Ocee102 Forum Posts (1,399)

RE: COUNTDOWN TO HALLOWEEN

I'm not seeing how it's different from Ralph having fun with people's pics?

Those were enjoyed to.



I mean it's obviously up to you, and if it's not fun for you then don't do it, but I don't see where you've done anything wrong, or in poor taste.

RE: Women make first the move

Yes, you do.


Anything from crowding my personal space, to subtle hints, to hat theft, or a foot in my lap under the table. It's my experience that interested women, find ways to let us know. Some are more or less subtle than others, but women who will not make their interest known are the exception in my opinion.

RE: Shopping, what is your take on it

I hadn't checked Macy's, thank you Felix.

RE: what was your last thought thread

YEa...no.

RE: Shopping, what is your take on it

I enjoy shopping.

It has a hunter/gatherer aspect to it.

I like grocery shopping because I like good food and I care what I get, I also like trying new things and if I'm true to my nature I try at least a couple new foods a month. Eating well without spending a fortune around here, means multiple grocery store shopping trips.

I don't mind shopping for clothes unless I"m pressed for time and have to pay full retail. I prefer to buy things on sale at the end of the season. I wear them a couple times and have them like new for next year. It allows me a higher quality of item then I would otherwise likely justify, and for less money.

I shop recreationally, which I know is fairly unusual for a man, but I work alone most of the time so I like being out around the people(it's also partly why I visit here). I figure if I'm going to be out just to be out, I might as well use that time to save myself from having to spend a lot for clothes in particular.

Simple clothes shopping was never really an option for me as an adult anyway. At 6'2" and about 160 lbs(I'm up about 10 lbs in the last couple months, ya me! ) I need talls, and being an unusual size I'm often faced with paying what a nice item would cost for a pretty subpar item, and a damn fortune for something that's going to be presentable and survive more than a couple wearings.

RE: adam and eve complex

I might not start the human race even if I liked her,

we're a fairly invasive species.



We might spend our lives washing the future of humanity off her

and arguing about who get's the unconceived Einstein spot.

Just sayin'

RE: Video Thread

You and about 9 out of 10 people here.

Normalcy is the extreme exception here.


You're just more honest and candid than most.

RE: Hi

I think in LDR's it's good to consider a setting up a third party notifier if we can. Some one who can contact our significant other should we be unable to. Anything could happen to any of us at anytime. It would be terrible to be left wondering for days or even weeks.

RE: TOTAL GUN CONFISCATION FROM ALL AMERICANS

Most people outside the US have no idea why this is a complex issue here.

Many Americans quote the constitution but they don't really care about it, or what it means in respect to gun laws. They just see it as an unassailable argument, nothing more. That's part of why from the outside looking in, many of the people arguing appear deranged, it's because they're making an argument even they don't believe.

Even many people in the US don't understand the gun culture. If you, and your parents, and their parents grew up in the cities(80 percent of the US population lives in cities, 50 percent live within 50 miles of the coasts) you likely have no real concept of american gun culture.

To most of us who grew up country, the descendants of hunters and farmers, guns are tools. Many tools are dangerous, and injure or kill, but we balance the risk against the benefit(if you can't conceive of a gun as a tool and having legitimate uses you lack the capacity to understand where I'm coming from and should probably save yourself some time and stop reading) of what they can do and decide to have and use them or not. That's where the "people die in car accidents" argument comes from. To us a gun is a tool, like a car or a kitchen knife or a table saw. You won't see many of us arguing that hand grenades should be legal.

There are millions of families in this country who eat, because they have guns. I personally know multiple families who only have the meat they hunt.

I do think we need to adjust our guns laws.

I and the majority of Americans would like better gun control laws, we are having great difficulty however getting laws passed which put our interests above those of the corporations, we've been having this problem for several decades now and it's why much of our society functions more like you see in third world dictatorships when compared to other democracies with similar economic and educational environments.

I do not however see guns as inherently evil, and do not want

them completely removed from my society.

RE: Haunted house? seen a ghost? Heard weird noises?

This.

RE: ladies

ALi, are you trying to bug the nice ladies?

RE: Who Gossips more,the Muslim women or non-Muslim women?

I'd guess the 2.8 billion non muslim women easily produce more gossip then their 800 million muslim counterparts, but I saw a woman using her hijab to hold her cellphone to the side of her face like a airline pilot's headset, so I might be wrong. People claim it's happened before.

RE: In relationship for 2 weeks and your boyfriend ask you to get married. What do you think?

I'd imagine a nice house and a vineyard would lose their appeal

pretty quick if you're being stalked through them by some dude

you don't like, wanting to do love stuff with ya, ehh?

RE: COUNTDOWN TO HALLOWEEN

I prefer the original.

Just sayin'.

RE: Men Please Answer this : Women after 30 years old, which one is better?

The one I like.

RE: In relationship for 2 weeks and your boyfriend ask you to get married. What do you think?

Marriage proposal in the first two weeks?


It's not love.



There may be exceptions.

Most people like to think they're the exception.

Chances are, you're not.


That's why they're called exceptions.

RE: anxiety attack!

I did wonder how it went.

RE: TRANSPARENT,,,TRANSLUCENT,, or OPAQUE ,, what are you?

I feel opaque, but it's my nature to feel if I don't blurt out every thought/feeling I have I'm some how not being authentic. That of course wouldn't work well out in the world, and is even less plausible because the line between the things I think/consider and the things I believe is very fuzzy/mercurial so if I don't filter a lot, my honesty/candor wouldn't reflect my reality anyway.


When I do speak I'm pretty honest, but the stakes in my life are so low right now that my relative honesty isn't really anything to brag about.

RE: Your Dating Ad

Aaaannd...now I'm hungry.







I really like pastrami, and rye.

RE: Your Dating Ad

Yes I heard of the disappearing sandwich incident.


Will you need therapy to recover?

RE: Your Dating Ad

My ad.






Form an orderly cue, ladies.

Bring pie.

RE: Your Dating Ad

RE: your favourite entertainmenf is

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RE: your favourite entertainmenf is

Adding kidnapping Kaybee's psychologically abused cat to me hobby list.



Here kitty, kitty.








Don't worry Kaybee I'm an organic kidnapper.

I won't drug the kitty.

RE: your favourite entertainmenf is

My favorites are pretty mercurial(might be an adhd thing?).

The hobbies I spend the most time on are you lot, music, pc games,

and I make it a point to hang out in the world once a week.


My favorite changes a lot, partially depending on what else is

going on in my life and partially because that's my nature.

RE: How to say "No"?

Being the default initiators, we become accustomed to rejection.

It's not as bad as you're likely imagining it to be.

We're conditioned for it our whole lives.


The kindest form of rejection is a simple, "No thank you" or "I'm not interested." We don't need a reason, you don't owe us a reason, and it's not really less uncomfortable for us to be told why you think we're unsuitable for you.


The other benefit of a simple "No thank you." is your disinterest in not likely to be up for debate. No reasons, means nothing to argue about.

RE: Talking

I try very hard to be a safe place people can land when they make that leap. I'm really good at it for the most part, but it is a struggle for me sometimes, I can be a little defensive at times.

I recognize that emotional intimacy is not just about the other person being willing to be vulnerable, it's also about weather we can offer them a reasonable expectation they'll be ok with us in their vulnerability. Most of us want to be known, being loved by people that don't know us, isn't really being loved at all.

RE: "I have a Dream"

Yea, I've just tucked them away because the sate of wanting,

has become a state of lacking, and that's not productive for me.


If I was take one off the shelf and give it a look...


It would be to be spooned up with someone who loves me.

RE: Talking

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Possibly the highest praise I give to people in my life,

is to open up and speak unfiltered.

RE: "I have a Dream"

I don't have one.


Can my dream be to have a dream?