I agree, multiple partners whether in a dating scenario or not, is equivalent to cheating. Making it public knowledge just cheapens the entirety of the whole prospect. Clinging to something until something more interesting, more successful, more handsome/beautiful, is not fair to anyone least of all to the one doing it.
Second place is merely the first loser. Sixth place is well... a bystander? One more involvement and you will be out of the six degrees of separation from Kevin Bacon (even though that might be a good thing depending on your perspective).
I'd rather watch the movie, it only wastes two hours of your time.
Dating, as in testing the field is just like that. If you are up to it there is nothing wrong with it per se. Being in a competition for emotion or physical compatibility is inappropriate. Nothing prevents someone from choosing you or someone else but if you have to jump through hoops for some circus benefit then the game should end there, as there is always someone more adept at those type of antics. A date is a date, and if it continues in some manageable direction compatible to both parties then eventually there must come a time when the throng of admirers diminishes to allow true interpersonal growth.
Being part of any harem or having one is beyond me in all cases, so just use your heart.
The mind is unfettered by time and space. The tangible connection built through any relationship, digital or personal is as real as the ground we walk on. The hurts and joys you share are no less real because of the medium, and are as worthwhile a pursuit as any in life.
A very tender reminder of how each of us affects others.
There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy. ~ Shakespeare (from Hamlet)
And I gave my heart to searching out in wisdom all things which are done under heaven: it is a hard thing which God has put on the sons of men to do. Ecclesiastes 1:13
What you do has merit for you and does not require acceptance from others. There will always be those who appreciate what you can do and a strong camp of those who fear it. Just do what is natural and let the healing flow, the world could use a gentle touch.
Polarity is something to which we all fall under the sway of. Negativity is largely the product of hurt and for these posters to denounce what they read so callously shows the depth of their hurt. For someone to see the beauty in a dying flower, that is art. Were it so that all were gifted with such vision to see beauty in simple black and white, the world would not be in such dire shape and perhaps there would be no need for the hundreds of online connection services that exist. Sadly that too would be a loss as there is no way for many to share ideas across so great a void of distance, and the world would be lessened by such as well.
To assume drugs because of literature is beyond me, but it is quite apparent that their hurt knows no bounds. Respect is something offered and best returned for full value to come into one's life.
I would but I do not believe there is any room in your poor me party... I have been calling for years and all the time-slots are filled by some dude playing poker on a ship... must have been you I guess.
I guess I will just remain afloat on reality not based on self-pity and denial (Not the river son... so your boat won't float there).
The vultures have begun it must have been the ages old scent of biblical writings... oddly enough if I were to quote from Hammurabi or Plato there would have been less reason to come and disapprove I suppose. Well enjoy your time with the docs... you need to smell the rain oce in a while and I hope they can point your feet in the right direction.
My friend the communist Holds meetings in his RV I can't afford his gas So I'm stuck here watching TV I don't have digital I don't have diddly squat It's not having what you want It's wanting what you've got
I'm gonna soak up the sun Gonna tell everyone To lighten up (I'm gonna tell 'em that) I've got no one to blame For every time I feel lame I'm looking up o I'm gonna soak up the sun I'm gonna soak up the sun I've got a crummy job It don't pay near enough To buy the things it takes To win me some of your love Every time I turn around I'm looking up, you're looking down Maybe something's wrong with you That makes you act the way you do Maybe i am crazy too
I'm gonna soak up the sun While it's still free I'm gonna soak up the sun Before it goes out on me Don't have no master suite I'm still the king of me You have a fancy ride, but baby I'm the one who has the key Every time I turn around I'm looking up, you're looking down Maybe something's wrong with you That makes you act the way you do Maybe I am crazy too
I'm gonna soak up the sun Got my 45 on So I can rock on.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not Love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not Love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not Love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and Love. But the greatest of these is Love. I Corinthians 13:1-13
Therein and only therein lies the root of unconditional... to attain it we must follow all the rules above no more and no less, and what every heart and soul desires and even needs, will be there for them beyond their wildest dreams. Written for all to see for the past two thousand years yet in the past few generations it has dwindled to less spark than what is required to light a match. Love is not a drug to enhance our emotion or currency to trade for things... it is a gift and like all gifts must be shared to have any worth. When you are out walking through your towns and cities look for it and you will find that humanity has the least of it remaining, and even then mainly it is apparent in our elders who have almost faded from our world taking this dream with them if we do not make abrupt changes to our thinking of what is right. Society will not help as economic growth is assured with divorce by the sudden need for two of everything but the cost is far beyond any currency on earth... it is our spirit and those of our children who pay this taxing burden...The correction of this gravest of human oversights begins in ourselves one person at a time...
To further provide unbiased words to the above effect for those who may feel oppressed by the religious overtones... Firstly I am most assuredly not religious as this is merely a portion of the machine that makes our world what it is today. I am however extremely spiritual and seek the truth in all places high and low. Much has been said of Love by many and here are a few to refresh the weary hearted...
Instant gratification is for those who have no plans for their twilight years. Clearly apparent that advertising has found another over-eager participant for lack luster endeavors. Enjoy yourself as you will and you will certainly find no end to those of similar mind-set. Of course your aforementioned meat market (which was carefully couched in spacing and tabs (congrats btw) and is not proper to mention herabouts) is filled to the brim with other like-minded individuals lacking the same substance. m**turbation with a face... Most here are seeking depth not provided in your TV Dinner sort of daliances, so perhaps what this man seeks is more substantial. Any fool can get laid... look about you and see the shameful humans that have children and imagine the protections used that prevented a doubling of the population. A relationship is not made through fishing... and most of those you catch are let go or spit the line anyways.
Peace ad good luck with that outlook. It is posted clearly for all to see, and will mar first impressions here for a long time to come.
Time Management One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered over-achievers he said, "Okay, time for a quiz" and he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. He also produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class yelled, "Yes." The time management expert replied, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. He dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks. He then asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?" By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?" "No!" the class shouted. Once again he said, "Good." Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?" One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it!" "No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is, "If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all. What are the 'big rocks' in your life, time with loved ones, your faith, your education, your dreams, a worthy cause, teaching or mentoring others? Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first or you'll never get them in at all. So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question, "What are the 'big rocks' in my life?" Then, put those in your jar first.
Again just some advice penned from another anonymous source, not myself, yet pertinent to the issue at hand.
Prayer I asked God for strength, that I might achieve. I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey. I asked for health, that I might do greater things. I was given infirmity, that I might do better things. I asked for riches, that I might be happy. I was given poverty, that I might be wise. I asked for power that I might have the praise of men. I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God. I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life. I was given life, that I might enjoy all things. I got nothing that I asked for but got everything I had hoped for. Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered. I am, among all people, most richly blessed. ~ C. F. Watters
Two Days There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is Yesterday with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed for ever beyond our control All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone. The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendour or behind a mask of clouds - but it will rise. Until it does we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is as yet unborn. This leaves only one day - Today. Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities - Yesterday and Tomorrow - that we break down. It is not the experience of Today that drives you mad - it is the remorse or bitterness for something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow will bring. I never wrote these and am not attempting to take credit for others words just sharing what has been shared with me.
The irony in your words is apparent to all but the poster. Love is an odd thing in that it often finds you when you have decided to stop looking. Much like the things you lose around your home... like keys and remotes for instance. They are always in the last place you look and manage to avoid detection until they are stumbled upon long after you have given up the travails of turning the house upside down for them. Usually they are right under our noses in plain sight and Love has managed to mimic this maddening skill better than any damn remote or set of keys ever made.
Peace, and in the meantime continue finding yourself as you will them have all of you to offer once you hear the knock on the door.
There can be no discourse without proper opposition but all too often the course of patter tends to get furrowed in the trenches of previous travels down the same dusty trails. In defence to many here the opinions of others are greatly valued and in all cases necesaary for the deliberation to continue to its head. The coming together is the goal desired by most, as it only through honest, compelling discourse that the truth can have its many tangled layers stretched forth. Malleability notwithstanding reason must be allowed to prosper, and as reason is not in direct proportion to reality it is fair to assume differences will be found. The Hatfields and the McCoys differed for the sake of difference and it seems their blood had found the internet as well at times. As humourous as their claims may be they have the unsettling ability to preclude other more tender voices from participation for fear of the barrage of slanderous material that has been heaped upon many a voice. Sometimes the depth of a topic requires first-hand knowledge and yet often the clearest truths come from those outside of the turmoil. Sadly they are the first to walk by seeing the writhing mass of phobias and distortion being strewn about in the medium. You my friend Ken have every right to post here and anywhere else as you take with you great wisdom and leave naught but a lessening of the onus. You are a good man and most welcome in any discourse.
Mat 25:34 Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: Mat 25:35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Mat 25:36 Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. Mat 25:37 Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed ? or thirsty, and gave drink? Mat 25:38 When saw we thee a stranger, and took in? or naked, and clothed ? Mat 25:39 Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? Mat 25:40 And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done unto me. Mat 25:41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: Mat 25:42 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink: Mat 25:43 I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. Mat 25:44 Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? Mat 25:45 Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did not to one of the least of these, ye did not to me. Mat 25:46 And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
Lets try not to let the authorship of this passage interfere with the content. It is not about plying religion or attempting to force this discourse outside of the realm posted in the OP. It is merely a reflection in words of a man many years gone who saw the self-same issue in his environment and made reason to seek its counter in his heart. Of course as stated in the OP the vultures will surely flock to this seeking carrion with which to sate their endless hunger.
The judgement of animals is something to be aware of if they are consistent. But randomness is a trait of animals at times... a cat arching its back to tear into a reflection of itself with utter abandon, or a pet stopping in an empty hallway to stare piercingly at nothing... A friend of mine had a pit-bull who often slept in his old car... he put the car for sale and a man drove by to see it. The dog slammed repeatedly into the windshield to attack the man who left in a rather hasty fashion. When my friend returned home from work the man came by to ask about the vehicle and his dog went completely berserk in the house, covering the window in foamy bubbles of rage... My friend's wife put the dog in the bedroom and locked him in there. That night the police came by to ask my friend about his missing car... it seemed that the interested party found it unnecessary to purchase said vehicle and decided to take it for free... so in this case the dog was more correct than the wife... As for the poor puppy, pit-bull or not, he was friendly as a child to most everyone he ever met... a little demanding in his play mode with all the firewood he dropped on your feet but a better judge of character than the humans who were fooled by a slick smile.
JB Picts can be found in Ireland and possible the coast of Great Britain herself, so there is no need to travel all the way to India for such, but I fear with the moral implications having your own to take home might fall under some shady delegations...
By breaking distance down into its integral meaning it is easy to determine how far is too far. Distance is merely a function of time, and as such the only medium of commerce we as people have to spend freely. If your heart is constantly adrift seeking the hearth of your loved one afar then perhaps you would be wise to spend some of that chronological currency seeking its reciprocal. If your child were a thousand miles away, it would not be such a difficult decision to make, because of the depth of the bond. The woven thread of that relationship would unravel or be strained terribly without closing the gap. This medium of meeting people is wonderful for the opportunities it presents to find others with a similar midset, but it is fraught with the simple peril of distance. Every journey begins with but a step, and if the song in your heart is truly what carries your heart aloft then by all means it is time to bridge the distance in some manner. Care of course must be taken to ensure the veracity of said connection, and fortunately there are plenty of methods available to do so. Roll over, crawl, walk, run in that order and its like riding a bike... you never forget. Just remember the journey is not all about the destination, take some time on this route to smell the flowers and be absolutely certain the garden you seek is what it was in the brochure.
There is just something about testicular trauma that brings tears to the eyes. It even affects men through television. Just watching a soccer player boot another man in the no score zone causes entire hordes of unwilling viewers to renegotiate the trecherous fall of their nuts called puberty. Moments like that make me quite happy to have my tonsils as it prevents my jewels from being lodged in my neck for safety.
If at times you feel you want to cry And life seems such a trial Above the clouds there's a bright blue sky So make your tears a smile. As you travel on life's way With its many ups and downs Remember its quite true to say One smile is worth a dozen frowns. Among the worlds expensive things A smile is very cheap And when you give a smile away, You get one back to keep. Happiness comes at times to all But sadness comes unbidden And sometimes a few tears must fall Among the laughter hidden. So when friends have sadness on their face And troubles round them piled The world will seem a better place And all because you smiled. ~~ Author Unknown ~~
TODAY I SMILED...
Today I smiled, and all at once things didn't look so bad. Today I shared with someone else, a bit of hope I had. Today I sang a little song, and felt my heart grow light, And walked a happy little mile, with not a cloud in sight. Today I worked with what I had and longed for nothing more, And what had seemed like only weeds, were flowers at my door. Today I loved a little more and complained a little less, And in the giving of myself, I forgot my weariness. ~~ Author Unknown ~~
A SMILE...
A Smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor, but that he can be made rich by it. A Smile creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign of friendship. It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and it is nature's best antidote for trouble. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone, until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile; Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. ~~ Author Unknown ~~
The truest value of a smile or friendship can only be found when it is given away.
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RE: What are the Rules of Dating?
I agree, multiple partners whether in a dating scenario or not, is equivalent to cheating. Making it public knowledge just cheapens the entirety of the whole prospect.Clinging to something until something more interesting, more successful, more handsome/beautiful, is not fair to anyone least of all to the one doing it.