I'd rather know about it. Don't like wasting time, I have a kid and that's how it is. Would I have anymore at my age - I honestly don't know. But if someone is dead set on ONLY having their children be the only children - then it won't work and mine will be with me for a long time yet. Not everyone can handle that. It is irratating if someone claims they have read your profile and you read theirs and it states NO KIDS. So WTF do you expect me to do with mine! Either they are can't read well or didn't pay attention. What if they had kids, would they want me to shun them! I guess everyone knows what they can handle.
On the plus side when the children come AND if you have a great relationship with your mother-in-law they can be a great source of advice - sometimes and probably won't mind babysitting the grandkids. Or they can find everything wrong with how you raise your kids.
Well you know some men never cut the navel string tied to their mom. So those types will be comparing you to mom all the time -especially if they live in the SAME HOUSE. The worse though is when even though they now have a wife to do certain things, they go to mama to have her do it and complain about why can't you do it like their mother. Cut the cord already!
"Well you know Danny likes his eggs a little dry." "Well you know Danny likes his shirts ironed with a lot of starch." "Well you know Danny always like the way I did my apple pie."
Well if you had to do it out of necessity it could work if you had a good relationship with your in-laws and they respected the fact that you are married adults. I know a lot of problems arise with the girls and mother-in-laws, where the mother-in-law likes telling the wife how stuff should be done for her son and giving unwanted advice on everything.
Well you wouldn't want to give your poor mother-in-law that kind of SURPRISE(and possible heart attack) as she wandered to the fridge to get a late night snack.
You've been dating for a while and decide to get married, after the wedding you move in to set up house in the same house as your IN-LAWS! Its been know to happen here in certain cultures where the girl goes off to go live with the boy's parents and maybe a few more in-laws all on one house(for example they may live downstairs and the parents live up stairs) Maybe a sister law and brother-in-law might live on another part of the property with their families. There are occasions when all this communal living can lead to friction. Would you mind having your in-laws living in the same house as you and think it could be interesting? Or would you prefer your privacy and see this kind of living arrangement as a recipe for trouble? Would men mind this type of living arrangement with their mother and father-in-law on a permanent basis?
Of course you can continue to post, but you must understand that many come on these sites with high expectations of what they will find, some expect miracles, they see it happening for others and wonder why not me? But Johnny's luck might not be Phill's luck. When they have faced their hundreth scammer for the week, they can begin to wonder, and it does not matter how long they are told just to have hope, some give in to the frustration. I just chose not to. If I don't find it here then I have to option to try elsewhere as do others.
Interesting post Petal. First off if some people have had the success you have had then that shows that the site can work for SOME people. When all the ducks line up correctly it can be wonderful and I say good luck on your adventure. Reality check. It won't work for ALL, armed with this knowledge one can weather the storms of disappointment that can come from not finding anyone. Some will find someone here and some will have to try their luck in RL. To those who get lucky I send on my congratulations and go on back to the task at hand - finding me what I want. I don't believe one should sit around obsessing about whether this relationship or that relationship is going to last or is real, frankly its none of my business and I really don't care(this might sound cold and hard but many would do well to do likewise and focus their energies on themselves). Internet dating has yet to work for me and I don't know if it ever will and I understand that repeated disappointments can breed skepticism. Here's the cure for jealousy: Congratulate your neighbor on his good crop and get REAL BUSY tending the corn in your own garden.
I read the whole thread and all I can say is to each his own, everyone has to take their own risks in the love business, but for me personally I don't care how infatuated I thought I was with a man or he told me he was with me - I would not be going down the aisle after only a month. If he loved me so much he could wait till we got to know each other even better and that usually takes time, meeting, spending time together before my mind was at ease. Like the old folks say "See me and come live with me are two different things".
I've observed that many relationship breakups have been the result of the big 'M'. They say money is the root of all evil and it seems to play a big part in relationships. From who should pay for dinner, to men who feel insecure because their wife or girlfriend makes way more money than they do. Then you have the women who may not find a guy who works with his hands for a living as appealing as a guy who works in and office and wears a tie - even if the guy is a hard worker and making an honest living. From men who feel all women are after their credit cards, to women who just want a rich guy to live of off. How many marriages went south because certain money issues were not sorted out before the "I do" was said? Has anyone ever found themselves in any of these situations? Would like to hear what others think.
Maybe its me, but didn't this thread state"Calling all Christians? Was this missed by some of you? If you are a non believer, why are you upset that a believer puts up a thread that states upfront who they are appealing to? Gosh, its not rocket science.
Yet further confirmation for my view that there are occasions when one must should be careful in revealing too much of your private affairs and making them public on this forum. Can you control the well wishers anymore than you can control the hate mongers? Here's a tip: If they aint paying your bills they don't matter.
I think you can become deeply INFATUATED by a person's better qualities when there is distance but real life is a different matter, when you really get to Meet the REAL PERSON, sometimes they are the same as online, sometimes totally different. I think the TRUE LOVE part comes when you actually get to spend some time together without a computer screen between you. JMO.
Our history is fascinating, no matter the prejudices when it all comes down to it Men have needs. Let me explain what I mean: When the Europeans came out here in their quest for conquering new lands, the met the Native American Indians, there were no women so what do you think happened? And even when women started coming out to the West Indies, there were often few of them compared to the other races, so what do you think happened? In the end MANY European men(and other races as well) succumb to the call of their crotch and slept with other races and even married. Of course their were those like the Syrians and Lebanese who came after who may have taken wives from their home country. There was a time when it was just TABOO for an Indian to marry a person of African descent, now there are many who are the product of such unions, I have some like that in my own family as well as white, my youngest cousin born a few months ago has a mom who is white. There is no novelty to mixing here. Its how our country is, but there are still places where it is hardly the norm.
For some people the sheer stress put on them by friends and family if they go outside the race of culture is so severe that they find it much easier and less stressful to conform to the norm than to go against the grain. For some family is important,many don't want to feel like the black sheep. It takes a strong personality to stand up for what they want and sometimes lose friends and family over their choice.
The thing is this is an International forums, so there is a possibility of meeting someone of a different race or culture and if you fall in love with them the time will come that they will meet your friends and family and vice versa, for many this could be a reality. Some old prejudices and stereotypes die hard.
The title for this thread was taken from a movie done in 1967 about what takes place when a white woman takes a black man she is romantically involved with home to meet her parents. The movie starred Spencer Tracey, Katherine Hepburn, Sidney Poitier and Katherine Houghton. What if you found yourself in a similar situation, dating someone of a different race or wanted to start dating them, do you think your friends or family would be supportive or dissapointed? If they objected would this cause you to rethink dating that person or would you do you own thing regardless of what anybody thought?::popcorn2:
Thanks. It'll be a great learning experience. Just got to locate one of them Static Bracelet thingy, if I destroy anything like the new hard drive you'll probably hear the screaming and bawling from where you are.
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I'd rather know about it. Don't like wasting time, I have a kid and that's how it is. Would I have anymore at my age - I honestly don't know. But if someone is dead set on ONLY having their children be the only children - then it won't work and mine will be with me for a long time yet. Not everyone can handle that. It is irratating if someone claims they have read your profile and you read theirs and it states NO KIDS. So WTF do you expect me to do with mine! Either they are can't read well or didn't pay attention. What if they had kids, would they want me to shun them! I guess everyone knows what they can handle.