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"Dont chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones that really belong in your life - will come to you and stay"
Will Smith

With all thats happening, the quote above has really helped me "do my own thing".

Happy Weekend to everyone and Prayers for all my Ni-Van friends facing Cyclone PAM.

what a nice and simple life is mine in comparison....

Random Thoughts........"Does Marriage Help You To Grow As A Person?"

Answer:----- The answer is 'yes' and 'no'
Surveying the contemporary marriage scenerio, I can say with authority that by and large, marriage does not help a person to grow as an individual. At least, this is true in an Indian Household. There may be some stray examples here and there of a succesful marriage, where the couple display their talents in a free society, but on the whole, marriages in India have failed to bring happiness and help the individual's growth as a person.

Three important issues are to be in focus here.......MONEY, NATURE & RELATIONSHIP
Money is only artificial happiness, but it seems to work in a marriage. Money is solving about 70% of the problems between the couple. A female donkey is known as a mare; and we have heard the popular quote..."Money Makes The Mare Go Round" Most couples argue, disagree and fight, because of lack of money. House bills being not paid on time, children's school bills being not paid on time,
entertainment not given a top priority are some of the top 'hot' spots where excessive heat gets generated. These get solved instantly by the power of money.
But the couple need no worry. Next in line is NATURE. If you are having a sound head on your shoulders, you have nothing to fear. You can be happy, if you are having a beautiful mind. What is a beautiful mind? Well, a beautiful mind is a mind of abundance, not of money but of thoughts, attitude and a general nature of well being. Such a mind is possible by training yourself to think in a particular way. What's that?

Well, you have to look at the drama in this way. You very well know that you are not a beggar. You might be in any small, medium or large business, or you might be in service earning sufficiently to maintain yourself and your family. Start thinking how much you are 'having' instead of how much you 'do not have'. Make a list with 2 columns. After completing the list, you will mostly observe that a column containing 'have' list is more than the 'have not' list. Suddenly your mind will have refreshing feeling of abundance. If you go on thinking in this way, you will develop an attitude and a nature which seems to fill up the cracks in the troubled marriage. And then, slowly and slowly, you will rub off this nature amongst your family members. Now, you have won half the battle; the other half will be won in due course of time.

Lastly, the Relationship factor is only a by product of Money & Nature. The biggest factor working in a loving relationship is a term callled 'Accepting & Agreeing' This is very difficult as well as very easy. Imagine 2 persons are discussing a simple topic as........."What Looks Good On A Lady: Maxi or Sari.There is needless discusion and nobody wins an argument.
If you consider this type of discussion, it has no ending. But the couple will end upi in a fight of no consequence. The solution lies wherein one of the couple willingly and geniunely with love accepts the viewpoint and says 'Yes' And this is how the relationships develops between the couple. You can do such magic by destroying your ego and accept the other's point of view. If you go on accepting the other's point of view, a time will come when your opposite partner will also start accepting even your 'silly' points. This is the fast track to good relationship. This will also result in each person growing in creativity as an individual. You will be astonished at the amount of 'creative stock' that will be unleashed between the couple. The couple will begin to feel more confident, more loving and a whole lot of understanding will suddenly dawn on the couple. This will bring nothing but more and more happiness in the lives of the couple.
So, it is possible to grow as an individual in a tricky relationship called "MARRIAGe"
Manohar Bhatia.

Friends,
Love is a magic word in the English language. It not only brings happiness, but on a more subtler level, it is a harbiger of comfort and success. The world is in total mess and turmoil. Its a materialistic world of make believe, films, fake sadhus, psyseudo happines and true lies. You bring happines to a person by faking your emotions in such a style that he starts believeing you instantly.This may take time for you to learn; it is by trail and error. You tug at the long rope of {politics} to get there. And all this program is not easy; your fake charm should look real and impresve to your friend, relative, boss or any of your associates. This type of life is not real.

One of the most awesome concept of spirituality is to love anything ___ living or non living unconditionally. Living means human beings, birds, plants, animals; whilst non-living things may mean anything.___ your shoes, your sleeping bed, your cliothes, your items in your house. To-day's times are difficult times for friendships and associations. At the outset, relationships can fly out of the window over the cuckoos head and not to be heard of again. Associations are coming at a premium and friendship is dead and buried, never to surface again. And what is left now? Everything is destroyed, nothing is saved, but you can start the salvage operations. You pick up piece by piece, join together and see what picture you can paint.

On the other hand, there is an excellent {other} way to find contentment, joy, bliss, which are higher virtues than the so called happiness. You are in possession of one of the greatest word in the world called {love}. You can start loving non-living things. Have you thought of loving your pillow on which you put your beautiful head to sleep? Wish it long life to serve you bettter with a great thank you. what about your shoes? Say thank you every time you slip your feet into them. Shoes are fantastic accessories for a man or a woman for grooming and looking like a King or a Queen on wearing them. Those deprived to have them look poor, desolate and lost in life. And the tables and chairs on which you enjoy a hearty breakfast, a quick fix lunch or a lazy dinner with your family and friends? Have a soft corner for this furniture that cannot talk, but perennially inviting you to come and sit and use them to your heart's comfort. You can always talk to them and thank these non-living pieces of art and you will definitely hear a reply in the corner of your heart.

One of the most important non-living things is the {bed} on which you lay down your tired body after a day's struggle at the work place. How do you thank it? At night, bsfore you go to sleep, be aware of it by thinking of it as your dear friend. Keep your bed clean by changing the bed sheets properly from time to time. Can you sleep without a clean bed containing mattress, bed sheet, pillow with a possible roll over long {Dhool} in which you dig your ever tired legs for comfort? No way! Wish good night to this friend before sleep; you wil really feel good. How many times have you flashed your eyes on your time clock, hung in the prominant place in your room? Many times, but you have never thought of the services it has given you, minute by minute, day by day, year by year by ticking endlesly in its body? Have a humble heart to say to it ___ {a big thank you!}

You will never feel lonely, if you start loving non-living things. Moreoever, to-day's relationships is available at a price; non-living things never set a condition and they are 100% free; save, of course you pay a one time small amount to buy these from the market. Actually, you are not buying, you are forging a life long friendship with this lifeless object, but metamorphically a live concept.
Manohar Bhatia.

"WHAT IS RICHNESS?"

There are 2 types of richness in the world..........one of money and another of thoughts. Everyone knows about richness in Money; but what about richness in thoughts, words and deeds?
Richness in thoughts is about spirituality, about goodness, about order, about joy and happiness. How to do this without having Money in your bank?
Well, my friends, you can train your mind to help you. First you have to take into consideration about your attitude to Richness. This can be achieved in Thought, Word and Deed. Think very deeply about your general attitude.

A THOUGHT is like a bomb or like Nature. It can destroy or it can create. Train your mind to be creative like Nature. Think of Goodness all the time........like inventions benefitting everyone alive on this planet. Once your mind works in this direction, then there is no stopping of your good thoughts continously, that will be creative in nature. Your mind will compel you to think that you are now Rich....... not in money, but in some other way.

What is a WORD? A word is a group of alphabates in any language having some meaning; it may be any language of the people. There are good words as well as bad words in the world. Words like love, joy, handsome, beautiful are good words; whereas words like idiot, scoundrel, robber, selfish are bad words. People will judge you by the words that come out of your lips. Hence, train yourself to always use good words. If you can train your mind to use good words, you will feel immensely Rich within yourself.

And, finaly a DEED! A deed is an action resulting from your thought. So, a DEED is connected with your THOUGHT. But there is a magic formula for a DEED. What is that?
A decision that everyday you do one good DEED a day. You may wonder and laugh at me for making such a statement. Good DEEDS are many; but very few people implement them. The most powerful word in the world is the word ALLOW. You may get amused if I say this.........But ALLOW has a lot of power! If you ALLOW anything, that 'ANYTHING' ALLOWS you. This is the law of physics; Action & Reaction are equal in value, but opposite in direction. But there is a one catch here; it will only work for those people who ALLOW without any condition of compensation coming to them! You can do good DEEDS by ALLOWING the people their first rights to life.For instance, if an old blind person wants to cross the road, be the first to rush to his help; this will be your good DEED for the day.

If you are standing in a train or a bus, offer seat to a person in need; this will be your another good DEED. In this way, go on collecting good DEEDS for the day. I am sure that at the end of the day, you will feel immensely Rich. So, Money is not necessarily needed to feel Rich, there is another way to Richness too.

Manohar Bhatia.
Tags : Money, Rich, Poor, Thought, Spiritualism

1. They feel more deeply.

One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. They're very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.

2. They're more emotionally reactive.

People who are highly sensitive will react more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend's problems.

3. They're probably used to hearing, "Don't take things so personally" and "Why are you so sensitive?"

4. They prefer to exercise solo.

Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there's a sense that everyone is watching their every move. However, this is not a blanket rule -- there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports.

5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.

Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make. Even if there is no "right" or "wrong" decision -- for example, it's impossible to choose a "wrong" flavor of ice cream.--- highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose.

6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a "bad" or "wrong" decision.

7. They're extremely detail-oriented.

Highly sensitive people are the first ones to notice the details in a room, the new shoes that you're wearing, or a change in weather.

8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.

In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts. Many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community and thus would interact with a lot of people.

9. They work well in team environments.

Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don't have to make the final decision.

10. They're more prone to anxiety or depression (but only if they've had a lot of past negative experiences without having a supportive environment).

11. That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person.

While it's hard to say anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, well, sensitive to chaos and noise.

12. Violent movies are the worst.

Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea.

13. They cry more easily.

That's why it's important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won't be made to feel embarrassed or "wrong" for crying easily.

14. They have above-average manners.

Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people. Because of this, they're more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners.

15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether.

16. Prefer solo work environments.

Many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle -- where they have more privacy and less noise -- than in an open-office plan.

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i just want to throw this out there please answer as honest as possible thank you

you are told that you cannot make it because your too fat, too slim, too dark, too fair, too thin. Laugh and say adversity knows not my name. When they tread on your heart and kick you to the curb, get up out of the gutter using these words you have heard. I was told I can't help you, your not famous enough or rich, they never knew I was clever, they thought I was thick. When it comes to your own life you will be all right. Failure is just another way not to do something and takes you closer to your dreams. GET UP and STAND, say I am victorious without your permission. Greatness lays within you just dig deeper and be an overcomer. Today you have 1st place. Keep pushing, keep going, continue up the hill until you are

I was just on my way back from a movie when I was looking out into the night sky. Parking my car, the stillness of the night revealed the lively chirping of the crickets.

lol


awkward transition here....:)


It is often said as we go through life, we will discover our purpose of life. Don't you often wonder if there has to be more to life than just waking up, doing your routine, going to sleep, only to wake up to do the same thing over and over and over and over and over....okay, you get the picture.

Have you discovered your purpose? Do you believe we have a purpose? I can imagine a lot of people will say that their children are their purpose. That could be. Is it really your purpose if you are doing it for "my" child/children? That just sounds a little selfish to me (what do I know). Maybe they might be a hint or a path to your purpose??? I really do not know.

I cannot say I have discovered my purpose yet. I live my life trying to leave people better off (even if just so slightly) than they were before they met me. I might give them a genuine compliment, give them a constructive criticism, help them with something, give my non-bias advice/opinion, or give them few extra bucks to help them through this difficult life. Is this my purpose? I do not know.

What do you all think? Do we have a purpose? Do we have no purpose? If you think there is a purpose each of us have in life and you think you discovered yours....do you care to share it here? If so....let's hear it. :)