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What do you want in a relationship?

And so would I...as soon as I knew it was real.

What do you want in a relationship?

It depends on the people, J, and why one isn't thinking of relocation. I have to "demand" that the other person relocate, or the relationship would remain an LDR, because of my sons. If I didn't have that, I'd have nothing to tie me here and would gladly leave.

I think whatever two people decide ends up being reasonable, my friend. And I hope you and GG figure this sticky wicket out, J.

What do you want in a relationship?

Btw, I'm happy for you. You're not the first one who came on and found that right person immediately...sometimes that's the magic of this site. Oh, and recognizing from what I've seen of you that was a tongue-in-cheek comment is why I was laughing .

Ah, I'm a strong, assertive female, so I need a man who can stand up to me and be equally assertive. Not aggressive or with a need to dominate, but he can't be wishy-washy either or I'll walk all over him...or just get bored.

So what did you do, find yourself a Leo female? The description sounds so very familiar!

What do you want in a relationship?

Oh, and if you loved him, wouldn't you be proud to be with him? You and I are not the type of woman to fall in love with someone we were ashamed to be with, my friend.

What do you want in a relationship?

I agree with you on that part, C. And I hope you find him.

RE: How do you measure the love that's left in your heart !!!!

It's a blessing when you reach that point. I'm glad you have also done so.

What do you want in a relationship?

Ah, John...we're all looking for someone to share our life, or we wouldn't be here, right? But what does that mean to you, my friend?

I've been doing further thinking on the subject throughout the day, and come up with this. For me, a relationship would evolve into a deep sharing of our lives in mind, body, and spirituality. It would have to have respect, communication, passion, and deep conversation, as well as include meditating and learning together. It would be a partnership of equals, and we would enjoy doing many different things together as well as enjoy our time apart either alone or with our own friends and interests that are separate. It would grow and evolve as we continued to do so together. The connection would be tantric.

What do you want in a relationship?

That you did, my friend! And I'm so happy for you and Don!

What do you want in a relationship?

Jenny, I'm so happy you found someone again after what happened with your last fiance! I wish you the best, dear lady. You are one of my heroes.

What do you want in a relationship?

Pseudonymn, I love your whole post, but especially that part. Beautiful. And I truly hope you find it, for it embraces life!

RE: IS ANYBODY ON THIS SITE REALLY SINGLE???????

So true, Morgan, on both counts. And I welcome the married ones and those in a relationship that met on here because of the hope they give the rest of us that it really can work...and because they're the really good ones.

But you'll have the cheaters here just like anywhere else, and those ones usually aren't honest about their status. Also, "not single/not looking" can just mean that they're not looking...I see that one as an either/or for those who aren't in a relationship but aren't looking at the moment as well.

RE: Today's thought............

And I sure do admit those foibles on here a lot, Pat!

A good point about admitting when we're wrong. So many are incapable of doing so, and that's a big part of what destoys relationships.

What do you want in a relationship?

Uh-oh...compromise is a good thing, but this is the part where I believe LDRs get tricky. It's got to come down to who is most able to relocate, I guess. For me, that's something that's out of the question for several years because of my sons...but then, I'd be willing to do so. Is there something like that preventing her? Or just strong ties to where she lives?

You'll work it out, J. And I'll watch for when your profile says you live in Canada.

What do you want in a relationship?

And with that attitude, the two of you will figure it out and make it work, of that I've no doubt. And I'll have to keep that in mind, for it's highly unlikely that I'll find "him" in my backyard...though I'd prefer it that way.

My best to you and GG...and so true about luck being part of success.

RE: WHO WANTS TO JOIN ME TO ESTABLISH INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR PEACE BETWEEN ALL RELIOGNS . MUSLIM

I wish you well in your endeavor, Sam. I truly hope you find many to join you in this movement for peace. Blessings.

What do you want in a relationship?

What do you want in a relationship?

OK, those are the serious ones...but also the little everyday ones, like leaving the cap off of the toothpaste tube, or the wet towels on the bedroom floor (both of which would drive me insane).

What do you want in a relationship?

Yes, Morgan, and that's the point I find myself at...which I guess is why I had the conundrum of not knowing how to answer my good friend's question at the time.

Blessings that you've found it, and that you both treasure it well, my friend.

What do you want in a relationship?

For that, my friend, I'd do it...but I'd try to convince him that when it was possible, a move to a warmer climate would be better for our health!

What do you want in a relationship?

Very true, RK.

It's not finding the person you can live with, it's finding the person you can't live without...and whose faults you can live with.

What do you want in a relationship?

I hope so, especially given my reply to you in your thread.

What do you want in a relationship?

That's entirely possible, J.

Ah, as Owen said, I have faith that when the time is right, the right person will come along. Look at what happened for you, my extremely complex and intelligent goofy friend!

Speaking of which, say hi to GG for me, please!

What do you want in a relationship?

Ah, Morgan, that's a good relationship...and the most important part of it is the last part.

What do you want in a relationship?

As you, my complex friend, well understand.

I'm well aware that I face a huge challenge in finding a match. Eharmony even rejected me for that reason! (Too well-balanced.)

I deal with my complexities every day, and even laugh about them...finding someone else who can meet them and understand them is my biggest challenge.

RE: what is fav part of woman or man body you like

Ah, my second favorite part for that reason, Nottoo!

Not to mention what a good set of hands can do! Healing, massaging, light loving touches...and all else.

What do you want in a relationship?

Touche! Love it, DS! (HJ, I think you've met your match!)

What do you want in a relationship?

Fair answer.

I'm just trying to clarify early on that this isn't about describing the person one is looking for, but what one wants once one finds that person. I wasn't trying to pick on you, nor on Ali.

What do you want in a relationship?

Yes, I think it's harder as we get older because we have learned from our past mistakes, and we have learned more of who we truly are and who we want to share our lives with...and we settle for less than we did when we were younger because of that combination.

I do know that eventually I want to share my life deeply with someone...I just also know that doesn't mean we have to be attached at the hips to have a happy and satisfying life. What a happy and satisfying life is to me has changed a lot, my friend. I have more complex needs than I have before.

What do you want in a relationship?

So are you saying that you believe marriage should be a relationship between two open-minded people who are honest and sincere? OK, that's a start.

RE: How do you measure the love that's left in your heart !!!!

RK, you're a different person now, and need someone who meets your current needs. And each of us is unique, so you'll never find the exact same thing as she was, either. And if you seek that, you're not healed yet.

Time and tears heal the pain. If you're at the point of learning to live with it, you're not healed fully yet, you have a way to go.

It's when you realize the pain isn't there anymore at all, that the memories bring a smile to your face, and so do the songs, that you know you're healed.

My knowledge that that was absolutely true for me came with the two year anniversary of his death, which is also followed by his birthday two days later. I expected it would be a hard week for me, but found that it wasn't. I was okay, and the memories brought smiles to my face. I had a beautiful visit with his spirit and his energy that night, and went to bed at peace. I don't seek to find someone like him again. I've changed way too much, and I like the changes in my self and in my life, and I seek someone compatible with who I am now.

That's how I know I've healed fully now. The timeline is different for us all, but you're well on your way along the path.