The Telltales Of A Liar.
I was brought up to see the good in people and as a result, I have been deceived and lied to more than often. I was always prepared to believe a person until given enough reason not to believe him any more.But this is no longer so. I don’t know exactly when this change came about but it was with some mild shock that I came to realize that I no longer trust people. Sometimes I even doubt people who had never given me reason to do so.
Of course, I never tell people that I don’t believe them; nor do I alert them by probing for the truth. A liar at ease will soon betray himself.
Having been a college lecturer for more than 20 years I had to listen to countless excuses why a task was not completed in time or why a lecture was missed. I did not take such lies personal; they were gambling with their own futures, not mine. Being the keen observer of people that I am, I learned the telltales of a lie with time.
Liars will often place extra emphasis on the denial by the use formal language and will unconsciously send signals of anxiety by adjusting a tie or touching the hair. They may unconsciously smile when they believe that they have deceived you again. Sweating may also be a sign but the person may just me nervous.
They tend to give too much information in an effort to cover up their lies. They will have problems repeating the events around the lie in reverse sequence because it did not happen that way.
They will often repeat the entire question before starting to reply to it. This is to buy time to think about what to say. A person speaking the truth will maintain eye contact for about 60% of the time while a liar will often keep eye contact for much longer in an effort to create an image of honesty.
True emotions ‘leak’ through the best disguise when lying and is best witnessed when a person nods his head while denying something or shake it when confirming. Your body will often betray a lie. Liars often change their vocal tone when lying and will be hesitant in their speech.
A liar will subconsciously point his feet to the exit and will attempt to place physical barriers, (like water jugs or glasses) between himself and his questioners.
Unlike a liar, an honest person – when falsely accused – will be furious. However, they will still be co-operative and helpful while interrogated.
You will probably never see all these signs at the same time but when you see two or three the warning lights should flash. More than that and you can safely assume that you are being lied to. However, knowing that you are being lied to, is only part of the problem. Getting to the truth is another matter and this is where I play dumb and wait for the truth to surface.
Greeting to all of you from a hot and sunny Capetown.
Comments (76)
I know their real name. Just ask me!...
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There is no need to thank me for the advice. It is a free public service I render in the interest of a more open society.
Bogart! Was here, New Year Eve./ usa timezone.
He was on my blog. Hey! I will write to him. And let him know that!
You is looking for him.
I'm not looking for him. I'm just curious about his absence. But when you do get hold of him, do send my regards please.
After my electric hob was stolen, I installed a gas hob. Brilliant - much more economical and faster too! Also with the load shedding it means that I can cook by candlelight.
I will let Bogart know!...
that sounds like a good idea. A gas hob on an electric oven. I personally would like 2 electric plates and 2 gas burners. That will be ideal. I must look around some time.
What does that silly wooden dol with the long nose mean.
It just means that!
I will let Bogart know
What! Don't you believe me?...
Would I ever suspect you of lying to me? Never!
Uhm! I don't know.
Let's see! You tell me sugar!...
Who is that?
You don't know Shirley Bassey? She is a British singer of yesteryear and probably one of the most popular female vocalists ever. I think she came from Wales.
Bond! James Bond.....
Yeahhhh!
I cant comment on the blog, cuz me as well, play dumb and wait for the truth sure can drink alot of beer while waiting
No problem there and you're still as funny as ever and I still don't believe about all the beer you drink.
I been playing a card game. And I'm winning every time...
Good information. I was told once that if a person looks to the left....I think (or either right..lol) that is a sign they are lying. Some guy who was in the military told me he was taught that from his training.
Naaw! It's the Spider Cell Card game...
Johnny!
I look to my left, all the time. And?
I don't know, this one is new to me but I guess if it is so it will depend much on whether the guy is left or right-handed. Surely that will make a difference - I think!
Spider Cell? Would that be Spider Solitaire? And if so, on what level do you play. I play that quite often on intermediate level (2 suits) and the best I can average is 45%. I had a winning streak of 9 games twice but had losing streaks of up to 14 games.
I do the 2, level. And I loves that game. I been playing it for years. Mostly everyday! I hits between 85- 99%. Only because I been playing it for years. This game is set on a timer.
I must be the apprentice here. Unless if we talk about different games. Mine does not have a timer though.
During the almost three years I'm with CS I have blogged on this topic several times and every time somebody made a crack like that. I have wondered all day who it would be today.
Congratulations! You won the set of six steak knives.
Kindly forward your bank card and pin number so I can dispatch your prize without delay.
It is the same game. Spider solitaire! Each Spider s. Game is set up different. I am playin the one for the Big Lead people. High Rollers, baby...
Ok, then it is the same game. I like playing it. Anyway, it is lala time for me. Good night.