An old flame suddenly appears and wants to hook up. Do you..... (61)
petofisandor: Love is sweeter the second time 'round
Coz she aint no more so round
She has lost those pound
Before she'd again come 'round.
Well... depends what she looks like now. Just because she is an old flame, it does not give her any forerights. She has to come in on the ground floor just like everyone else. Equal-opportunity opportunity. Merit-based, no nepotism, no favouritism. Past experience does not guarantee future rate of return. Returning girls join the queue at the end, no pushing, everyone wait their turn. One per customer, no rain checks, no returns!! This last bit is especially important. Ie. keep the stuff, please.
Coz she aint no more so round
She has lost those pound
Before she'd again come 'round.
Well... depends what she looks like now. Just because she is an old flame, it does not give her any forerights. She has to come in on the ground floor just like everyone else. Equal-opportunity opportunity. Merit-based, no nepotism, no favouritism. Past experience does not guarantee future rate of return. Returning girls join the queue at the end, no pushing, everyone wait their turn. One per customer, no rain checks, no returns!! This last bit is especially important. Ie. keep the stuff, please.
Empty hearts,,
But if we know how to burn those rags, they could rekindle again a dying flame, and could lead a way to any new horizon, make a good torch out it and keep those eyes wide open so as not to glide again in a sparkling mirage that even a blind dare don't go.
We know what we're leaving but we don't know what we're heading to.
i'd rather try again with somebody i used to know and willing to mend everything that any other that i don't know where it will lead,
Well, life is just a gamble, sometimes we win, sometimes we lose,, the challenge lies to how to recover that loss,,,
felixis99: a naughty tart at that
BerrySmoothie: Men rule with their appendage. They merely roll from one bed to the next, never mind the heart....or the brain, for that matter....
Guilty as charged 
BerrySmoothie: Men rule with their appendage. They merely roll from one bed to the next, never mind the heart....or the brain, for that matter....
they think with it as well
felixis99: they think with it as well
I don't know, if they know....which comes first.The thought or the action....
tomcatwarne: I could have told you that
By words? or by action?
Obstinance_Works: Women rule without rules. Except when it comes to the heart. How many times will you hear her say I'll never! date a man like him again and you already know what the next boyfriend is going to be like?
I'd say love is the only places where women at least try to look like they have a plan. Where you're judgemental, tasteful and discerning and aiming for something more than an aimless thrill in the sack. Almost all of your literature is dedicated to this rule system. The fact that you don't follow your own advice is one reason why you need a man around.
Obstinance_Works: I'd say love is the only places where women at least try to look like they have a plan. Where you're judgemental, tasteful and discerning and aiming for something more than an aimless thrill in the sack. Almost all of your literature is dedicated to this rule system. The fact that you don't follow your own advice is one reason why you need a man around.
I don't know whether to laugh or cry after reading that.
You are a real character Obs...
Obstinance_Works: Women rule without rules. Except when it comes to the heart. How many times will you hear her say I'll never! date a man like him again and you already know what the next boyfriend is going to be like?
You make me smile,, if you really see around you, there are lots of men who failed and pityful to look at than women.
On the streets, there are more men looking strange and scary, dirty, urinating on their pants than women.
Depends on the reason you split in the first place, BUT, I would say, everyone deserves a second chance, so give it a go, what have you to loose?
If we didn't have anything strong to hold on and stay together before why would I want to waste more time now?! 
So, the answer is "No"...I've never done it,and never will...
So, the answer is "No"...I've never done it,and never will...
Babettefr: On the streets, there are more men looking strange and scary, dirty, urinating on their pants than women.
are we still talking about ex's here...?
if i met an ex in this condition, i don't think i'd be likely to strike up the relationship again...
although i would try to get them in touch with agencies that could help them.
and as long as we're judging on appearances...
a short walk along hastings street in vancouver will attest to the fact that misery is not gender based.
jmho
Geriatrix2: A blast from the past turns up out of the blue and says he/she wants to give it another go.(I wasn't ready/made a mistake/ was too hasty calling it off). You were once keen on him/her what do you do now?
I can see ex-men have no chance here,,
Babettefr: I can see ex-men have no chance here,,
If you want to start a fire where a fire was before, the coal you burn must be new coal. (Carmen Jones, film with music by Bizet). Seems the general consensus here, but it is interesting to note all but one of the replies came from the over 40's group. Wonder what the younger brigade think?It all depends on the circumstances under which you broke up in the first place.
If the circumstances have changed, and unlikely to be repeated, and you still both have genuine feelings for each other, I don't see any reason not to give it a go.
If the circumstances have changed, and unlikely to be repeated, and you still both have genuine feelings for each other, I don't see any reason not to give it a go.
Run, run, run, and don't look back.
Geriatrix2: If you want to start a fire where a fire was before, the coal you burn must be new coal. (Carmen Jones, film with music by Bizet). Seems the general consensus here, but it is interesting to note all but one of the replies came from the over 40's group. Wonder what the younger brigade think?
Geria,
Yes, younger brigade ? where are they?,, maybe they adhere to come and go, another generation.
Regading the OP, i have known quite many cases of divorced partners that remarried again after certain years of hopping around on each side, this could depend on reasons of divorce/separation, there are so many.
For my part , so to say, things we say "never" to,, could change in a fraction of time, and so many things left there to say to justify.
Some couples separate when kids are still small and hard to cope up to, leaving one of the stronger partner take charge of the burden, and when kids are grown up, they restart,, anything can be a cause,,
Future is never certain.
I'd tell him to get lost.
KremaP: If we didn't have anything strong to hold on and stay together before why would I want to waste more time now?!
So, the answer is "No"...I've never done it,and never will...
So, the answer is "No"...I've never done it,and never will...
It would depend on the EX for me.
If I think our troubles are fixable, I'm a tryer I just keep going back and trying to figure out how to get on the same page.
However I've a couple standing offers from women I'm genuinely fond of but I'm pretty sure no amount of talking would fix what split us up in the first place. I've gone back under those circumstances before, but it just doesn't feel worth it to me right now.
depends on which old flame and before anybody gets any ideas the answer will still prolly be HEEElll NO. Just which one of them makes a difference as to if I will talk to him at all, I guess
Ocee102: It would depend on the EX for me.
If I think our troubles are fixable, I'm a tryer I just keep going back and trying to figure out how to get on the same page.
However I've a couple standing offers from women I'm genuinely fond of but I'm pretty sure no amount of talking would fix what split us up in the first place. I've gone back under those circumstances before, but it just doesn't feel worth it to me right now.
If I think our troubles are fixable, I'm a tryer I just keep going back and trying to figure out how to get on the same page.
However I've a couple standing offers from women I'm genuinely fond of but I'm pretty sure no amount of talking would fix what split us up in the first place. I've gone back under those circumstances before, but it just doesn't feel worth it to me right now.
I'm with Krema. I consider it a time waster. Guys who I might be interested in now would interpret it as I am a faithless woman beast
or even worse "he" might think I am still interested in one of them....that just pushes back the chances of meeting up with someone new....hence a time waster
felixis99: I'm with Krema. I consider it a time waster. Guys who I might be interested in now would interpret it as I am a faithless woman beast
or even worse "he" might think I am still interested in one of them....that just pushes back the chances of meeting up with someone new....hence a time waster
or even worse "he" might think I am still interested in one of them....that just pushes back the chances of meeting up with someone new....hence a time waster
Yea, I enjoyed the time I spent, but I can't argue that it was wise
to fill that space in my life.
We rarely get to know the opportunities we cost ourselves.
Felixis I so wish you would change outta that sweater..
It's over 30c here, you're killing me
It's over 30c here, you're killing me
Alabama- Old Flame
hoolet: No hooking, just looking. The flame´s probably been well and truly doused anyway.
Give her one and see if she is better than before ,,,We all recycle glass and plastics these days, girlfriends are the next logical thing to recycle.
Ocee102: Yea, I enjoyed the time I spent, but I can't argue that it was wise
to fill that space in my life.We rarely get to know the opportunities we cost ourselves.
to fill that space in my life.We rarely get to know the opportunities we cost ourselves.
I guess that could be true. I think things tend to happen for a reason though. I have done that also where after a break up we tried several times to get it together, but eventually I was ready to move on because we did not have much in common or any of the same goals.
Maybe in that interval I might have met someone else, maybe not. I haven't since then so who knows. I don't regret the time - at the time I did not feel like I was wasting time. But I think now it would be a time waster because I am ready for a different kind of relationship than what I had with my past couple of man friends....if that makes any sense at all....
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Men rule with their appendage. They merely roll from one bed to the next, never mind the heart....or the brain, for that matter....