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RE: How Many people here today gave someone words of encouragement.

Good thread!

I do encourage others daily, as I am an encourager.
Today I was able to encourage 6 people!!!

I hope not to do the world bad, on any day!

Truly, sharing goodness makes the world a better place!!!


For you! Thanks for posting!

Cops Attack Anti-War Protest in Rochester

That was probably staged too!
It will be used as propaganda to make all future riot cops really fueled to anger!

Cops Attack Anti-War Protest in Rochester

Wow, that one was a little out a hand!!!

I think that one cop in the car was in a hurry to get out of there! As his car zoomed thru the crowd, he almost ran over that woman he knocked down!

I don't like to see violence in the streets like that!!!
The protesters and the police were fighting, but that one looked to me like the protesters were the aggressors, unlike in the situation I posted.

America's Internet Police

Sure you can!




But they might just catch you!!!

America's Internet Police

Do you think they will be watching our threads here on
CS?

Cops Attack Anti-War Protest in Rochester

I can not agree with your statement gary, basically because I do not believe in categorizing. There are good cops and there are bad cops. I have known many good ones.

Cops Attack Anti-War Protest in Rochester

Unbelievable!

They were bothering no one, marching down the street, when
27 police cars showed up and began beating the demonstrators and arresting them!

What is happening in our country???

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

Perhaps there are other ways this situation could be handled.
But given the time and circumstances of the individual who checked up on her and the manipulation that was being imposed upon him...
He did the right thing. He got out of there ASAP!!
Yet he still showed her that he cared while not giving in to her demands.

How can she speak bad of him to me when he did an act of kindness, as far as she is concerned.

Truly, this woman needs more help than I would consider giving her. I am grateful that I will not be manipulated into her scheme, as now I know what is actually happening in her life, not the snow job story she presents to me on the phone.

Conrad, perhaps not the best way...
But it was this mans hearts performance of love in action that gets credit, no matter what she decided to do with the money.
I would not count it against him.

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

I must point out here, that many of my cases are DESPERATE individuals who threaten suicide amongst other "helpless" attitudes, manipulation techniques, etc.

I do not get excited by this as I know them well enough to know that they are trying to manipulate to gain a "pity party", of which I will not take part in. Yet they do tend to suck me in, because I care about people.

I am an encourager. I talk with them that they may see things in a positive light. But now I believe that there comes a time, when they need to put into practice what was intended for them to learn. I must step out of the way.

How?

I am ready to do a Disappearing act!

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

Thank you for sharing this life experience with us!

Shared experiences help us grow into more mature, self-understanding people. In your case, you have overcome low self-esteem!

I hope your example will help many others and encourage them that it can be accomplished!!


As stated earlier, I get myself into jams due to being overly compassionate. It is not an issue of self-esteem for me.

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

I get you response. Thank you!

But where do you draw the line?
If you are one who is a giver, a helper, a friend to those in need? If you are always the one to give the volunteer of help?

Do you come to a point where you must cut them off from your supply? I think so, when it comes down to your enabling them.

But phone calls are another thing. Perhaps it's just the time being wasted?

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

Thank you for your question!

I would have to answer, "No", to both.

The problem I am having is related to having so much compassion for others.

The time consuming phone calls, as they speak to me from hurting hearts due to relationship breakups or wanting help, wanting to relocate to my home (this would truly ensnare me!), although I do invite them to come Then come the excuses or they need money for travel. Even if that is offered, more excuses of why they can not come now. What's their point? They are wasting my time.

How can I say "NO, leave me alone, you are wasting my time."
And not hurt their feelings in the process?

They need to work their situations out for themselves. They should grow from their own experience. I am not their answer.
I know this, yet why do they continue to come to me?

Some of these people I have known for 10 to 20 years. They always want to run to me for help or advice. I am trying to sort them out. Those who don't follow thru, should I quit giving them my time or my help?

Feeding The Hungry

Such generosity you and your husband display!
Fantastic!

Now, tell us please, that the blessings of joy you receive in doing this truly outnumber the cost invested in your giving!!!

Truly Rewarding!!!

It's LOVE in ACTION!!!

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

Hi Oslo!

Different website and that is the answers Laura gave. I got the idea from the article by Laura but that was not what was on my mind. If you will notice, my statements are considerably different from her article.

I discussed this yesterday on an email with a friend.

It seems that many people call me on the phone, they live far away, and they dump their situations on me. I be the listening ear. If I share my opinion or advice, they never do take it, yet they continue doing this to me. Afterwards, when I meditate on it, I become frustrated with myself, as I see a pattern has developed in doing this, repeatedly for years.

How do I stop?

The answers given in Laura's advice, do not address my situation at all. This is why I used her idea, with changes, hoping someone can help me, or we can help each other to resolve similar issues.

I choose to discuss this in the way I posted this thread, not in the way Laura did in her article and her advice. Let's make this personal. What works for you?

I am willing to take good advice in learning to overcome this habit.

HL

People Pleasers, Say "NO"!

Up until recently, "No" was dirty word to me. As a people-pleaser, my vocabulary is rich with affirmatives: "yeah," "sure," "okay," "absolutely," "no problem." But my mouth just csn't seem to form the consonant-vowel combination required to say "No," even when "Yes" was simply impossible due to time conficts or just not wanting the negative influence of others dramas in my daily life.

I get stuck at "Nnnnnnn... alright." Which means I am doing all kinds of things that I don't want to, have to, or have time to do.

Are you like me? Surrounded by a modest sampling of users, takers, and even well intentioned askers who could zap all your energy if you let them?

Let us share simple techniques to get our minds and mouth to work in tandem to say: NO!

What ways have you found to set boundaries, which really work?
You may give examples.

Thanks! I really need help with this! HL

Feeding The Hungry

I fed the homeless in Fort Worth, Texas for 15 years.
Yes, they love the hot meals!
We used to sing with them too, it was a great get together we all enjoyed weekly.

They are people too, just like us. Many Americans are only a couple of paychecks away from being in the same predicament.
You never know, it could be YOU!

You are a Blessing to many, John!

Feeding The Hungry

That is great Jan!

I also do the same. I do not know that it would be any more genuine, but it's definitely more personal and can grow into established relationships.

I went to an old mans house whom I did not know personally.
Asked him if he needed some groceries.
Took him to my house and went thru the cupboards, refrigerators and freezers only giving him the foods he liked.
Returned him to his house with 8 big sacks of groceries.
He was totally amazed and kept telling me over and over,
"Do you know how much all of this would have cost at the store?"
He was truly grateful.

It is fun, touching the lives of others!

What Recession?

Perhaps you would like to comment to my thread on Feeding The Hungry?

I am glad to see that you are awake and your prophecy may ring true, however, this thread is not about Obummer and I care not to have any arguments started here about him.

Can we stick to the topic here?

Anyone know of a good solution???

Feeding The Hungry

Doesn't it just break your heart to see those in need and not be able to help?

You are seeing the difference in the countries gary.
I often wonder if other countries share with those in need as we do here in the U.S., thus the purpose for this thread.

The people here are very giving and compassionate, for the most part. True, as you have stated, in the USA, if you are out of food, there ARE ways to get it. Clothing also! Even Shelter!

Feeding The Hungry

Hi Trish! Long time no see!

Of course they have internet access, at least they do in these parts. They are not homeless. There is no requirement of who may receive the food. You just have to show up, wait in line then fill your buggy.

The economy here in Oklahoma is very good. We have the poor among us all of the time. The average income for our state is between $12,000 to $24,000. Lots of country folks who don't make much.

However, many are on fixed incomes, receiving social security.
They pay rent and bills and do not have much left for buying groceries.

Every little bit helps. The free groceries help and enable them to spend money on utilities, gas, diapers, whatever they need, even cigarettes and beer!

I have noticed that many on CS receive disability or retirement checks. Perhaps they receive from a service of this type?

What Recession?

As long as those with the money are putting it into politicians pockets, of course, they will eventually become untaxed.

The GREEDY believe that "He who dies with the most toys WINS!"

Well, guess what????


He Does NOT Win!!!

He still DIES!!!

Feeding The Hungry

Once a month, one of the local churches has Harvest Basket.
Free Groceries purchased from the Food Bank, are given to those in need in our community.

I volunteer with others, sorting the foods and putting them into bags, then into bins, for the next days free shopping.
We all enjoy working together and being a blessing to our community. Today was our work day.

Tomorrow, hundreds of families will be blessed with an entire huge shopping cart filled with food.


Do you have outreaches such as this in your community?

Do you donate your time in this type of service?

Are you a grateful recipient of services such as this?



DO an Act of Kindness TODAY...

Love One Another!
HL

21 Ways to Be Inspired

This story was told years ago at a womans retreat I attended.
I love it and have learned from it.

Glad to be a cracked pot!!!

Thanks for sharing, EliteOne!

What Recession?

I have no money to be robbed, as I make what I need to get by on, then use the rest to help the poor in my community. I pay electric bills, water bills, give groceries and clothing to those less fortunate.

If everyone did this, the world would be a better place.

I am really surprised by your answer here!!!

As a Christian Nation in its beginning, this is why welfare was established in our government. It is the church's obligation to heal the sick, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, give the thirsty something to drink and take in the poor wandering stranger. Isaiah 58.

Heal the sick... Health Care!

The government took upon itself, the work of the church as our founding fathers thought this was the right thing to do in establishing a Godly Nation. "One Nation Under God, Indivisable, with Liberty and Justice for ALL".

How times have changed and the hearts of the American people along with the times!!!

Don't you think that if the rich paid their fair share of taxes, the middle class even would benefit from it?

If times get very hard and the rich are nearby and not doing anything to help their neighbors, YES, I would steal from them and give it to the poor!!!

Got a problem with that???

Only God can deal with your heart. It's an issue of the heart and the selfishness therein.

If everything we own belongs to God and not ourselves, what is it to you what HE decides to do with what you have in your storehouse? It's HIS, he can do what HE wants to with it, if you would only LET GO!! Maybe if you gave some of it away, there would be room in your storehouse to contain the BIG Blessing He wants to GIVE to YOU!!!

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

That's better. I would feed a man with a fork also!!






Hey, wake me in the morning okay? I have an appointment at noon!
Hey ruby, it's been fun!! I am falling asleep so nite nite!!





Hey, wake me in the morning okay? I have an appointment at noon!

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

I completely understand the power of now!!!

I am already happy also. That's why I don't need the pics cos I am content. Life is good today and tomorrow will be even better!


I do not care for this song for my mood right now. It's too choppy, not relaxing. Guess I am fading...

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

This is a good song, lots of passion, more my style.

I don't care for the photos though cos I have no one to
dream about in that way. Out of sight, out of mind!

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

I am listening to louis and I like his music.

Why are you in the romantic mood???

Have you got a sweetie???

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

Are you trying to get me to go to sleep???

I am not tired!!! It's still early.

I will give it a listen when this one finishes.



escuche!

RE: Spanish Music, Share With Us What You Listen Too!!

I understand, same here. Florida makes you all wet.
It's muggy and too hot. I have been away for over 40 years.
The humidity kills me when I go to visit!!!


I have switched gears and am getting off on Carlos Santana and Michelle Branch!!