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Friends or Family?

Yes I think sometimes friends become like your "surrogate" family!

Friends or Family?

Wow, that sounds like quite some family!!! Lucky you to have all that great support!!!

RE: Hi everybody!

Hi there. Good luck and enjoy the forums! Take it all with a pinch of salt.....

Friends or Family?

It is said you can choose your friends, but not your family. Just wondering how many of you are close to your family, or are your friends more important to you? Perhaps you would rate them as equally as important?

My parents have passed on, two of my siblings live about an hour away and my other sister lives far away in Perth... I love them to bits, but don't see them THAT often. I am fortunate to have a wonderful group of friends, and would miss them terribly if I moved away.

How close are you to your family? ....and how important are your friends?

RE: Hobbies

I love reading, blogging (although haven't done much lately), walking/hiking, playing guitar and singing, spending time with friends, watching movies, cooking, playing with my boys, researching for my workshops...

RE: what you miss most about a relationship

I miss the sharing, the caring, the snuggling, the laughter, holding hands... Waking up in the morning and opening my eyes to find my partner gazing at me with love in their eyes... My heart beating faster when I see an sms or incoming phone call from him... The anticipation of seeing him again and spending time with him...

RE: Irreducible complexity and Intelligent design

I am not religious, but I believe in a "super consciousness" which some may call God. I am a bit of a cynic and definitely lean more towards science, but even some of the greatest scientists and physicists have admitted that some things are unexplainable! I had religion shoved down my throat when I was a child, and I don't believe it did me any harm. There are many truths and common threads in some religions which if you delved under the "fairytale" make a lot of sense, e.g. do unto others as you would have done unto you, etc. When I was older I began questioning and eventually made my own decisions as to what was worthy of remembering and what was not. My ex and I decided to send our boys to a Catholic school even though we are not Catholic nor religious - one third of the boys are non-Catholics. Our reasoning was that the positive things they learn, e.g. how to behave like gentlemen, consideration of others, helpfulness, caring, kindness, charity, etc. are life lessons well learned. If they ever ask us questions about stuff they've learnt at school, we answer them honestly. Later in life they will make up their own minds.

Obviously if religion is taken to the extreme - ANY religion, it is dangerous and usually self-serving. All this hell and brimstone stuff is nonsense in my opinion.

RE: does a women love the man or his car or wallet

Well, in all honesty, a good, honest man is great. But why can't we also have a good, honest man who is successful? Although I don't measure success purely on a man's material wealth, there are certain attributes like ambition that I find attractive. I've been poor and now I'm doing ok. I certainly don't fancy 'keeping' a guy. Why should I? I'd rather that we both contribute towards our lifestyle.

RE: NY city -want to join me for sightseeing on this weekend

I am jealous! Loved New York when I visited there years ago.... Such a vibrant, exciting city! Have fun and wish I could join you!

RE: why does cleaning your ears feel soooo good?

Lord forbid we'd ask you guys to do THAT!!!! But how DO you manage on one pair for so long? Do you turn them inside out when they start looking a bit too grungy???!!!

RE: Female Immaturity

I agree. Not about the not growing up part, but why does growing up have to be synonymous with losing one's childlike delight in the 'little' things in life? It drives me crazy that just because we age we are expected to ACT our age! Who's to say what is mature and what is immature? It's all subjective. I say, have fun and try to be accepting and light hearted like children naturally are. There are times to be serious and times to be silly!

RE: So does the saying treat them mean to keep them keen work?

First of all, I would never intentionally treat someone in a mean way, and I should think anyone with a relatively healthy self esteem would not put up with it. I certainly wouldn't stick around if someone was really mean to me!

RE: Do you believe in LOVE?

Your choice of avatar/pic maybe needs to be revisited perhaps if this is your view???

RE: Hi,Hello,Salutations, or as Tony the Tiger might say, Grrrrreetings!

Hello, hiya, howzit and welcome to the CS Forums! From what I've seen, you'll slot in here like a penny (aka pennies... but that's another forum)....

RE: How will you die?

I would like to say all the clever things other people have already, but it is kinda a serious subject and the thought of death leaves me cold! (forgive the pun). I hope for the sake of my two beautiful boys that I am older (would love to meet their future wives and children) and that it is quick. I would hate to be a burden to anyone... that is SO not me. If I start heading in that direction, would love my boys to book me into that hotel in Switzerland where they can give me an injection and I can say my goodbyes then go to sleep holding my sons' hands..... Sounds a bit like Hotel California???!!

RE: why judge from a profile

I agree When you think about it, it's kind of a marketing tool. If you don't like what you see (no pic or someone who doesn't really appeal to you on a physical level) or what you read (doesn't express themselves well or spells atrociously or says nothing about who they are) then you either give them a chance via email contact or checking them out on the forums or not. It depends what you're looking for - if just friends, doesn't really matter; if a partner, I think we're a little more discerning. I don't think it's pre-judging so much as sorting the wheat from the chaff......

RE: what kind of partner do you want?

No you didn't! But that sounds very sensible... Um, my make up bag isn't THAT large nor my cosmetic accoutrements!!! Just a place for my pink spotted wellies, a place to put my ole blue jeans and an old cup for my toothbrush would do!

RE: what kind of partner do you want?

Ha ha.... and this is the shortened version!!!! Mind you, as time goes by will probably be condensed even further!!!

RE: Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing

Puts a new slant on shoulder pads, which are back in fashion!

RE: Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing

You have a good point. One does have to be thick skinned to a point on here, and it isn't always easy especially when someone shoots your opinion down with a huge BLAST! Personally, I think showing your vulnerability both here and in real life is honest and real, and helps people to get to know the real you.... Allowing someone to see who you are under all the layers creates depth of relationship.

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

Thanks! We needed all the help we could get! As I think Spain needed it to boost their spirits......

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

....and well done you for being a good loser!

RE: WHO CAN STILL FEEL LOVE?

I agree. Desperation is not a good vibe to give out!

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

Yes, there were times the ref was more like a magician pulling out the yellow and red cards!!!! Was very happy about Spain winning although it was a rather long and not very interesting final as finals go.

RE: how would you impress your date?

Okay, now you're inferring I don't have a depth of intrigue.... etc etc. Anyway... I don't really care what you think although looking at your choice of words in response to my posts may be an idea. I don't generally take things said on here seriously, but don't like being picked on. Thanks for admitting you made a mistake and let's leave it at that.

RE: what did you think of the world cup?

Yes it is about inter-connectedness (if there is such a word)!!! Sport is fantastic that way - breaks down barriers and gives us all something in common. I think it has helped our country a lot in many ways. It's made us feel proud to be South Africans when a lot of times we aren't because of the crime & corruption factor, it's definitely helped tourism, it's also made us realise we can host a huge event like this and actually make it a success, and that when there are deadlines, we can get things done!!! All in all been a good boost for our SA self-esteem!!!

Do you men get put off if you are pursued too much by a woman?

I agree with you, but I was referring more to the start of a relationship - the courtship! It is a bit of a dance to use the analogy a few others have used....

RE: YAY Surgery!!!

Well, glad you are happy about it and hopefully afterwards will be out of pain.

RE: Is any marriage doomed...

Very well put! I agree and hope to have that sort of relationship one day.... where every day you feel grateful that your partner is in your life....

RE: why if you put in a relationship on your profile and your been honest .do so many women avoid it

Well, I'm a little confused by your profile and the responses on here. Your profile seems to indicate that you are separated? If that is so, personally I don't mind chatting here on forums but would rather not get involved because, having been through it myself, there is unfinished business still to be resolved. Personally, I am uncomfortable even flirting with an involved man.