Sometimes those who we feel have not created the greatest of impacts at the outset can surprise us. Perhaps he needs to feel the moment is right, he may be lacking in confidence, fear rejection, any number of things.....
Would it hurt to give him a chance? There must have been something about him to make you want to meet him?
Not everyone is a "Human Dynamo" but still waters run deep, as they say.
Besides, we often expect the gushing "butterflies" in the tummy that we experienced in our youth and try to recapture that, believing if it doesn't happen, its a marked sign its not right. In our experiences in life as we get older, we have been exposed to so many elements of life, there becomes a certain acceptance/resignation about things and a modification of how we deal with things.... it all changes one's perspective.
In cutting it short, you could be denying YOURSELF a fab opportunity?
There are various types of mental illness and many can be overcome or at least treated in some form or another. Therefore, I wouldn't dismiss it outright if I fell for such a person. Finding out more would be a start, I think.
I have known men that have chosen not to bite the bullet and have admitted to always having regretted it. We don't get many opportunities in life and often there are no second chances.
Bottom line is she will hopefully be most pleasant to approach. If not, do you want her anyway?
Its easy, and understandable, of course, that you look for something to blame. In this case.... feminism.
As with most facets of life, its how we ourselves choose to adopt them. In your wife's case, it would seem, she chose the stance she did, others may have decided on another path. Therefore, the responsibility lies with HER, perhaps?
Not necessarily. I don't envy men with things like this, it must be intimdating to approach a girl in a group. Its a matter of confidence I guess.
I am sure there is the fear of rejection but not grasping the opportunity, one will never know and possibly miss the girl of his dreams. It takes a lot, I'm sure but faint heart never won fair maiden....
RE: Have I set the bar too high?
Thought you said it worked for you?!I just tried it and I now have the most horrendous rash!!