Last Commented Blogs (62,469)

5. Have Fun With It

If you think you are in a relationship with a player, sometimes the best thing you can do is just have fun with it. Think of it as a friends-with-benefits type of situation, and let yourself enjoy that whirlwind of lust and connection with each other.

When you make a game out of their game, you’ll find that you’re less likely to be hurt. It’s also about lowering your expectations about this partner without lowering your standards about love.

6. Keep Your Boundaries Clear

When you’re interested in a player, it’s best to keep your boundaries clear. Of course, they may completely ignore those boundaries – but it’s still important to keep them clear for yourself.

As you become closer, you may be willing to be a bit more lenient towards them – and that is exactly what they want. Breaking your boundaries means giving up an idea for a relationship you deserve. Don’t let your date interest ruin it, even if your relationship goes so well that you’re ready to invent pet names for each other.

Related reading: Boundaries in Relationships – Keeping Them Healthy

7. Don’t Feel Compelled to Seek Revenge

Even if a player hurts, you it isn’t necessarily a personal vice against you as an individual. Players often see themselves as the main characters in a dating game. So when they make friends with people or enter romantic relationships, they see it as a successful quest and not for the pain it actively causes.

When they hurt you, you may be compelled to seek revenge, perhaps by sleeping with their friends or wrecking their stuff. If you’re a woman, don’t do that. Ultimately, this is going to cause you more pain than what it’s worth. And while you are perfectly within your rights to feel hurt, it is best not to act in such a way.

8. Be Ready to Move On

“Good people give Good Memories, Bad people give Good Experiences, Don’t Judge, Learn your lessons and Move on”

Kunal Tandel, author

Players often have a multitude of people they are romancing, along with multiple backup plans for dates. They may break up with you in person. However, they may also end the relationship by ghosting you and never establishing a connection again. You may get so used to the feeling of being on the back burner that when they ghost you, it can take months before you finally realize you’ve been dumped.

These things happen so often that it’s best to set yourself up with a mental timeline and be ready to move on. We find that two weeks to a month of being ghosted is a good amount of time to determine if it is time to move on or not. When you move on, don’t allow them to pull you back in; they had their chance with you, and you should not allow yourself to be placed on the back burner any longer.

Dealing with a player can be hard, especially when you find yourself falling in love with them. However, it is important for your mental and emotional health that you can handle being in a relationship with them without the fear or worry of finding yourself heartbroken. As you take the time to learn how you can spot who the players are, how to play their game against them, and how to manage your feelings and expectations you will find that the world of dating just gets a little more interesting.

Rise Above And Triumph!

If you fall in love with a player, the breakup can be painful. But, you can get through it. Rely on your friends, meditate, pray, engage in self-care, eat amazing food, watch movies that make you laugh, and listen to great music. Ultimately players end up alone. You can write whatever future you want.

April 20th is a 'sorta' celebration day for many who smoke weed. Taking a toke at 4:20 on 4/20 is a ritual that got started long ago... I think it was a meeting time after school for some teenage kids that caught on. Every day at 4:20 ritual.

I worked for a guy who in the interview asked if I was 420 friendly. I responded with "Huh?"
He said "Do you burn?" (by then I was catching on to his questioning) "burn what?" was my reply.

Why are most men that decide to mail me here are from Ireland?
I don't expect them to be from Spain as most live far away, so why Ireland, and not England, France, Netherlands or anywhere else.

Are the Irish looking for an exciting/ cheap holiday in Spain, with a sexy guide? Or just want to write, but then they are not great writers either, most saying, Hello, good morning sexy..

Yesterday I had my hair permed short. So many things have changed because of covid. My bag wasn't courteously taken and put inside a locker room. I was asked to just put it on a chair beside me. The usually 6 seats was only half full as they practiced distancing one seat apart even if the 6 seats are almost a meter apart. I had my hands sprayed with a non alcoholic disinfectant and was asked to use their own mask even if I had mine. There were even 3 chairs lined outside the parlor each equally distanced. The price was still the same and lucky for me for having that sweet gay who looks highly professional as can be seen on the way he styled the winding. Business looks good as there were so many customers but the extra precaution is an added cost. May a vaccine be available soon. May all we resume to all the normal things we used to do. May lust for money and power wane in the hearts and minds of people who wants to rise up and rule with impunity. Now my heart is heavy when all I want to share is my new hair do.

I hope that whoever becomes leader in the forthcoming USA and UK elections will show leadership with regard to the situation between Russia and Ukraine. The signs are that if Trump wins he may not look favourably on continuing the supply of finance and weapons to Ukraine. This would put great pressure on the outcome of the war.
Whoever becomes UK prime minister ( unlikely to be Sunak ), I hope he will stand up in support of Ukraine and be persuasive to the President that America must show solidarity in that country's fight for freedom.

Beyond disability

Hello there......
Is there no decency out there or self respect.
Am I just being old fashioned or not living with the new age.
I'm.on this site a year now and I have yet to go on a date.
For example:.... When I finally pick up the courage to give a man my private number thinking that he is the one I get heavy breathing over the phone.You can.use your own imagination what that's all about.
I'm tired now as I'm.almost 54 years old.
Where is romance gone to.....

Thank you for reading my blog

Barbara and furry friends

“Constitutional” refers to the fact that government in the United States is based on a Constitution which is the supreme law of the United States.

Merry Christmas everyone! Go Bless you!

Found a book stuck away to read one day. So...it is the Drifters by James Michener. It was written in 1970. I can relate to much of it having been there. Some I never saw though.
The premise is kids who rebelled and headed to avoid the draft or vacation in Spain and then just never went home.
He does a guy character who is a Jew. And in the book highlights college campuses that had protests that were pro Palestinian that were being put down and controlled by the Jews, etc.
So this is nothing new. The kids who are protesting on college campuses today are a continuation of 50 plus years of the Palestinian issue.
Interesting..proving there is nothing new under the sun.
I remember telling mom that this country was so bad that we needed a revolution. She said that never gained, only lost..work in the system for change. When I was 40, SHE was for a revolution. She saw our government would not allow change, nor our elite. I told her she was too late. Because I had gotten used the status quo and had no fire left.
Every generation of youth was ready to revolt and re-new our country. Now it appears the last one, Z, and more are so beaten down from birth that they just have given up before they start.

The reason, particularly in Islamic beliefs that women should cover their hair, is to prevent men from succumbing to a s*xual desire at the sight of a head of hair. If women believe in this and the possible outcome, then why do they in most cases make their faces look as attractive as possible with make up, including lip stick etc, but still cover their heads? Do they wish to look attractive or not?