Wasted relationship

This would be one of my rare personal topics in blog land. I wasn't going to share and let the world judge me and my situation but I thought I need it just to confirm whether my decision is right or wrong.

Here's the situation: the ex of whom I'm having a relationship with got hold of him through "kik", they talked and from the transcripts (of which I won't go into detail), they're very excited and she still calls him baby. (She left him for a millionaire with multiple businesses world wide, married him and living in the high nines). They have 30 years difference and from what I gather she misses my partner so much specially in bed.

Imagine my shock reading their conversations.

This went on for a week. He never mentioned to me about it. The worst part is he acted as though I don't exist, let alone in a relationship.

Note: I terminated our relationship and he's fighting so hard to save it. Explaining that that isn't cheating.

We're just over three years and would have been married but thank God, we're not. We are planning on buying a house together. Just couldn't make up our minds if in California or in Mid West



How do you feel, if it were you? We've been together as a couple talking about forever.

Thanks all for your reads and comments if any.

2nd Note: he'd been confirmed cheater and womanizer. However, with me, professing to have changed.

Last NOTE: I accidentally discovered the conversation. He's in the living room while I was in the bedroom where he charges his phone. It beeped and in his business, it's important for him to respond right away. My shock to realize it's his ex. I'm not spying nor snooping. Lol I think when I trust a person, I trust and not worried about what they do to hurt the relationship.
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Don't be too harsh Oggo, my friends are members on here. But you believe whatever you believe.
By the way with the events that are prevailing, lol..I'll never run out of topic.

I will not stoop down to your unclassy and contempt if calling me a liar.


It's your call and that's your problem.

By the way why feel sorry for me when I'm not even hurt?
Not sure how you can say that the man you met on this site is going to come on here and confirm that you were in a relationship with him for the past three years.....is it your word we will take seeing that you say that he became inactive after he met you?...... How convenient...... Anyway, just because I don't believe you doesn't mean that I am correct......I apologise if I am wrong.......on another vein.....It is good to see a slowdown in your Anti Muslim agenda......fair play to you for trying to desist from your rantings......
Og back off! Can't you see her pain! You worthless POS!thumbs down
I have no hatred for you Lyndsy.......I have lots of better things to expend my energy on.......Only thing is.....a bit like a train crash.....you have been difficult to miss around here for the past couple of years.......my goodness at times one would have thought that it was you yourself that was running for President of the US and not Trump.......you bored the pants off the majority of people on here......I will not reiterate your ingrained hatred towards all Muslims again.....that fact is noted by most intelligent people on here.......Anyway, not sure how many years you have been on here but, from what I have read from you.....you have never been short in boasting about your wonderful children, your luxiourios cruises and jet setting lifestyle.......So now, after a load of blogs and threads....all of a sudden....in one blog everybody is told about the romantic relationship you have been having with somebody who was a member on this site?..........The beginning and the end of a relationship all divulged in one post from somebody who most of the time finds it impossible to shut up?........ strange to say the very least.......
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I suspect that'd be the case Nam.
When it happens again I'd definitely leave no room for pleading.
There would no second chances.
Of course you can play with fire and tame the very flames themselves, that's how astoundingly attractive and utterly superior you are to all others.
I'm an old-fashioned romantic and I say you work out who you like best and then pretend not to like anybody else.

Relationships contain drama but the relationship isn't there to create drama. As a man I've never looked at a relationship like keeping up with the Jones where my getting what other men want is the reason why I want that thing. Where besting the competition is the whole point and the reward then in signalling to other men that I can do or have what they can't do or have. I don't need anybody else to tell me what I want and if we were the only two people on earth I'd fancy her just the same. For a man it doesn't take the village being involved to create the relationship.
Nam, indeed.

Learning who we are based on our experiences.wave
Chesney, I feel that there's a lot of ego involved in that endeavor.
Never mind losing the one you love?
Had u sensed that was the motivation, I wouldn't give him a remote chance of atoning himself.
Ego is one element in my life that has no effect.
Hell no. I find it out of the equation. I wouldn't last a day with someone that makes his life ego driven. No.
There's a lot of personality disorder out there. Pretense is one of them.

I love someone that acts as true as I can gauge them.
Usha thanks for your perception.
First off, he was and been a member of kik. They only conversed on kik. Not on phone.

Now with my freedom, just because I'm at this site, I'm not looking. Blocked the whole world and don't respond to anyone and he knows that.

He comes in every now and then and read, including this, everything that I write.

I don't stop no one to be a member of any site they so desire. However, as a couple, I don't encourage anyone to be interested in me.
I can't block my country anymore per se, but I can block anyone who communicates with me. Since thenew format was used.

Now it's my choice to do anything I want provided it doesn't hurt the relationship. He's the one who's head over hills to be with me.

There's nothing worse than being betrayed. Nothing that I do here or in real life betrays him.
You sound as though it's justified for him to have done what he did because I'm a member here.

I will never consider leaving this site for other reasons. I'm here for the writes and blogs and the moderators including my children and him know that.
Luke, so nice of you to drop by. wave
Usha, another thing, I've never been hurt. I left all my 4 relationships. If you read all the comments you'd have found, this blog isn't about me being hurt. It's different from being disappointed and absolutely misled.
And they didn't meet in any site, they were former friends met in employment. Being an anonymous social chat is not the issue on kik. I can be there if I want to. I used to be communicating there when I was with my previous love from Australia.

He closed down his profile on any site.
CA and FB, are my two social sites. Neither of these two have I advertised I'm interested to meet anyone.
(OgGoDeoOP•Jul 5•galway, Galway Ireland
I have no hatred for you Lyndsy.......I have lots of better things to expend my energy on.......Only thing is.....a bit like a train crash.....you have been difficult to miss around here for the past couple of years.......my goodness at times one would have thought that it was you yourself that was running for President of the US and not Trump.......you bored the pants off the majority of people on here......I will not reiterate your ingrained hatred towards all Muslims again.....that fact is noted by most intelligent people on here.......Anyway, not sure how many years you have been on here but, from what I have read from you.....you have never been short in boasting about your wonderful children, your luxiourios cruises and jet setting lifestyle.......So now, after a load of blogs and threads....all of a sudden....in one blog everybody is told about the romantic relationship you have been having with somebody who was a member on this site?..........The beginning and the end of a relationship all divulged in one post from somebody who most of the time finds it impossible to shut up?........ strange to say the very least.......)

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Can you trust him Phylis? Love is difficult to say the least without trust.
And they didn't meet in any site, they were former friends met in employment. Being an anonymous social chat is not the issue on kik. I can be there if I want to. I used to be communicating there when I was with my previous love from Australia.

He closed down his profile on any site.
CA and FB, are my two social sites. Neither of these two have I advertised I'm interested to meet anyone.
Thanks happy. I will try to consider all possibilities that might work better for the both of us.

Thanks Happy, nice to see you on the blog world. hug
well done you I think you made the right decision ...you deserve better ..
once a womaniser always a womaniser ...you will find mister right you seem like a nice person and you look great !
Good luck
Thank you Irish.
I forgave him as I feel he deserves to be given another chance which is his last.
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