druidess6308 Forum Posts (13,695)

RE: Love is Pointless

Love is never pointless, but it sounds like you need to take some time away from the search for it outside of yourself and work on finding it inside yourself. Sometimes we need a break to heal ourselves, and to find relief from the hurt and frustration that loving another can cause.

I've been hurt and betrayed many times, very badly. And yet I love and trust again. Why? Because to live a life ruled by fear of feeling emotions just isn't worthwhile to me...that's not LIVING.

Yes, sometimes life hurts. People you love will move away or die. Somebody will say something unkind to you. It happens to us all. But without the pain, we wouldn't be able to fully appreciate the joy, nor would we be able to stretch and grow as a human, in heart and spirit. Blessings, and good luck in your journey, wherever it may take you.

RE: anybody want to be a cowboy ?

Loved looking back at old posts from August when this originated! Makes one wistful at times, though, for those who are no longer with us.

My answer remains the same...I'd still love to ride a cowboy!

RE: Putting CS Names to Voices/Faces

I'd like to know who Bette Midler is!

Btw, I will say that her Irish brogue/English accent is very soft, not difficult to understand at all, and very pleasant.

RE: If love doesn't exist

Same to you, my friend! And that's very true...I just had this discussion with one of my dearest friends last night. She's in that place, and wants solitude for a while, and into that came a man who loves her so much, as she does him, and who is so good to and for her. Truly, they're beautiful together, and so much fun! We had to talk about why his buying her a ring freaked her out so much, and I shared with her how I felt before I met my late husband...and where I finally am again now...it was a beautiful moment within our friendship, a true heart sharing.

RE: What would you do?

If I spied them in some out-of-the-way corner, I'd pause somewhere within sight and see if they approached me...unless I could find a reason to join them in that corner and start a discussion. If neither happened, I'd keep on walking, trusting that if it's meant to be, then this is just a preliminary glimpse and we'll meet again.

RE: Putting CS Names to Voices/Faces

Funny, I had a similar experience recently.

I've had the pleasure of meeting one CSer in person and talking to a few on the phone, and it definitely makes the contact feel more personal than just talking here in the forums. I feel blessed to be a part of these forums, though, because I've made some wonderful friends around the world and across the US that I'd never have met without them.

And so far, everyone has sounded a lot like I expected, and their personalities have been just as they are on here or better.

And some day, when I get a computer and the internet at home again, I'm going to hook up that webcam I bought and use it for increasing that contact across the globe. Technology, and IM services that allow this contact, are wonderful things!

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

Same to you, R!

RE: YOUR PERSON OF THE YEAR

Yeah, it takes me a minute sometimes.

Honest, it's not a dye-job, my hair was naturally brunette (now it's naturally salt and pepper). I swear those aren't blond hairs coming in, they look silver in the mirror!

RE: YOUR PERSON OF THE YEAR

Let me guess, is he referring to Tony Blair here, not a real dog? If so, I retract my last answer.

I'll vote for Opal and Jet, my two dogs, instead.

RE: If love doesn't exist

We are human beings. And love exists, but it must first be found within. So many are desperately looking for someone else because they don't have that...and I was guilty of that for a long time as well. Now I've reached the point of loving my self, and loving my life, and I no longer care whether there's someone "special" to share the rest of it with me or not...for I have a lot of special people who share it. I'm blessed to have the friends that I have, and to be as surrounded by love as I am.

If you have that kind of love, you need no other. I still want it, I just don't need it any more...there's a difference.

RE: YOUR PERSON OF THE YEAR

Agreed.

RE: what controls you ...what do you reall really want .....can not resist!!!...TURNS YOU ON ...LOL

I love this answer, GF!

RE: what controls you ...what do you reall really want .....can not resist!!!...TURNS YOU ON ...LOL

Personality is most important from that list, but there's more. Because of the life I live, and the lifestyle I'm going further towards, I need a mate who is compatible with that whole lifestyle. So their personality, spirituality, health, health practices, and lifestyle are what is really important to me.

And truly, I think that's so for all of us. Many don't consider me a compatible match because of my lifestyle and interests, and that's okay with me.

RE: Your first date...dates late... "would you wait or not?"

V, it's a strong person who can admit that they made such a blunder, and that they learned a lesson from it.

Yes, I'd wait. As others have said, after about 10-15 minutes, I'd try calling. Depending on where they're coming from around here, we can suddenly run into unexpected traffic jams. There's also such a thing as getting lost.

I tend to be early or on time, and to allow for such mishaps, but I also understand that things happen to us all.

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

John, what a good point!

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

Exactly. Remove our skin, we're all the same colors underneath...red blood vessels, pink organs (if they're healthy), brownish-gray brains, etc. We hurt, we cry, we joke, we laugh, and we love. I believe in dating someone who's of the human race.

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

Well, you just gave a popular definition of jealousy.

And I seem to remember that The Hulk fit this description, but wasn't an alien. And in this country we call illegal immigrants "aliens".

If you're from a culture that I'm unfamiliar with, and vice versa, wouldn't that make us both "aliens" to each other?

See...it can be taken deep, shallow, humorously...

RE: WE ARE F___KED!

Ooby, I don't often voice my views on politics, but I couldn't ignore this thread. I've always loved your views, and your exposure of what's happening in DC. Blessings, and keep it up.

RE: WE ARE F___KED!

And we should be surprised?

The big auto corporations and petroleum companies lobbied to get electric vehicles banned because of the loss of business for the petroleum industry...though they have many other sources of income since petroleum is used in so many products. Heck with our planet, don't make the oil companies lose money!

There are many things that are swept under the rug and eliminated that would help mankind and the planet because of the financial loss big corporations would suffer. Does it really surprise you that this is going to get worse? They're fighting to stay alive.

And "we the sheeple" don't fight it. We have the ability to make our votes count if enough of us stand up and say "ENOUGH!" But we don't, we just let it happen, and then complain afterwards, or deny it completely. Many of the sheeple live in denial, Ooby. "Denial isn't a river in Egypt, it's an ocean in the US."

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

Define "alien".

RE: Ever dated a white guy before?

I don't get it either, Taino. I date people because of who they are inside, not outside, same as I choose my friends. Isn't a life mate/partner supposed to be someone who is first and foremost our best friend? Cultural and religious differences can make a relationship on any level difficult if they're too extreme, but skin color has never determined my choices in dating or friendship. And honestly, to say that all black people or all white people are the same would be like saying all Americans or all Europeans are the same...and that definitely isn't true.

RE: Today's thought.......

This is something I made sure that I did during the holidays, rather than get caught up in the hustle and bustle. I took time to rest, relax, and recharge my batteries. Winter, especially, is the time for this. SAD is not a disorder, but rather our body's way of reminding us that this is a time to rest more, slow down, and follow the rhythms of Nature. Our ancestors did this well, but we forget in our lives that are over-filled with technology and thereby out of synch with Nature, so we see the things that guide us to follow those rhythms as disorders, rather than paying them heed. (If you wonder where I got that information from, read the writings of Peggy La Cerra on depression and SAD.)

Blessings

RE: Anyone out there so in love with someone right now?

First, congratulations, Moonlove! I'm glad to hear it, and I hope it all goes well. Many years of happiness to you both.

Second, I voted yes, I'm so in love right now because I am...I'm in love with my self, my friends, my sons, my parents, my dogs and with life.

You have to love yourself before you can truly love another.

RE: How Honest Are you Really About Yourself??

I've always shown mine in the forums even, very openly. And talked about them. Our faults are a part of us, and I think it's very important to know the faults of your partner and know if you can live with them or not, upfront. None of us are perfect, by any means.

RE: How Honest Are you Really About Yourself??

That's actually something I never worried about, even in the beginning on here. And heck, it's been over a year...if I was faking anything, it would be an act worthy of an Oscar. (And trust me, I'm not a good actress.)

It's why I find these forums the best way for those who are long distance to meet. If you're both on here for any length of time, faults will start to show. If those faults are acceptable, then it's got a good shot...if not, better to find out sooner rather than later. And that's happened twice on here...my finding out that their personality didn't work for me with exposure, especially when being on the phone or IM while both posting in the forums.

RE: How Honest Are you Really About Yourself??

My personality is true on here, but I've also never claimed to be perfect. My faults have shown...and the fact that I can be quite hurt and fall back into old behavior patterns. Or at least, I could a few months ago. I don't now, even faced with situations recently that would have triggered it. I've grown during my time on here, just because of the work I'm doing consciously towards that.

That said, I'm still not perfect. I can have a temper. I warn boyfriends that if it happens, just let me vent. It's over in about 5 minutes or less, and then it's over forever. And since my sense of humor is never completely gone, if you know me well enough, you can get me over it quicker if you can crack me up. My sons have learned this well.

I'm a perfectionist, and an organizational freak. I have places for everything, and I expect them to be in those places. When they're not, even if it's my own fault, it drives me nuts. (And yes, I've done it to myself.)

I'm resistant to change, especially in my home environment, especially small changes. However, large-scale change like remodeling or moving doesn't faze me in the least.

Nope, I'm not the easiest person to live with by any means. And yet, I'm tolerant of others, patient, don't have a short fuse on my temper, and willing to compromise...so, I'm not the most difficult person to live with either.

Good thread, A!

RE: Real Men Cry

I've seen both, and yes 'Two Brothers' was excellent!

RE: Real Men Cry

There are a lot of movies that affect me this way. Any touching story will do it, including books and magazine articles. Reader's Digest was always good for a good cry or two, for example.

I grew up watching my dad need the kleenex box passed to him as much as all of us "girls" needed it, so I grew up knowing that real men cry...it's one of my standards for a man with whom I can have a serious relationship. Not that he needs to be able to cry at a drop of a hat, but that he's comfortable expressing his emotions, and able to cry.

RE: Today's thought.......

How timely, as always, Pat. I've gotten off-track again with my studies, and have to get myself firmly back on-track. Thank you for this reminder of what has taken me off-track again. And Happy New Year!

I'm not leaving...

Yeah, without a computer, I haven't bothered keeping internet access. I'll restore that when I have something to use it on.

Have a great year, g/f! I've missed you on here.