WHEN DO YOU PULL AWAY FROM A RELATIONSHIP?
You think and feel you found happiness. You both fit. You both are too excited. But as you begin to settle down and discover things that rather overwhelm you and can't seem to make it work, you begin to feel the shudder of doubts and skepticism. But deep inside of you and your heart, you know you have a spark of love that keeps on getting inflamed now and then. But truth keeps coming at you like it isn't what you expected..Something is evidently wrong. You know that feeling when it is circling around you like dark clouds building up to a destructive force worst than any storms you've ever been into.
The problem is: Not that you don't want to leave, but that it is very difficult to come up with an excuse why you should leave because there are some traits and characteristics that just blow you away.
Measuring up to your expectations are detrimental to any foundation of a good possibility of building up a strong commitment to stay. Yet giving more consideration seems like you're knocking at the gates of hell.
Question is when do you know when it is time for you to cut loose? Scram? Let go and go solo again?
These are very self explanatory questions sometimes but when it is you that is hurting and can't seem to find balance and trust in yourself it is hard. When you fear that the past will come creeping back and haunt you, it is not good. Yet your heart is so stubborn and your mind is going blinder than it ever was, it is very difficult. At least to me.
The truth is, not that you're not happy and content being alone, but admittedly there are so many good parts of this relationship that you've never encountered ever, and just want to stay longer.
Definitely if these issues are resolved (I know they can be resolved as love is truly there) then it would be heaven. Meantime, you're caught in a bam of two extremes where the middle point is hazy.
When do you salvage a relationship and when do you shrug your shoulders and let go? Or move on?
Thanks all for your participation and sharing your experience.
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Only after that, do we decide to part.
Thanks for sharing.
Lots of times on the surface of a relationship, everything seems great! Then as you get to know the person you see things that turn you off! The question/s is/are, are they big enough to make you want to leave the relationship or make you want to work on the differences?
I believe a person has to stand back and take a hard look at the relationship! Ask yourself if the positives outweigh the negatives? Take a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle. Write down the things that are important to you. On one side put pros; on the other side of the line put cons. Then answers the questions that you have listed. Maybe it will help you in making the right decision! jmho.
Besides the inconvenience, that's a crystal clear signs that things ain't workin.
Thanks for you input.
I enjoyed being married and I don't remember having to have done it otherwise. But of course each one of us has our own preferences.
Coincidentally Hawn and Russell married after 30 years of living together.
Thanks Ms. Fiery.
Nothing sadder than being lonely in a relationship..
Now I'm alone but far from lonely...
Thank you for a good Blog..
sometimes when we're thorn between should i stay or should i go, and when good reasons are there why you should or should not..i'd listen to my heart more so than my head and ask the question...
If i walk out that door away from him will i be fearful of never feeling love again with another way i do him? if yes...
then i would go.
But if i knew i never would....
i would stay.
Thanks Ms Witch.
Phyllis
For me it's arguing, me me me stuff and things like that!
Hope you had a nice Easter..
But my darling Umka, I do. I forgive, I mean.