Feeling Good?
While a good self esteem is important, it must be based on ‘feeling good’ and not vice versa! ‘Feeling good’ is derived from our way of living, not our style of living.A high self esteem should not be vested on emptiness inside, but rather a deep self satisfaction. A high self esteem based on the wrong values can easily mutate into conceit; when humility is forgotten.
Few things can bring such inner happiness as modesty; even with a good self esteem. Modesty and a good self esteem go hand in hand.
Feeling good leads to doing good things. Good deeds are rewarded but when you do good things in such way for others to see, you will earn praise and respect. Do not expect other rewards later for then you had your reward.
Have a whale of a time.
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I believe that that people is born good or bad natured.
And the flip side is, that people with genuine low self esteem tend to treat themselves badly and not so much other people. Trying to lift ppl with low self esteem may be like trying to get an obese person to lose weight by feeding them more dessert. Eish. Reminds me of some folk drinking their dose of vinegar each morning..
I again believe that we are all born more or less the same and that our upbringing, especially during our first 7 years, determine our nature. There may be a bit in our genes - I'm not sure - but I believe our upbringing is the vital ingredient.
You must develop a taste for vinegar before you can take it every morning.
Look at four brothers brought up by the same parents. They may may differ from each other in many respects - circumstances were not exactly the same during their forming - but they will all share the same values as instilled by their parents.
Hmm, that was some bad thinking on his behalf.
Yes it does make you feel good. Is that not what it is all about? Feeling good.
Naw, and feeling rotten at the present. Maybe a flu coming down.
I hear many an adult say they blame all ills on parents
I feel mad at that its a cop out in my opinion.
We have many things influence us in our lives and I do not believe the first seven years make us.
Life itself evolves us as we stumble through and learn many lessons. Mainly those which make us comfortable inside.
Many parents are deeply religious but kids these days look further into things and may not be the same, or follow same path.
I have seen kids being brought up in the mire so to speak and turn out to be fine adults. So sorry cat I do not believe that to be true its a freuds way of thinking and some of his teachings have been shown not to be true these days.
But hey whatever floats your boat and does not hurt the world around you.
Yes, we can improve ourselves in many ways. I was very short tempered and impatient when I was younger and by working on it I have changed myself to a very large extend. However, changing our values is a bit more difficult - I think.
Have not seen you for a few days. You were away for a while?
Hmm, thank you; it was ok.
My friend, you are correct, we are in charge of our own lives but it is built on the foundations that we received from our parent. It is sometimes necessary to break down whole walls to replace a part of the foundation. Possible, but very difficult.
If you were brought up that it is ok to steal if you do not have - it happens here very often - then it is accepted as ok and very hard to deviate from. It is a value you received from your parents that is hard to break out of because you do not believe that it is wrong.
I prefer my alcoholic beverages cold with crushed ice.
Must have been. Women seldom run out of words.
Few more chapters to go Luke plenty of data to gather yet.
Cat we may inherit a disease or allergy or something like that, but stealing
No I do not think in fact I know from own parents or mother that I could not think or feel like her about life at all, and that was from young age, so had a very isolated unhappy childhood but fine happy adult I might add so the so called ingrain of first seven years did not make ME my life.
But I have also seen that so many times in other peoples lives too, it may happen at times but is not written in blood.
Serial killers are not the making of parents or what is taught in first seven years.
Anyways dear cat you are being very serious minded since you retired??? Hope you are going out enjoying your freedoms etc.
POSITIVE THINKING = POSITIVE RESULTS
Hope everyone else feels fresh, great stuff will happen, just believe in yourself
hi kitten
I believe we are all born with different personalities.....but developing a good/bad character is an ongoing life long process formed by the choices we make.....yes most often we are influenced by various factors and people in our lives sometimes positive and sometimes really negative.....and how we turn out in the end ..good or bad is as a result of the choices we choose to make.
Modesty and a good self esteem go hand in hand. cant beat that.
Cat,
Luke,
When I went to school kids were stealing things but it did not start me off stealing because I was taught that it is wrong. Even as and adult I found it incomprehensible that some people I worked with viewed stationary as part of their fringe benefits; to me that is stealing. It is a value implanted by my parents.
Take religion; I was brought up in a religious home and even though I'm not a believer today I cannot deny the possibility that God may exist. I don't know if there is a God but because of the values my parents implanted in me, I keep on wondering about it.
Yes, both good and bad breed on themselves and attract themselves. It is a fundamental principle of the universe.
Good to see you too
As for myself...yes I do feel good...there's nothing I would change about myself...I'm happy with who I am and I owe that to my loving parents.
I cannot believe that our character is a genetic trait. If it was then we would not have been able to change ourselves as we know we can. I do not think there is a honesty gene or a murder gene. I think we are what we developed into through our lifetime and it is all built on our earlier values.
The deeper the value is imbedded the harder it is to overcome. That is why one person will have to get much hungrier than another before stealing a bread; even if both were 'honest' prior to stealing the bread.
Not wanting to stick our head out when we are comfortable is a common trait amongst humans; After all why endanger your own security at work when you see a fellow employee being treated wrong by your employer. The modus operandi is don't make waves if it can drown you too.
He has my ways, listen to music I love...he copies everything he sees in me...I'm proud of him...I know he'll grow to be a good man one day.
Mine certainly were no gods but I think they were - one still is - very close to demi-gods.
It is amazing how this has gone right off the actual topic of the blog and became a very interesting subject. Thank you for your contribution.
True, we do not do good to feel better but it certainly makes you happy inside knowing that you did something right.
Those first 7 years of our lives are the foundation or formative years on which we base our decisions/choices...according to the Jesuit Priests and most educational institutions...
the train of thought is to catch the child while they are still young and the values you have installed in them are meant to guide them for the rest of their lives...even if they do go off the beaten path every now and then.
BTW....it is also said that those first few years of the child's life is when they develop self esteem or lack there of....