I agree with most of your comments, but feel that money is really secondary to a Childs health and welfare, first is love, I have seen firsthand utter devotion and love given to a child in extreme poverty and also seen scant regard for a child in a very wealthy family, where a mother got annoyed because she was late attending a county ball and the "Brat was playing up again". The Brat in question was actually trying to get her younger sister dressed and ready, oh and not to go to the Ball but to a friend for the night.
Horses for courses I guess, saddens me on how bad some parents can be, so unthinking and uncaring.
I'm not sure it is gender based, I mean when I communicate via the net I keep one foot firmly on planet earth, so if the contact dies away there is no ill feeling etc, but I always assumed that the person I was chatting with was doing the same, it was only once we met face to face that I (Them) would start to actually become "Involved"
As I see it the men who abandon their partners and children create such bad emotions that ALL men are then tarred with the same brush, you are a living example of how wrong this generalisation can be.
No, what you are saying is that you have no respect for women, that in your view, they should exist for your pleasure in the kitchen and bedroom, because they are delicate creatures they should not have to work or provide anything to a relationship other than being a home maker. I am sorry, we live in the 21st century, women are just as capable of providing as men, to assume that all they want in life is to have kids tied to their apron strings is, to my mind wrong, all my ex's were intelligent women who wanted and made a good career paths. What is needed is more equality not less.
And I fail to understand what is shameful for a man to want to bring up his own children, maybe for you it is okay, but for the majority of responsible absent fathers we would jump at the chance rather than just being a source of financial support.
Finally, not all men walk away from a relationship or are abusive or drug addicts or have affairs, sometimes it is the women who decides the grass is greener, sometimes the women is the one who refuses to try and overcome family problems, sometime she is the one who runs away rather than face the consequences and try to make amends, she then not only destroys the relationship but also destroyed the fathers role as a loving and attentive Daddy to his children. BUT SHE STILL ENDS UP WITH THE FATHERS CHILDREN.
Then why a few weeks ago were taking a diametrically opposed view? You know as well as I do that the responsibility for a child is with both parents, whether living with the child or not.
I don't have a chip, I do however have a problem with those who feel that a father has no place to bring up his own children other than with financial support, if that is a problem for you so be it, but don't accuse me of things you have no knowledge about. I was not picking on you, just stating a fact that it takes two to make a child and two should be responsible for the upbringing of that child, if one parent dies that is of course an entirely different case, and was not what was being suggested by the OP
I do have a problem with one poster yes, because he is deliberately trying to stir up, he was talking a completely different view a few weeks ago, but I guess he is right and I am wrong.
In my research I have found that it’s best for men to avoid women who are unmarried at 40 but have children, who have a chip on each shoulder and who are so shallow they resemble an upside down saucer and who think money is more important than life.
It is not always true that only scammers send their email in the first contact, I made contact with just someone like that we ended up becoming great friends, if fact she was the reason I am now in Italy starting a new life.
My rule of thumb is, to carry on exchanging messages via CS, if that appears okay then progress to emails and/or messengers and so on, I usually stipulate in my first email that under no circumstances would I send or receive money from someone I only knew via the internet and that if at any time a request is made then that would terminate all contact.
Yep, what we need is to smack a few politicians heads together, get them ALL to understand that life is for everyone not just the rich, we could all learn so much from the likes of the Aborigines, the Incas etc, they understood that the world was just lent to them as a place to live, that it need to be looked after and the monetary wealth was not the most important.
Precisely, we are a result of the big bang not because of it, therefore it is only logical that if things had been even minutely different then all life would have evolved differently, maybe with a life form that actually had the wisdom to realise where it originated from and how to live in peace and harmony with all other life forms.
When I was in Spain we used to have the most incredible electric storms, with no rain, my then partner and I used to go up onto the roof deck and lie there watching id all around, sheet lightening and forked, some of the most amazing patterns and the whole valley lit up like a huge florescent light was switching on and off.
I also adore storms.
I now live in a pine forest on top of a mountain, major thunderstorms here with a huge fire risk
No it's awful, my puppy died from that, got a tick which we never saw until to late and he had knocked off the body leaving the head still attached to him, by the time we realised what had happened it was to late and he had to be put to sleep, very sad
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RE: Should women have children if they can not support them properly?
I agree with most of your comments, but feel that money is really secondary to a Childs health and welfare, first is love, I have seen firsthand utter devotion and love given to a child in extreme poverty and also seen scant regard for a child in a very wealthy family, where a mother got annoyed because she was late attending a county ball and the "Brat was playing up again". The Brat in question was actually trying to get her younger sister dressed and ready, oh and not to go to the Ball but to a friend for the night.Horses for courses I guess, saddens me on how bad some parents can be, so unthinking and uncaring.