druidess6308 Forum Posts (13,695)

RE: Nichiren Buddhism A Philosophy For Living

Thank you for this thread, JP. I've been reading some of the teachings of Buddhism lately, and it's certainly a very inspiring and peaceful faith. If I were going to adhere to a true religious belief, this would probably be the one. I've read the posts here by you and Outrageous, and I'll be looking further into Buddhism. I combine parts of many beliefs into my Path, amongst them the ways of the Native Americans and the Druids, Taoism, and Buddhism. Through my studies so far in Buddhism, I've found peace and acceptance for the experiences of my life, and also gratefulness for even the smallest things.

RE: Hardest thing to deal with

So make him beautiful like that again with lots of love and good food. (Not too much so he gets fat, though.) Obviously, he was meant to find his way back to you.

Both of the dogs I have now came to me with too little weight on them, one from being stray for a couple of months from our guesses and the other from neglect. Both are at healthy weights for them now. My male remains thin, but at least it's muscle now, and it's just because he spends so much time and energy chasing birds and squirrels.

RE: Do you really think people can find thier soulmate on a dating website?

That, I have done on several sites, but most of all here. I always welcome friends. I agree that I came here originally searching for that "one", but I made so many friends and had so much fun in the forums that I've stayed for reason.

RE: Vibes and energies

If you're extremely sensitive, as some of us are on here, then yes it could be from the multitude of people on here. I keep a crystal handy with the point away from both me and the computer to draw the negative energy away, and also purple fluorite and an azurite/malachite combination crystal near my computer to help dispel negative energy. Smudge every so often if a lot of negative energy seems to build up.

Blessings, and welcome!

RE: New Single Mummy Here :)

Welcome to the nut house! Hang out, have fun, and best of luck in your search!

RE: Hardest thing to deal with

Just be grateful that he was able to escape and return to where he will be loved.

I abhor cruelty to animals, and because of that I rescue all of my pets. Many good animals end up in shelters like The Humane Society after being abused or neglected and just need a second chance in a loving home, and some patience. This is what I give to all of my furry children.

RE: Do you really think people can find thier soulmate on a dating website?

I have started dating someone who lives near me that I met on a dating site. Because of the distance between us, we never would have met any other way. So far, it's going very well.

I know many these days who have met their SO this way. If you don't go to bars or do some activity that introduces you to a wide variety of people, it's hard to meet people the "old fashioned way" these days, and so many of us are online frequently now that it just makes sense to join a service today.

RE: Interracial relationships--your thoughts.

Why, J.D? We're all entitled to our opinions and preferences.

To answer the OP: Yes, I've dated men of other races and even mixed races, and I don't really care what race anyone is...remove the skin, we're all of the human race. One planet, one people, one race.

RE: Dear Dogs and Cats:

Pat, thank you for this post. You've combined all of my favorite pet sayings in one post, and I love it!!!!

RE: Do you care how old is your partner?

GP, my friend, I agree with you on this. I couldn't go more than 10 years older, and most likely about 5-6 years younger, comfortably. I think beyond that, we don't have enough in common to make it work long term, and I'm not looking for a "hit-it-and-quit-it", or even a FWB. I want a long term partner, and that means someone within a certain range of my age and with reasonable health. Age might be just a number, but it's an important number.

RE: Will Humanity Destroy Ourselves...Or?

Nobody can predict that, Wonder...but I do hope we'd become better.

RE: Don't look at me or my profile

J, I had to go back to this to see what your response was, and because of it, I had to dredge this up from its place in the archives before I log off today.

Ah my friend, my glass is always full, cracks can never get deep enough to empty it even a little bit (others might think I'm cracked, or on crack, at times though, because of that )...and I guess the right man doesn't run away when he discovers you haven't got money right now, especially if he's in a similar boat. Life is always an adventure, and I've become adept at surfing its crests and dips.

I would be honored to share a bottle of wine with you sometime, and would gladly do so despite the agony it would cause me shortly thereafter (which is why I no longer drink it). Maybe white wine wouldn't cause as much agony...or I could get drunk enough to fog the memory of it. We could spend hours discussing God, love, men, life...and our love of words and rhymes. God love you, too, J.

RE: happy birthday AsleepInNJ

Happy Birthday, AINJ!!!

RE: I'm weary of this.

I agree with you about finding that anything worthwhile is worth the wait and effort, and that if it's truly worthwhile it takes both of those.

I have found that what I love most about CS is the forums and the friends I've made here. I no longer seek more from this site.

RE: What is the one thing that you do not tolerate in a relationship?

As much as possible, I do that as well, Laura. I hate going through stores looking for things. Clothing and shoes are my big exceptions, since I like to try things on to see how they fit and feel.

RE: What is CS Forums really

For me, forums have become a place to enjoy conversation with a lot of people from different parts of the world that I wouldn't have met otherwise. The conversations I partake in here don't happen outside of here in my daily world, and I have learned how to express myself freely on a variety of topics I've never really gotten to discuss before, mostly with intelligent people who also enjoy deep discussions.

My break from being so active, however, stemmed from a loss of many of those enlightened and enjoyable discussions and people no longer being part of the forums. I avoid the dramas and the negativity as often as possible, so there hasn't been much to participate in lately, though there seem to be at least one or two threads a day when I do get to log on.

Having been addicted and guilty of living my life online rather than doing the things I needed to do, I do realize that this was a good thing in some ways, for life needs to be balanced.

Btw, although I am anti-religious, I'm deeply spiritual. But we do have a high majority of atheists here who speak up and provide a good debate on the subject if one wishes to read it or participate. Personally, I have learned to refrain, for it doesn't resolve anything. We all have a right to our beliefs, or lack thereof.

RE: I'm weary of this.

So true, BJ.

RE: I'm weary of this.

If all you spend is lonely days looking online for a virtual g/f, you will be sadly disappointed, and most likely disappointed with what you find. Live life, enjoy the forums for the fun they are meant to be, and seek to live...eventually, in the way it's meant to be, love will enter your life again. Don't close any doors, for love cannot then walk through them...rather leave them open, and let love find you.

RE: Todays Thought.............

So very true, Pat. It's why I've learned not to make judgments--my window wasn't so pure, so they were biased, and I was often wrong. Eventually, I figured it out, and cleaned the window. Now I don't judge.

RE: Are you Free ?

Sultryash and Cristina, I loved your posts. There are very few places where individual freedom exists. The USA has always been considered one of them, but we're losing our individual freedoms daily, and soon won't have any of them left at all, so I can no longer say that I'm a free citizen because I live here. Blessings to those who live in countries where those freedoms we all have a right to are respected. One of these days I may join you there.

However, as much as I am able to within the law, I am a free individual who thinks and acts for myself. I have divorced men who have tried to control me, and my family sure discovered that they couldn't do that anymore by the time I was 16 (my first wheels were my first gift of freedom). I follow my own path, and live my life the way I see fit. And hopefully, I've found someone who fits well within it, or at least respects that as I respect the right of all others to do so.

RE: What is love?

Love is a feeling with many subtle variances to it, but all have one thing in common. The people you love are those who you will grieve over when they die, for it will feel as if a piece of the fabric of your life is missing. They are the people you would take a bullet for without even thinking, just because it would be a reflex action to protect them, your feelings for them are so deep.

RE: What is the one thing that you do not tolerate in a relationship?

You've summed it up very well, Raven! I won't tolerate someone controlling me, attempting to domineer me, humiliating me, etc. either.

Thankfully, I've found someone who is as honest as I am, and who views the world with the same child-like wonder that I do, and is a fellow healer and spiritualist. Apparently, if this works for long term, we just need someone else to handle our finances.

RE: What is the one thing that you do not tolerate in a relationship?

There is more than one thing I won't tolerate in a relationship, but I guess most of it comes back to the same thing: dishonesty. The rest would fall under laziness and intolerance.

RE: Do you believe you will find what you're looking for on this site?

You are a cunning linguist?

I'm 100% certain I'll find what I seek on this site since all I'm here for is friendship and hanging out in forums.

RE: Don't look at me or my profile

I read it afterwards, and saw that part about getting to know you through your posts.

I can understand that situation. It's why I'm not online as much now myself. Computer broke, then I had internet and TV shut off. The blessing is I'm getting further in my studies without those distractions, and life is becoming fuller and better. (I'd like those conveniences back some day soon, though. For now, though, I need to worry about necessities like utilities and food, and keeping the car on the road.)

It also makes it hard to date. Men tend to run when you're broke, even though I'd never ask one for a penny. So be it.

RE: Soul Mates

Soul mates aren't always that easy. Twin souls can be an especially rough relationship, btw...sounds like it should be easier, but it's not since there are tests to go through for it to work out right, and sometimes it doesn't. The point of soul mates is to help us with certain lessons for soul growth, not to just click like that and go smoothly. Don't forget that we're not human beings on a spiritual journey, but rather we're spiritual beings on a human journey.

RE: Soul Mates

I believe in soul mates, and also believe that we can have more than one. Yes, they can be your opposite or your mirror. I have one who I feel in my soul very deeply, and love very much, but we are definitely opposites and it isn't going to develop into a romantic relationship in this lifetime. Sad, but true. My late husband was definitely a soul mate of mine, and this has been confirmed in various readings. I also believe my second husband is one, and that we had our time together for a purpose, but that it wasn't meant to last forever, just to produce our two children and establish early parenting together. Do I have another soul mate to meet up with and develop a lasting relationship with yet in this life? Time will tell.

Some of our soul mates can be really close friends and of the same gender, btw...we have many people in our soul group that we have different relationships with in the course of our lifetimes in order to help each other learn the lessons we've come here to learn.

Excellent thread.

RE: Don't look at me or my profile

You and me both, Pike...and the worse names don't bother me either.

RE: have you found romance on this site?

Ditto...which is why I'm only here for friends and forums now. I'll stick closer to home for romance, no more LDRs for me. Besides, I'm too open on here for having a romance. It would stifle my posting, I'm afraid. I need here to "let it all hang out", so to speak.

RE: money or love?

So don't live quite that hedonistically!