I am also sorry for your loss, Daniel. I know what it is like to lose one's parents. Mine have been gone along time. The pain does diminish, but it is still there. I still miss mine very much and wish they were here to guide me in many matters.
roseofsharon wrote: Where on earth are you interpreting my words as containing "hatred"???
You are the first one to respond to my post using the word. I have no "hatred" against anyone per se and if you read my post again you will see that I was stating a belief of those with that particular mind-set?? In fact, it is YOU that also mentions "suspicions"..... the thought had never even crossed my mind.
I have no problem with the Jewish people (in fact, if I was frank, I have an immense amount of respect for Jewish folk), the Buddists, Muslims or any other domination.... but I will not subscribe to political correctness at the expense of what is right and wrong... that is a whole different issue and does not involve the law-abiding, civilised and moral people of any faith, creed or nationality.....
So where's the problem??
Of course, its a free world!! But there are those that work on the basis that what we have been encountering in recent times, i.e. terrorists threats and the like, has been probably generations, if not thousands of years in the making. There is a belief that it is achievable through, firstly, infiltration and, subsequently, manipulation....??
I dunno.... you tell me??!!
Ok, I misinterpreted what you said, added words you did not mean. BUT, as I highlighted in your post, it leaves it open to much interpretation. I did not mean anything personal. I was merely trying to understand what you meant.
Um, Are you saying, it is a free world, but because of many PAST Generations, or thousands of years of suspicion, hatred, that combined with current events of terrorism in the world today, We need to look at someone with a different name as suspicious, because they MIGHT achieve something by avoiding suspicion through the process of infiltrating, gaining trust and then manipulating events or people?
That is how you come across to me. I for one, feel all the hatreds for thousands of years and/or generations belongs, in one place and one place only, in the past. I am descended from Jewish people whom lost practically our entire family in the Holocaust of WWII.
My parents taught us that regardless of that event, we had a choice, Let it poison us or take the higher road, to forgive and set the better example, despite the hatred that almost decimated us.
Please explain b/c your wording does not make sense. It can be interpreted in any fashion.
Seriously, in today's world, a name is just a name. It doesn't have to be hiding an agenda. Remember many of us whose ancestors came over here in the last century, had strange names too.
Some were forcibly changed as they got off the ships at Ellis Island just so they would be easier for those processing the paper work to pronounce, spell, write, etc. UNDER the guise of being given Americanized names. My own ancestors went through this.
If, you have never had a relationship with a woman in your 30 yrs, I have to wonder if you to simple things like compliment the girls you go out with.
Do you get her a card to lift her spirits, to just say hi, tell her the things you like about her, to make her laugh, to lift her day. A single flower can do the same thing. Make a call just to say Hi, I wanted to wish you a nice day.
When you compliment her is it a true compliment to make her go Wow! What nice sweet Guy! or does I make her go Wow! I can't believe he just sad that to me! and hides her hurt while she graciously thanks you anyways.
There are many ways to start with some one. The biggest one I try to use is to treat the other as I wish to be treated. However, when you do this you also have to be tuned in to what the other person wants.
I can sympathize. I went three years after my husband and I divorced, then he died before dating again. Only to realize I was on the rebound, and I stopped seeing the guy within 3 months.
~ 8 months later, I dated the next guy off and on for ~4 years, we had differences in what we wanted out of life. He wanted to marry but wanted an open marriage that was not for me, so I left.
Then 3 years later I started dating the guy I was engaged to until April of this year. I left after he cheated repeatedly. No matter how you look at it, it hurts and yes it does take alot of energy.
But what you learn from it will help you in your next try. It is important to take time and reflect and recover. Don't try to jump into another relationship too soon.
Sorry Jenny, That car and my one other Chevey before it were the ones that ALWAYS went to the shop and left me 32 miles away from home or school. Funny all my other cars I considered girls but those two were boys.
Hugz_n_Kissez wrote: Yes I do..provided that both people are being themselves and are open and honest with each other...it's a more intimate way of getting to know each other on-line and of having conversations that you might not talk about right away when meeting in person...I don't think you can put a time frame on it...every person and couple is different...
Well, said both of you. I agree with what each of you have said.
Initially, I did not think it was possible. That is why I resisted joining the site. Now, however, I do believe it is possible, IF they have total honesty, trust, respect.
There also has to be, as in any relationship, an understanding that each person had a life before their life with you. Along with this, you have to have an acceptance for that life and the lessons that went along with it, because it is the experiences of the other person's life before you that helped to make them into, the person you fell in love with.
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Sorry for your loss.