The Telltales Of A Liar.
I was brought up to see the good in people and as a result, I have been deceived and lied to more than often. I was always prepared to believe a person until given enough reason not to believe him any more.But this is no longer so. I don’t know exactly when this change came about but it was with some mild shock that I came to realize that I no longer trust people. Sometimes I even doubt people who had never given me reason to do so.
Of course, I never tell people that I don’t believe them; nor do I alert them by probing for the truth. A liar at ease will soon betray himself.
Having been a college lecturer for more than 20 years I had to listen to countless excuses why a task was not completed in time or why a lecture was missed. I did not take such lies personal; they were gambling with their own futures, not mine. Being the keen observer of people that I am, I learned the telltales of a lie with time.
Liars will often place extra emphasis on the denial by the use formal language and will unconsciously send signals of anxiety by adjusting a tie or touching the hair. They may unconsciously smile when they believe that they have deceived you again. Sweating may also be a sign but the person may just me nervous.
They tend to give too much information in an effort to cover up their lies. They will have problems repeating the events around the lie in reverse sequence because it did not happen that way.
They will often repeat the entire question before starting to reply to it. This is to buy time to think about what to say. A person speaking the truth will maintain eye contact for about 60% of the time while a liar will often keep eye contact for much longer in an effort to create an image of honesty.
True emotions ‘leak’ through the best disguise when lying and is best witnessed when a person nods his head while denying something or shake it when confirming. Your body will often betray a lie. Liars often change their vocal tone when lying and will be hesitant in their speech.
A liar will subconsciously point his feet to the exit and will attempt to place physical barriers, (like water jugs or glasses) between himself and his questioners.
Unlike a liar, an honest person – when falsely accused – will be furious. However, they will still be co-operative and helpful while interrogated.
You will probably never see all these signs at the same time but when you see two or three the warning lights should flash. More than that and you can safely assume that you are being lied to. However, knowing that you are being lied to, is only part of the problem. Getting to the truth is another matter and this is where I play dumb and wait for the truth to surface.
Greeting to all of you from a hot and sunny Capetown.
Comments (76)
Okay! Then. So I lied to you. Now! What?....
Greetings from dark and rainy Perak, Malaysia.
I am on my way to you!
Ooooh, I love aggressive women.
but it is ok about your lie, I told you a bigger lie.
sorry for taking so long to respond but I first had to check on the weather out your way.
And You talking about, how he lied to you.But! You told me even a bigger lie.
Got dog!
That's right. When you keep on lying you have to believe your own lies in order to invent new lies to cover the previous. In the end your whole life is a lie.
I were thinking that!
Your lights went out!....omg.
Maybe I only lied in my comment to you.
That is the problem about lying. You never know what is the lie and what is the truth. All lies are the same. You don't get a small lie or a big lie. A lie is a lie.
Talking about lights, It is bound to go off for two hours a bit later.I must look at the schedule. We are on load shedding again. Luckily is is only two hours at a time.
I will be there soon.
Right after I find my shoes.
Sorry! About your lights.....
I am going to bring you some light, today! Uh, usa timezone....
I hate being lied to, but then again.... don't we all?
Hope you had a good xmas and new years
Yes, I'm fine and doing ok. Hope it is all the same your side of the river.
Oh! Yes, I do.( Light you up)
I even rock your world! dude....
That's not a photo, of your daughter.
Or is it?
That's moi
Oh! You scared me, for a moment there.
My daughter has much nicer legs than her snooker-table's-legs mom!
In Bed? What is the time there?
It is just as well that it is your cat and not your daughter sitting on you otherwise we had a good chance of becoming family. My cat was very interested and was annoyed when he search for the kitty behind the laptop while I posted this comment.
Great!
You're too funny.
It's only 9.30pm here but because of the heavy downpour, there's nothing like crawling into the soft bed..
Angel
Thanks! That is a relieve. So tell me, for how lang have you had snooker-table legs. And have you seen the real snooker-table legs?
a lie... I do sometimes to my clients if have to... but in personal life I even try to tell all the truth bad or good news..
Mimi.. here also raining since morning.. traffic jam since last night, spent more time on the way back to Jakarta..
My mom even refers my feet as 'pig's trotters'
Of course I've seen snooker-table's legs Catfoot!
Amore
Rain or no rain, Jakarta is always jammed!
Ouch, then I'd rather be friend or family to you than customer. You aught to be careful when lying to a client. They won't forgive you as easy as a friend or a sibling.
The next time someone lies to you. Just go to the website> Gopeoplefax.com
Meow
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You are talking about food now! I love pig trotters.
I just had a look at that site. I would definitely have posted a few people there if only I knew their real names.
No, I don't know. I'm not even sure what you are trying to tell me.
What I do know is that people are all the same even though they believe they are different. You see, we are all unique and that in itself makes us not unique at all.