The Scars Of Life
Our souls are very much like motorcars. As we continue our journey through life we pick up scratches and dents. We develop bearing knocks and hums in the diff. Yes, our gears start scratching and our clutches begin to shudder.But a car can be serviced and repaired; panel-beated and re-sprayed. With our souls it is a bit more complicated. The Americans probably cope best with it by seeing a “shrink”. Here in my country, you are viewed with suspicion if you should dare to take such a step.
Here you simply obey or ignore those little voices
, but talk about it – never.
Nevertheless, counselling does not remove the problem; it merely helps you to cope with it. Sometimes these scars stem from our childhood. I have such a hang-up too.
My mother, as much as I loved her, was a nagger. She would nag from the time she got up until going to bed.
I had to tolerate it then, but as I grew up and flew the nest, I found that I could no longer endure a constant nagging. After all, I did not have to any more. How my father managed to cope can only be admired.The quickest and surest way for a woman to get rid of me is to start nagging and yet, it would appear that I’m attracted by such women. Missing my mother?
The result is that I cannot maintain a relationship. I never have too many problems in getting a girlfriend, but the best I could do was my two marriages which lasted 5 and 6 years respectively. Other than that I have only a handful of relationships lasting longer than 2 years. When the nagging comes in by the front door, I leave by the back door.
But then, just maybe I become such a bore after a while that the ladies start nagging on purpose to get rid of me!
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..." it would appear that I’m attracted by such women." ???
..."just maybe I become such a bore after a while that the ladies start nagging on purpose to get rid of me! "
You don't really need to see a shrink as you already have the answers, no?
Maybe deep down in your subconscious there is a part of you which missed the "nagging" - yes, the Mother!
And this maybe the reason why you are attracting such women in your life ?
You definetly need to work on your "mother issue", in order to erase this destructive pattern.
Don't know why, but I have the strange feeling that at the end of this blog, you will have a completed overhaul, including head gaskets.
"I need a man who does not give me the silence treatment".
..."you are sending wrong signals.."
Another shrink here for you, you see!
No, I think Cat is sending the right signals... He has attracted 2 psychologists so far...
You are in line with the wisdom that is promised by your name. I have all the answers. Unfortuanately it is the questions I don't understand yet, so it is tough on me to pair the questions and answers. This is quite the opposite of when I was in school. There I understood the question; it was the answers that presented the problems.
Eish, I fear my top is so badly warped, skimming is not an option any more. I need a new engine as my block is also cracked.
I think nobody likes the silent treatment; men least of all.
I just cannot understand why a woman can nag me for 4 days to fix a leaking tap when I promised her for 4 days that I would fix it the next day.
Can you imagine what it would be like if we were living together.
I mean if the tap bothers her so much, why not call a plumber.
I don't think so. I'm not sending any signals right now. I'm not in the market at present. I just don't want to be nagged to do a thing I don't feel like doing. Anyway, I did put a new washer in the tap earlier and bruised my knuckles
Maybe India is right about the signals. Fair enough, I got two shrinks, but what I really needed was a plumber!
You got me in a fix. Are you talking about electronic or mechanical valves now. Cannot be emotional valves as I have the best in the world right here on CS.
I almost missed out on you.
The problem here is one of my garden taps that should not bother her at all. The little bit of water dripping now and then ran straight into my fish pond, so what is the bother. If I got to her place and she asked me to fix one of her taps I would have done so straight away. She is just to bossy and I told her so right at the start.
By the way, you might remember her. She briefly appeared here on CS, but I have known her before that.
Come in all shapes & sizes, very temperamental
Yes, you do get it in varying qualities, but even the best quality will get scratches, rattles and dents with the time. You can hide it with body putty and paint, but it is still there beneath the paint job. Hidden from others but not from yourself.
The good old valve. Funny, the transistor can beat it in smaller size and resistance to vibration, but it's superior amplification factor and tolerance to temperature makes it a far better component. Just the size and the sensitivity to vibration...
I heard somewhere (uncomfirmed) that NASA use some of them in their shuttles. Quite believable given the large changes in temperature out in space.
You also know who I'm talking about. Why do you think I went visiting my daughter and then combined it with a week of hunting which strected into almost five weeks.
There is nothing worse than a nag
You have just reminded of something. My dad baught a set of earphones after left home.
Don't get me wrong. I like women and I think a woman can cope better without a man than a man without a woman
"The best thing to have to stop a nag is an expensive pair of hearing aids"
But if Cat wears hearing heads, it will amplify the sound and not stop it! ::doh:
Now, if you mean headphones in order not to hear the nagging, then he will be giving the women the "silent" treatment, which women do not like...???
..."counselling does not remove the problem; it merely helps you to cope with it. Sometimes these scars stem from our childhood. I have such a hang-up too".
..."it would appear that I’m attracted by such women. Missing my mother?"
These two statements just prove that you know exactly what's the matter with you
and you just wanted it confirmed.
I think I am beginning to lose my head with this whole issue
Maybe this woman doesn't need any plumber
She wants YOU to fix her leaky taps...? You should take this as a compliment!
I have a reversable hat like that. I wear it when my two favourite rugby teams play against each other. I flip it in and out according to the score.
A large bouquet of flowers
Hmm, right again. I have the answers and the questions both sorted out, but I needed to let off the steam before I blew a top gasket. Maybe I don't drink enough.
Actually I gave up drinking 30 years ago. I still celebrate it every now and again with a few doubles.
But Minerva, she's alredy got me. Undivided and completely. We started this relationship about two/three months before I went on holiday and the nagging started even before I left. She knows me and my family. Sknows that I don't like it. So why keep at it.
"She knows that I don't like it. So why keep at it.?"
Maybe you should try some "reverse" psychology here, my friend.
Maybe she just does it to "annoy" you, or to "provoke" a reaction
In which case she has won! She's got you all worked up, giving her your full attention by writing a blog about it.
Remember, energy goes where attention flows!
Just agree with her, whatever she says, and keep smiling!
When you stop reacting, you will see her attitude change.
You sound just like my previous quack now. He give me a diet to reduce my high blood pressure and cholesterol; telling me If I don't follow this diet I will die before my time. What he does not realise is that if I follow his diet I will starve to death.
So I eat what I want and I enjoy my life; then he tells me if I do not follow his advice he cannot treat me. Then I get myself another quack and I tell him beforehand I need a doctor and not a dietician.
Now, five years later I’m still alive and I still eat what I like. Both my grandfathers died deep in their nineties and they ate everything. My father, now almost 86 is still alive and he eats what he likes. So replacing my doctor was a better move.
So I now formally inform you that I can replace my shrink as easy as my quack.
Maybe it's time for you to go and have that well deserved drink and relax a bit, don't you think?
After all, you have let out a lot of steam today and a big load off your chest
You must realise that half the things I said here was simply mocking with myself!
That is why I am very picky in whom I let into my life. Thanks again for your support and encouragement earlier today.