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Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Annlee, thanks, and that's not a phrase I heard before

I agree being neighbours rather than living together could have its own problems, which is why the idea of something like a date night is really useful

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Daears, I know, I was just thinking we had a lot of thinking in common

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Z, the jar system dates back to times when 50p bought a romantic candlelit dinner and a taxi home

There are murders and manky bodies so I hadn't been bothering with the background couple but turns out at least three readers were ignoring the murders and want to know what's happening to the second-time-round couple. Go figure. Now I have to work it out

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Map, hello lovely, and I do miss Sunday mornings. I do.

And ta, any chance you could pop to the forum and throw in an anonymous vote? The votes are building up nicely and proving unexpectedly interesting - women seem to be expecting a lot more activity than men

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

KN, you and himself seem to be doing everything exactly right, active toddler notwithstanding

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

KN, both have jobs, sometimes pressured but normally not, and any kids (they don't actually have) would have been grown and gone anyway.

That job thing can often be the biggest problem, 'I can't, I have a big meeting tomorrow I have to get a good night's sleep' - another reason I'm thinking the date night thing is a good idea. Even if it sometimes needs to be shifted to another night, it doesn't get forgotten

And in a stressful situation, it is a reminder of focus

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Daears you are way too far away.

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Definitely bearing 'date night' in mind, good idea if only because real life and issues and little interruptions can take over. Hands up anyone ever been in a relationship where you think back and suddenly realize you can't remember the last time things got romantic? (not necessarily sweaty - specifically romantic)

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Daears, ta very much and yup, I want one of the ones Molly's describing too

Well, I think I do. Life is so hectic right now I do wonder if there would be the time. I suppose I could give up blogging

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Molly, agreed. When the source is permanently to hand, easy to slip into the 'not tonight, leave it until tomorrow' and the tomorrows can get further apart

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

and where can I order one of those relationships?

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Excellent stuff Molly

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Haha TR this isn't one of those books, this is background to the ongoing story but yup, about twice a week ties in with his previous lifestyle, so if you think that's credible, thanks!

(One bloke I asked about an ongoing relationship said twice a month was doing well)

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Daears, if she did what? rattle his bones as often as he wanted? I'm trying to work out how often he'd be wanting!

Another penny in the jar (a research question)

Molly, ta, and the main question is how often. And I do know I might as well ask how long is a piece of string!

Put it another way. If she was distracted by a financial crisis, and not in the mood, how long before he stopped being patiently supportive and started feeling a little restless... I know, gets complicated, that's why I didn't put that in the blog.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Nam in the UK (and I think, but could be wrong, is SA) hospices are free, they are charity-run. So keeping someone alive for profit is not an issue.

Also, a feature of hospices is that pretty much anything you want, you can have. Drugs for pain, food if you can face it, water / wine / Scotch by the bucket (although the family might have to bring that in) but equally you don't have to have anything you don't want, nothing will be forced on you. So someone choosing not to eat will never be forced to eat. Your poor friend had a far longer run than would be normal .

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Another version of the story - far less exciting and dramatic a version than the Express, of course - made the point this ruling was triggered by how slow the decision process has been.
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The case was accelerated through to the UK’s highest court because of his condition, but he died before it could be heard. The court nonetheless listened to legal arguments because, it said, this was an important issue that needed to be resolved.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

As for the lethal injection, tell you what, send for me instead, I will gladly put a pillow over your face to suffocate you when the time comes

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Sure, you're right. Whatever. Raise the alarm. Storm the hospitals. Save all those terrified alert aware patients.







I gave up looking, I couldn't find one intelligent website that said people can live weeks without water.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Well, anyone who can live without hydration for 3 to 4 weeks is a medical miracle. I would hate to be kept in some kind of earthly purgatory but I guess if stacking up breathing time is more important than quality of life, the ruling can and will be ignored by the families of the living dead, and the living dead will shuffle on their weary way. Oh, they can't shuffle. Or do anything but lie in bed stuck with tubes. But they can carry on doing that.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

which is to be allowed to die, not be kept alive.

That's exactly why I called this ruling humane. You cannot be serious, imagining anyone can pop into supreme court, say listen this patient has had it can we let go and the judge says sure, sure.

WEEKS to get the court booking, get second medical opinions, check all the family are on board, THEN sure sure. Maybe.

Oh, and there's no question of lasting weeks once the life-prolonging care stops. A healthy strong human being can survive up to a week without any liquid intake, in cool conditions. The average is 3 to 4 days. Someone who was being kept alive, whose body is long past storing up reserves, would last about 2 days max.

And note 'the body is long past storing reserves'. The body has given up. Time for medicine to give up too.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

If a patient wakes up after 2 days and says hey I'm starving here, why isn't anyone feeding me, you have to hope the authorities would decide to stop withholding.

That lethal injection, by the way, there will always be relatives and friends who would consider the person who gave the injection a murderer. Natural death is the only option for humans.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Molly, they are incredible, I don't know how they cope in such an emotionally charged situation, and even do more, make it bearable for everyone concerned.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Bear, I have nothing but admiration for hospices and their staff, that dignity for the dying and support for the family is priceless

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

I actually think this is a humane decision. Getting legal permission can take weeks and be held up by arguments that will likely appear on the comments on this blog.

It could be that you have never seen anyone in a full-on PVS or MCS.

RE: You wouldn't do it to a dog!

Do you know how a Hospice works? Terminally ill patients are moved there to die in quiet and pleasant surroundings, their comfort a priority, but food and drink is only given if asked for. It isn't forced on the patient.

RE: Can men handle a woman being real with him.

Any man whipping any woman with a belt whether he used it for other ladies or kept it specially for her is not a man worth wasting a thought on. Can he handle a real woman? Who CARES? But the answer is of course no. A real woman would not be hanging around for a whipping.

RE: Why I want someone Christian

Hey Jiya hope you have reported the sicko, can you delete his comments?

I wish you luck finding someone with genuine Christian values.

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