AGAIN???'' Lol I mean all I know is we are already friends there. Yes for the second time actually after the unfriended thing.
So I felt offended and dissapointed to know he unfriended me again for the second time around. I felt bad because as far as I know I didn't do anything bad to him. If he felt ignored it was not intentionally and I apologized and he accepted it so why? WHY HE KEPT ADDING AND UNFRIENDED PEOPLE then call people the ''Rudest person he ever know''. Aww I really felt so bad. I told him in a nice way that I think we're not for each other and that I can't be his fb friend for the third time because I'm offended and dissapointed after he unfriended me twice. And that's it
He said I am the rudest woman he ever know and told me to go hurt other people. Even called me little girl. Haha.. then blocked me..
Okay... done ranting.. So , Am I really rude? :(
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