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...well perhaps I should shudder up. But I digress. We all have our own takes on the institution, which has been on life support for some time now. While many women and men have similar takes on it, I suspect it differs a good deal between the sexes. In a similar way to how we view the utility of prenuptial agreements. Sure, this great imbalance has much to do with power/money differences. But I suspect much more lies behind it. And I was surprised to learn that marriage, formal and religiously or statist sanctioned, is a relatively recent bad deal for almost all of us. Clergy and lawyers excepted. It seems that up until the renaissance, informal arrangements, between the lovers and/or families, were the rule. Even with kids. Vierk, Mr. Prepuce Prenup.

...well, for starters, it's quite a process. And I think these sites should instead be called search and introduction sites. The tiny expense, world wide reach, and ability to vet safely at distance on the front end, as so well done by CS, (suck up noted), likely lead to much greater potential for initial meetings than older approaches. Work, the market, activity groups, your pastor and aunt, etc., can hardly compete, even given the annoyance of the scammers. Considerable communication after that first spark of interest, allows for knowing each other enough, so that the first meeting is often as with an old friend. Whatever could possibly go wrong? But why digress? So, now that the decision exists to actually meet, the When, Where and How enter in to the process. But I'll add that at this point, trust also has been established, and indeed, a large part of my vetting process includes immediately ditching those (largely scammers anyway), who fill their profiles with statements like, "I don't waste time with chatting or Skype". The When. Having already displayed considerable patience while chatting, itself a laudable character trait of maturity, I usually take time with this as well. Usually weeks to months, verses days. Saves on flights if we exist at large distances, and again shows a certain groundedness of style. And on these latter points, since most mutual interests involve class and education, a few languages, self sufficiency, and so on,-- local prospects are quickly exhausted, leaving larger cities, domestic or foreign. I find either party, if living within a few hundred miles, is willing to fit an initial meeting into some other reason for travel. So, onto the Where. I quickly found that elaborate late day meals, at fancy restaurants, had many disadvantages over the safe public cafe scene, or some (walking/sailing) activity. Cost effective, few assumptions generated, plenty of chance to talk, and lots of fun. Forget dancing or concerts, either. Talk and body/facial styles rule. Rarely, after mere seconds, one begins thinking of the classic bathroom trip escape maneuver, but initial vetting usually prevents any need for this cowardly trick. The How? Well, this applies mostly to foreign contacts. Visiting the prospect in her home country has much to recommend it. Gauging lifestyle, family, friends, interests, etc., all come to mind. And what a chance to learn about the world. Meeting while both are on holiday is a second best, which for me has occurred in lovely Portugal. Process, all good things take their own good time. Of course, with Covid 19, adjustments are needed. Finally, at any stage of the process, if prospects begin to dim, it's best to discuss it all openly as adults, and ideally, to part as good acquaintances, or more.

...ah, yes, the free market, and it's resourceful entrepreneurs.... Karl Marx, roll about in your grave. Bernie, pace about angrily in any one of your three mansions. Creepy Joe, no you are not in Novosibirsk, or Novaya Zemlya. With all this stay at home pubic health stuff, my only question is, why has it taken over three months to arrive? The 'forced stay at home dating site app.' As with most of my blogs, I steal the ideas from elsewhere. Hottie tarts rarely are impressed. Heard it during the post wee wee, widely missed target, VERY widely, -wee hours of the morning, while chatting with the world on 40 meters single side band short wave. Full Power. As with PU trucks, big power amps, small manhood. How's that for bombastaceous ueber-bombast? But I digress. Didn't get the exact name of this latest cupid product, but google a suitable permutation. Seems that a tiny amount of initial chat on this app, and we are all off and running. Pics, messaging, bimbo facebook, and even live video. You can be sure I'll have a few sharp words for that hottie cyberscrutinizer. CS, in all its resourcefulness, should have thunk this up at the time of case Zero, in Wuhan. That, BTW, would be CHINA. If she can withhold CS privileges for the clever beauties and the retarded grizzly wankers here, I'm considering cutting her off from any of her scheduled time in the Vierk tree top love nest. That ought to teach her a lesson. Yet, speaking of pubic health, one door closes and another opens. With concerns about family violence being on the increase, and familiarity breeding contempt, as so often, I'm proposing an app meeself. The 'domestic violence video app'. New, from Vierk Institute Industries, and appropriately shamefully over priced. Now, while mom is roundly pummeling dad, the kiddies can help to capture it all for viewing by the public. Absolutely brilliant. Sexism, misogyny, animus, and all those other warm and fuzzy superiority feeling generating words, rolled right up into one. Order now, operators standing by. Cash only. No warranty. Call now. Blah, blah, blah.

.....at least the ueber religious ones. It's a real cultural phenomenon. Part of the arranged marriage anachronisms in other cultures. These would be unrelated older women in the community, whom the young girls know from early ages. Intolerably intrusive, they consider themselves as beneficial. They operate in groups, gossiping over strong tea at each others' houses. Teenage girls are their victims. Sadly, the girls' families somehow think of them as helpful. They wiggle their way into contact with unmarried girls, and begin to ask very personal questions. Then they discuss in groups, and make recommendations as to available young men. Sometimes even going so far as to pat down the girls to assess body types, reporting it all to potential husbands. But who knows? I tried to market the idea, for a cool million, to the suits at CS, via my main squeeze, the lovely and discerning Cyberscrutinizer. The idea was to have older CS cougars form such groups, on blogs or forums, for concerted questioning and matchmaking action on these very pages. All I got were eyes up to the branches above us. And a demand for another warm flat beer.

A player in dating is usually a person who uses their charm to emotionally manipulate others into falling in love with them. When their victim happens to fall in love, the fun ends for them: they drop the relationship and head to their next target.
For players, love is merely a game. And the way to win the game is to enter as many lives as possible and leave a string of broken hearts behind.

Will a player ever fall in love? While they may not necessarily fall in love with anyone, it is always best to live with the assumed answer that is no. Remember that for players, being in a relationship is akin to playing a game. While there is a chance they might fall in love, their interest does not lie in building a connection.

What is a player in dating
8 Signs You’re Dating a Player

It’s a rather common mistake to overgeneralize things. Indeed, players have certain attributes that cannot and should not be ignored. However, it’s important to search for the strong signs rather than blame all the people on a dating site for playing.

Take a look at these characteristics and judge people around you objectively.

1. They Come On Strong

One of the biggest attributes of a player is that they come on very strong. In other words, they’ll tell you lots and lots of sweet things, tell you outright lies, and play mind games. If you see this, don’t rush into believing they really mean everything they say.

Players come on strong because they need to charm you as quickly and efficiently as possible to have a successful booty call. It’s a severe problem if they don’t worry about the emotional intimacy most people who want from a real relationship.

2. Emotional Unavailability and No Sense of Commitment

When you go out with a player, you may notice they are emotionally unavailable. While you seem to think you’re in a serious relationship, they don’t support you. Also, they may seem unwilling to change their relationship status on social media or not meet your emotional needs

In the dating world, when you are going out with someone, you should usually feel some kind of commitment from them. However, players tend to play by their own rules and will look at relationships as games. This means they feel no need to commit to you or anyone else fully.

If you’re also into casual fun, that’s OK – but if you want something serious, you’d better avoid players.

3. You’re Doing Most (If Not All) of the Relationship Work

A healthy relationship is all about give and take. This means that you both put in the effort to try and make it work. That’s why doing most of the work in the relationship is one of the most common warning signs of a player in dating.

To get a better idea of your relationship balance, think of everything you and your partner have done together in the past year:

How many of the things happening were your initiative?
How many times were you the one to write and call first?
How many times did you say “I love you”?
How many times did they say the same?
How many times were you able to be physically intimate without it resulting in sex?
If you think about it and grow concerned about the numbers or the lack of balance, you may be dating a player. Or they are just a person who doesn’t meet your relationship needs.

Related reading: 10 Basic Needs in a Relationship: Are You Getting Them Met?

4. No Consistency

You can always count on players to be consistently inconsistent:

They may keep going MIA
It’s OK for them to ignore your texts or calls
No matter what happens, they just seem to be completely over it.
When you think the relationship is over, they’ll start to love bomb and pull you back in. This leaves many women feeling confused and causes them the unnecessary pain of being heartbroken over and over again.

to be continued/....

"...I used tell her I love her again and again. Though I knew in the deep of my heart that she doesn't love me..."...shows the importance of being true to you and all around you.
At no time and under no circumstances should anyone ever say "I love you" without feeling that very moment that magic flow of love deep inside the heart. At all times should you say exactly and directly what you really wish, feel, need or plan to do. Truthfulness is an absolute need for success in life, in love life, and in all eternal aspects of life.

To feel guilty is of no benefit to you or her - it simply shows and proves to you that you made substantial mistakes by pretending to love someone without really feeling that magic true love for that one.

Leave your wrong partner at any cost of tears!
Leave her no matter what she says!
The ego game is a betrayal of your own true needs as well as the betrayal of the true needs of the wrong partner you are together.
ALL need love...
All need true love...
All need to be ready, prepared, and pure in the heart to give and to accept all love.

Hence all need to grow and to mature - a wrong partner may make aware of what is missing - and the more, the longer you miss something the greater the readiness to do all needed to be ready for the right one from the very beginning.

After all the lies or pretending to love, you hopefully feel how it is inside you and hope you realize the importance of true love, of truthfulness toward self and your partner from the very first second.

Learn from your mistakes for your future.
Be ready to be fully true from the very beginning in any future encounter with a potential partner.

A strong one loves no matter what happens, no matter what happened in the past and no matter what the future brings. Such true love between two strong lovers only can last eternally from heaven to hell and back to heaven - in good days and in challenging dark days as well.

Unconditional love never cries, unconditional love is - from the beginning and without limits !! All your wrong partner shows so far is ego game and nothing more.

When you part - then part in friendship but for good without seeing her for a long time. Distance helps to heal and to get clear in mind and heart. After many months or years, both are ready to start a new love relationship with the right one of the waiting period has been used to understand all made mistakes of all previous relationships and use those mistakes to grow stronger and clearer in the heart for a future new relationship. GOOD LUCK EVERYBODY. And i am waiting for the real one to come to my life and take me with her and sail away

My friend have a woman from this site who come from England .
She visited him in ja often,she gave him money .and that's what he need.

Just tell me why you people on dating app buying Jamaican love .


They only need you women for your money


Tell me.if no body don't want you in your area.

You women are crazy::rolleyes:

Especially the fat women,they buy Jamaican men love ..

23 year old conjoined sisters Carmen & Lupita have been in the news recently. Always asked lots of (stupid) questions, they did some social media videos. Two heads, separate brains sharing one body. Carmen has a boyfriend, Lupita doesn't date.

This brings up 34 year old former reality stars Abby Hensel and Brittany also conjoined twins. Abby married Josh.

I haven't seen anything mentioned about polygamy... after all is it really 2 women?


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?? Maybe it is just me, but when I check my "matches" from time to
time pretty much every woman on the site is offered as a compatible
person to chat with. I know it is mostly automated, but sometimes you
just find it hard to see the point??

It's funny how I always come to this place to ramble through my thoughts and feelings.

I think maybe because in my life I have connected with some amazing people here, fallen in 'love' been hurt, bruised, loved, cried, kissed and lived.

Why is it when you begin to close off and think you need to deal with yourself someone who you are not really looking for, walks up behind you and wraps you up in gentle arms and makes you think, maybe this is real, but, there's always that, but, they'll let you fall one day, it's the question, 'will they reach down and pick you up, or just walk away?'

Lol, my way of deciding if someone is worth discovering is that I try shock tactics, I hand them 'Me', my gentle, my crazy, my kinky, my emotional, my strength and my weakness.

It depends on how they handle everything, I used to give over everything I am and trust so easily that it had to be real, now I hold back and question everything, I miss who I used to be.