Getting rid of the love won't really help anything.
A break up is a loss. It's a loss of that person in your life, but it's also a loss of the bond you thought you shared, and a loss of what you thought was your future.
Just deal with the loss, the love's not the problem.
It doesn't matter to me either way, and I think that's becoming the new norm.
Significantly more women than men are graduating from college now in the US. Income will eventually reflect that trend and working women will on average out earn working men.
This educational trend is very apparent in my family.
My father and I both have "some" college, my mother has a masters,
and my sister holds a bachelors degree.
Among my Aunts uncles and first cousins, none of the men have
college degrees but several of the women do.
My guess is over the next forty years, the average income of the working women in my family will be substantially higher than the average income of the working men.
On the right side of your page, under "forum help" there'll be a "search" function. Unlike the one at the top of the page which searches users, it will search the forums.
I search "ocee102" and get results of people quoting me,
and I also search "ocee" and I get the people saying my name.
It will only rturn 3 pages of result, and the archive is searchs seems to be updated daily, or maybe on a twelve hour delay, I haven't completely worked out the timing.
PS: It's also useful for spotting multi profilers, returning trolls and such if you spot a unique phrase, mispelling, or just a very rarely used out of fashion word.
It's a good way to not get to rusty, if you don't get out a lot(I don't).
If you're having fun, I'd hang around but maybe don't put all your hopes in this basket. I think that's probably sound advice for any one venue of meeting people.
Though I do think there's a fair few Irish members, so it may become more viable for you as a local dating resource when you move.
If I think our troubles are fixable, I'm a tryer I just keep going back and trying to figure out how to get on the same page.
However I've a couple standing offers from women I'm genuinely fond of but I'm pretty sure no amount of talking would fix what split us up in the first place. I've gone back under those circumstances before, but it just doesn't feel worth it to me right now.
We don't look too highly on men who need to show off they're
smarter than their partner in front of her friends either.
I don' think it's a healthy thing to make a habit of in a relationship anyway. If everyone's always trying to one up the other, every conversation or attempt to share what you think and how you feel turns into a debate.
If every time your partner shares a thought or idea with you, you have to challenge it to show how smart you are eventually they're going to get guarded and share less and less or just shut down entirely.
Start with the basics, or things closest to you and work your way out to larger and more complex things as you can. I think peace/contentment/happiness is not completely result dependent. I think there's an element of knowing you're doing what you can.
Are you familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.
First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.
I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.
From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.
And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
We might need to ask ourselves how much influence china has over the likes of Walmart, who's interest Walmart money is really serving as a result of that influence, and how much of that type of money/influence we want to allow in our electoral process through "corporate" donations.
We also should consider that when push comes to shove, how many US companies who've moved manufacturing to China, will try to influence through elections US/Chinese policy because they'll go under if relations deteriorate.
Corporate campaign contributions are an open a back door
at the White House any interest/influence can walk through,
We hear many different things about how alcohol affects the brain and body, most notably that it is a depressant. That’s only part of the story. Alcohol is a depressant, but it’s also an indirect stimulant, and plays a few other roles that might surprise you.
Alcohol directly affects brain chemistry by altering levels of neurotransmitters — the chemical messengers that transmit the signals throughout the body that control thought processes, behavior and emotion. Alcohol affects both “excitatory” neurotransmitters and “inhibitory” neurotransmitters.
An example of an excitatory neurotransmitter is glutamate, which would normally increase brain activity and energy levels. Alcohol suppresses the release of glutamate, resulting in a slowdown along your brain’s highways.
An example of an inhibitory neurotransmitter is GABA, which reduces energy levels and calms everything down. Drugs like Xanax and Valium (and other benzodiazopenes) increase GABA production in the brain, resulting in sedation. Alcohol does the same thing by increasing the effects of GABA. This, by the way, is one reason you don’t want to drink alcohol while taking benzodiazopenes; the effects will be amplified, and that can slow your heart rate and respiratory system down to dangerous levels.
So what we just discussed accounts for the depressant effects of alcohol: it suppresses the excitatory neurotransmitter glutamate and increases the inhibitory neurotransmitter GABA. What this means for you is that your thought, speech and movements are slowed down, and the more you drink the more of these effects you’ll feel (hence the stumbling around, falling over chairs and other clumsy things drunk people do).
But here’s the twist: alcohol also increases the release of dopamine in your brain’s “reward center.” The reward center is the same combination of brain areas (particularly the ventral striatum) that are affected by virtually all pleasurable activity, including everything from hanging out with friends, going on vacation, getting a big bonus at work, ingesting drugs (like cocaine and crystal meth), and drinking alcohol."
I've only caught a couple of the pics(and my capacity for humor is a bit stunted at the moment).
I see a busy, very socially interactive thread(often the only one of it's tone going) wherein there's a lot of pages to flip through to find your pics.
I don't think it's a coincidence this is the thread packed with the most laughter and social interaction going. It's the tone YOU set in your holiday threads, they are appreciated and looked forward to. You can almost see people exhaling in releif knowing they're some place that's just for fun.
If you're getting less response to the the pics than usual, I think it's not that they're less liked or appreciated, but that maybe people more needed this thread(A Kaybee thread ) to let their guard down and play with each other in.
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RE: can you get rid of your love of your x ?
Getting rid of the love won't really help anything.A break up is a loss. It's a loss of that person in your life, but it's also a loss of the bond you thought you shared, and a loss of what you thought was your future.
Just deal with the loss, the love's not the problem.