Do you mean do I allow my mind to torment myself for no good reason? No, not anymore. In fact you will never be happy if you constantly compare yourself to others...regardless of your circumstances. Apart from that, if you think your happiness depends on other people, you're setting yourself up for great disappointment somewhere along the line. You can have a life of love and happiness, but first you must love yourself...unconditionally. Understand and accept you don't NEED anyone to be happy, accept your life situation fully and embrace it. If you think you will be unhappy being single, then you will be. Your thoughts become your actions, your actions become your destiny...you choose.
This prayer, composed by Graham Herbert, headmaster of Lockerbie Academy, and read by him in October at Syracuse University's Remembrance Week rose-laying ceremony, captures that spirit of magnanimity and compassion. It is worth reflecting upon as we remember the 270 who lost their lives 25 years ago.
Prayer for Lockerbie Pan Am Flight 103 Victims and Survivors
With all the earth's people we join as one to pray for a world where we can live in peace and harmony together; a world where there is no place for war, hatred or violence; a place where each and every one of us, regardless of race, religion or gender maybe valued equally.
Today, as we remember all those who perished in the Lockerbie disaster we give thanks for the lives each one led, be it short or long, and for the joy and happiness they brought to all those who knew and loved them. We pray for their families and friends, bereft so cruelly and suddenly. We know only too well that brave faces and cheerful smiles hide dashed dreams and broken hearts and we ask that when they face their dark times they may be comforted by the love that passes all understanding.
Once upon the time there was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.
“Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“Maybe,” replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
“Maybe,” answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
Hi T, good to see you back. Even better to hear you've found someone to share your love with. As you say, true love for another is not an emotion, it's realisation, a state of being. Unlike the roller coaster ride of falling in love which reaches a pinnacle then recedes, true love grows and strengthens with time. Of course you have to have found love for yourself before you can share that love with someone, and they too must feel their own love for themselves. From this great things can happen, the cosmos holds unlimited pleasures for you both...but then you know that eh T?
Now all you have to do is...go forth and multiply...
Very few of us know ourselves well enough to be capable of 'agape' or what is sometimes oxymoronically called disinterested love. That is, love wholly invested in the well being of an 'other' or others, without the shadow of self interest lurking beneath the surface...that is unconditional love, and it's extremely rare.
With or without meeting, little difference. It's the term 'falling in love...being in love, that's the trickery, we're hooked on it...even before we can love ourselves...
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Alternative Christmas songs.
Not too many Christmas songs in Latin...this one always gets to me.