Elegsabiff Blog Comments (9,358)

RE: He's the only one that fits the bill.

Still, back to your main point - gorgeous rich charming women aren't that thick on the ground, it's a case of demand and supply. A beautiful woman can cast a judicious eye over the horde of excited men jostling for her attention and raise the bar.

All men under 5'5" please leave now
All smokers, out to the bins with you
Somebody please drag the drunks out

and there's STILL a horde. So it has to be thinned down somehow.

Maybe - I suggest this diffidently - look at slightly less gorgeous women? Or does that clash with the male list of expectations?

RE: He's the only one that fits the bill.

actually Z he would probably be happiest if I couldn't speak at all

I wouldn't, of course. Because I'm, you know, female / fussy (and never stop talking)

RE: He's the only one that fits the bill.

Mimi I think you would rip the eyes out of my head and kick me downstairs if I even looked too closely, is what I think

RE: He's the only one that fits the bill.

He may fit the bill in some ways but two counts against -

he's got a hideous moustache
he's dead

the second is more of a disadvantage, tbh

I'm not terribly fussy but I do insist on a pulse.

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Bluesky - oh aye. I thought about it while I was falling asleep last night and decided it would have to be just the things I decided not to say, not every thought that crossed my mind. My vocal chords would explode otherwise

Kal, I like that you put thought into the answer, and honoured that the blog brought you back on line! The class had lots of either/or debates but this was the only one that was an almost impossible choice because either option would be horrendous

Usha, love that way of putting it, the devil adopting you as his sister

Bloody, people who won't argue when I want to argue upset me more than anyone else

Mimi, can you imagine if we ever really had to make such a choice?

Mercedes that's not one of the options but if it was a choice, I'd love to have it as a way of life And yup in life I speak too quickly, when I'm typing there's always the chance - in theory - to re-read and re-word and half the time change my mind and shut up

Keepers, I'll drink to personal growth

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Wow, didn't even notice I had comments

GG, I had to think about it too, that's why I thought it might be fun to blog about. I'm still not entirely sure. I say too much as it is, but I enjoy saying too much, I hate biting my tongue and shutting up. Maybe I would really enjoy saying everything

On the other hand, not sure I would have many friends left. So much of friendship is compromise - not saying what you really think of the dodgy bloke, or the spoiled lapdog, or - you'll identify with this one - the drinking.

Tough one.

RE: this from a woman's mouth.

A black comedian I like said something the other night which reminded me of you. He said white people are considered individuals, but every time someone black does something wrong, it is counted against all blacks.

I thought hmm, Johnny does that, men are all individuals but any woman does something bad, it just proves to you that all women are bad.

And then you go posting a blog like this saying you don't think all women are greedy

Beta reader needed

Two feedbacks so far, one positive, one not, but helpful. The other two obviously changed their minds about this whole beta reader thing

A 50% response is actually about par for the course when recruiting new readers although I once had someone come back 5 months later with her feedback. Er, thanks, but the book's already published? Luckily she wasn't suggesting any changes anyway.

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Map, we haven't chatted in ages, must have skype coffee together one of these days

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talking of expectations, what I sort of hoped for was comments about the monologues that run through our heads behind the polite things we are saying

So that's not happening

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Tried baby shampoo, the haystack is currently being controlled (sort of) with tons of conditioner and a hot oil treatment after every wash. The green paint does weigh it down a bit, at least.

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Haha Map I didn't mean you and I HOPE you didn't mean me with that hair thing

But it would usually be true

Once upon a time I had sleek smooth obedient hair, you know. Then I came to Spain. PHWOOM.

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Hey Map!

ok I will grant you that you usually do say exactly what's on your mind

but not everything

I mean we're talking a skype situation, say, and the other person comes on line and I'm thinking 'you're never 50 bud, and what, never heard of a hairbrush?' and out loud I'm saying 'hey, hi, nice to meet you' and trying not to ask 'is that a dead rat on the floor behind you?'

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B - yup. I only open my mouth to change feet.

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LJ back on topic

I don't like romance as a spectator sport, enjoy it as an experience

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Molly, I would also choose the cautious option, relying on mime and the medium of dance to explain what I mean. Getting GOOD at that anyway

RE: Africa Day

10 things I didn't know about Africa

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Molly, that's exactly the choice. Blurt it out or not be able to talk at all

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talking about the moment itself.

Like you're in a pub, notice a bloke come in, do you not think hmm nice eyes too close together but good hair and lovely chin bit short but ...

No?

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LJ bet I have more idiot moments than you

Sometimes on CS debates I do think we have all chosen the second option the things I find myself saying, eish

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Molly, don't you have a running monologue in your head at times? Please don't say that's only me

Wish you'd give a monologue in a brief situation

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LJ, it does sound tempting

Got stopped by the policia the other day for a breathalyser test and would it have helped or not to have blurted out
help what have I done wrong POLICE BRUTALITY
oh good you speak English
actually you are rather cute
blow into this? why? I haven't been drinking
nice smile!
see? see? no alcohol
let me go rozzer

etc

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oh what people actually understand can be so very much bigger and cause so very many problems

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so true

another debate was - speak every language in the world, or be the best in the world at one thing?

(it was, for once, a super-fun class!)

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But begs one more circle, what people thought I meant by what I said, especially when they think I meant to be deliberately rude

No, not a circle. Lots of jagged edges.

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succinctly put

RE: Americans are friendly and not hateful.

Nationality is not a true karass - we are all linked by the things we have in common, but a true karass transcends groupings by race, religion, geological location ... so 'Americans' - 350 million people - can't really be grouped together

Bokonon says 'if you find your life tangled up with somebody else's life for no very logical reason, that person may be a member of your karass'

(Kurt Vonnegut, Cat's Cradle)

I need another cup of coffee before I am likely to start making sense

RE: When I don't know..

We had to go with Plonker Nitwit and Biff Nitwit invite you etc when my daughter got married, quite shocking some of the older more distant relatives who hadn't realized Biff Nitwit had let the side down so badly and gotten divorced - what, no staying power? They weren't sure they wanted anything to do with a divorcee. Tchah.



My half-sister never did get divorced and was married for 30 years to the same guy. Oh, she left him after 8 years, but they stayed married until he died and with a huge sigh of relief she became a respectable widow.

Funny old thing living in worlds with net curtains to twitch.

RE: When I don't know..

Usha, so much easier when it is the groom's father - 'son of Emily Post and the late Thomas Post'

Debrett dictates that the dead cannot invite anyone anywhere. So either you go with 'Mrs Usha cordially invites', or reword completely -

'Sally Anne, daughter of Mrs Usha and the late Mr Usha, is marrying Henry, son of Mr and Mrs X, on 25th December at etc etc and you are invited to celebrate the occasion etc

RE: Whats app

Want to chat on whatsapp?

You are having a terrible time here on CS, I see you are also constantly pestered with marriage proposals. Don't people realize you come onto a singles website to be alone? They just can't take a hint.