Are we Men Or Mice?
Every so often we see a blog asking where are all the REAL men on this site and when I read some of the blogs posted by men, I have to agree with them .
And I know that men also have feelings and that we should express them but does that include asking for sympathy?
Ladies, I know you won’t but please skip the next 3 paragraphs.
Come on guys, we are men; not mice. We don’t walk around complaining about how hurt we are and how lonesome or sensitive we are. We accept help when offered and may ask for help when needed but we never ask for sympathy. We want women to like us; not to feel sorry for us.
I’d rather be disliked than being pitied. Rejection is easier to handle when you simply lift the anchors and sail when the tide goes out; without a 21 gun salute. There are other harbors to offer a safe anchorage. What happened to our self respect? Let’s be the men we are and act like it.
If it is sympathy we ask for then sympathy is all that we shall ever get and it won’t last for very long either. Women eventually get tired of listening to our whinges.
Next time, before you write one of those cry baby blogs or comments, think a bit of what women really think when they write those sweet comments on your blog. Women are softer and more compassionate than men. They don’t always say those nice things because they like you. Sometimes it is merely to console you because they feel sorry for you. Is that what you want; pity?
This is a dating site and women come here to find somebody they can look up to, respect and lean on when the need arise. Somebody they can depend on when the going gets tough; not a cry baby who needs a dry nappy all the time.
A great and wonderful day to you all.
Comments (77)
If someone can't find anyone AT ALL, it is more likely related to this one person than ALL other people.
Let's not go there. I am the only one that is right and EVERYBODY else is wrong.
I was taught that birds of the same fathers (people who are like minded) flock together.
You Invited 5 people to a special web event because you connected with them in a deeper manner. Which dear....I can relate to
Question is, of the birds you connected with deeper, was their one of female gender that you connected with that could express the female version of what men are looking for? And how we should be responding to give men what they need!?
If things stay as they are there then will be an elite minority of masterful Alpha males surrounded by a harem of women in gilded enclaves. The social obligation of woman used to be to deny her tingle for the Christian Greys of the Earth and select the good men who may not be so flashy and/or exciting. I believe that something from the past needs to counter this individualistic spirit of "if it feels good, do it".
Jeez, just relax and have a good time.
GREAT BLOG.......
GREAT RESPONCE
I too skipped those 3 paragraphs
I want a man not a mouse......
The only difference is that it's easier to catch a mouse
Ok, my list was not the people I like best. It is those who I had some contact with who I found the most interesting. Whether that interest would be justified after meeting face to face and have a good conversation is another debate.
Us ladies are having a good time
I forgot to respond to the last question. I don't think you should give anybody what they want unless it is what you want as well.
Hmm, for a matter of interest, I was also taught that birds of feather flock together but when I said so in a blog a few months ago I was chastised for it but I still believe that if you sleep with the dogs you will wake up with the fleas.
I believe it may be a passing phase. The liberation of women brought some changes and we (men) are not used to the new world in which humans no longer form permanent bonds. There will come a time when women will see the light and things will be restored to the old pattern. JMO
Could it be that it is exactly the attitude that is the cause of their unhappiness.
Mice are ten for a penny but do not have a good resell value.
To your last comment which I only saw after posing my previous.
Freedom is not always progress and you don't always know how to implement it when you gain it. As with anything new, you have to proceed by trial and error. You don't always get it right first time.
Yes, I do like to have fun - after all I have responsibilities which I take serious and I need a balance for that. There are a lot of selfish parents who don't like to take responsibilities. That is the problem for me.
You'll be older one day, too.
I think people differ. Some can handle rejection better, or at least they don't see a refusal as rejection. If somebody does not like me then so be it. I simply move along. No point in wasting time with those who don't like you. I spend my time with those who do like me.
I think we often confuse refusal with rejection. It comes back to one of my previous blogs about being over-sensitive. There will always be people to like you and to dislike you.
Btw, your cat can't find it's place in the new area. Maybe you should bring it back to the old place instead of taking any cruel measures. JMO.
I wasn't hear on CS until about a month ago.....if I would have seen that...I would have agreed.
I've had to learn some hard lessons from hanging with people "being understanding or feeling sorry for,them" I can have sympathy from a distance until they get their shot together now
You would not have seen it. It was a few months ago and was deleted since then.
I think that the ladies will mostly agree. I recon it is the men who may want to chastise me. I will have to be very careful what I write in my blogs from now on. They will quickly refer me back to this.
YES.....one or the other sometimes BOTH....
Interesting topic...I have much sympathy for men who hurt but if it goes on longer than needed...I will not be interested in him...like beating a dead horse!!...what's the point?...move on and live life...
Man and mouse? A man at work and a muse at home!
I worked wit a fella like that a long time ago. He spoke without ever stopping. We always wondered why - until one night at a office function when his wife told him to shut up in front of everybody.
When I see people suffer I have plenty of sympathy and will try to help if I can. When he tells me that he is suffering I lose some of my enthusiasm. I like to see people standing tall, even when times are rough.
The worst was that he must have been so used to it hey was neither upset nor embarrassed. He just shut up.
At least now I don't have to feel sorry for myself anymore; somebody else feels sorry for me! And I don't like beer so you know where you can hide your beer.
Nice blog to create some mind stimulation again. :)
After reading all of the responses, I found what Obstinance_Works has stated makes perfect rational sense. In addition, a lot of what he has said, I see it first hand happening.
No matter who we are....or even who we think we are....somewhere down the line, we will all be held accountable for our actions.
Angel, have you seen Miclee?
Few more comments before it reaches the 100th!
The world has changed and our social behavior did not stay behind.
I do not even for one minute believe that you are a drinker.
As the song says:
Cowboys don't cry, and heroes don't die
Good always wins, again and again
And love is a sweet dream, that always comes true
Oh if life were like the movies, I'd never be blue
But here in the real world, it's not that easy at all
Cause when hearts get broken, it's real tears that fall
And darling it's sad but true, but the one thing I've learned from you
Is how the boy don't always get the girl, here in the real world
I took the steak knives this time.