Molly, where do these women hide? Or do they only switch from Jekyll to Hyde when a man appears? I think that's why I never realized before how loony a woman can be on a date, because although I've worked with single women who talk about their experiences (not good) I hadn't realized they were applying their own filters.
Maybe not every guy they dated was after 'one thing' and by the way where are those guys, I could handle being chased around a bit
@Lamhe, there are several selling themselves and they are very good at doing a careful undersell. They pretend they have almost given up on meeting someone, but for a good reason (I live in a really remote, beautiful, place is often one, or I am focused on giving my children a happy childhood) and they list only one or two attractive-sounding qualities. They don't limit their expectations of the person they want to meet in any way.
The intention is to come across as utterly honest and refreshingly free of fixed ideas, and open to meeting someone extraordinary - you.
They can then tailor their response to your approach to be exactly what you want them to be - chameleon people.
Dangerous people. Because those selling themselves are constantly looking for new buyers, and never settle for one.
1to1, yeah, I'm usually fairly tolerant but when there's no common ground at all, there's no point in prolonging the social contact, I try to avoid negative people who bring me down. Angry people are just scary!
Hey, Kal, I just report the words she used
Geronomo, WOW, what a date! An ex of mine from way, way back has now been on the single scene for about 8 years and he said darkly I had no idea how insane some women could be but he wouldn't talk about it, just shook his head. Suddenly I realize what he's talking about
I may not be completely normal - actually I know I'm not - but suddenly I feel confidently sane
Luke, sometimes the angry have issues with Mommy too - and yes I was lucky he didn't actually fancy me, I think. Like Rob says, he might have tried harder. As it was he was peeved that he'd been stuck with The Friend and wasn't wasting any charm. Phew! And Cat, he was no choice of mine or I of his, we'd both been dragged along to make up numbers for a double date
Vier, hope you meet her haha
Lamhe, definitely kick, yikes, my last double date
Mick, I honestly have no idea how normal he was, I never dated a stranger again in SA. He was the first person I'd met like that, I took great care not to meet any more
Annlee, I agree, he seemed pretty abnormal to me! and yet as Daniela said, she's dated weirder than he was.
Map, you make a very good point, some people bring out the best, or the worst, in us
I was rude not responding to comments before, but I was so tired.
Most of you were saying what is undeniably true - normal is the norm in your social environment! Non, Baig, Molly, Cach, Deedee, all intelligent comments
I've thought and said that mature singles carry more baggage than most but this guy was an early starter, he'd have been early 30s and had still managed to build up a massive head of angry steam!
Bea, angry singles, the most terrifying species on the planet, and often so charming at the start that it is only as the paint flakes off that we see what lies beneath
When I wrote a book on how to meet people through a website the 'angry singles' section got so long I very nearly renamed the book
Glad you got free without major harm and it is lovely to have you back
Molly, bear in mind this wasn't someone I had ever met or previously spoken to (or even heard of), my friend was invited out by his friend and felt there was safety in numbers so suggested he bring a friend and she'd bring one.
Not to say I haven't found myself on a date with a weirdo despite talking to them first, that happened once too
Luke, I'd be at one and the same time the best, and most corrupt, politician ever. I think I'd be really good at it, but I really suspect the thing I'd be best at is running the world.
A very light hand, some sensible rules and taxes for the good of the community, and execution for everyone who broke the rules or fiddled the taxes, or did anything to the detriment of the peaceful community. That should focus the minds of the populace.
Also ritual hanging for anyone who indicates wrongly while on a roundabout.
Hi Jazz I did too for 3 years - work related stress, not depression, but the same pills - and they keep you in a level place. No scary troughs of darkness but no mountain-top sunshine. I'm not knocking them, because I'd reached a point where with all the cheery advice in the world I wasn't coping any more, but it's not such a good place, it's an unstressed existence.
The scariest part of the whole thing was coming off them 5 years ago and realizing that tiny little pill, which seemed to be barely making a difference, was controlling my entire life and my moods. I hate being controlled! It was a bad 3 months taking my life back into my own hands, not easy at all.
But, like hitting your thumb with a hammer - it's great when you stop
Hmm depression is the common cold of the human mind - we're all going to have regular bouts of it.
This is the second astonishing breakthrough I've seen getting coverage in the last few days, and the shock horror GPs are reaching for the meds too quickly findings.
We're all going to be leading sedated programmed lives soon enough, as soon as the testing stage is complete, and why not? Most people are happiest with TV to watch, a smart-phone to keep us connected to our important peeps, and food on hand. Any moments of anxiety or worrying whether there should be more to life can and will be treated with a quick pill.
Best part, no comeback in the long term because the powers that be can say hey, there was plenty of debate on the issue and people still chose the pills
There was very recently a little cartoon film about a rat which bullied all the other creatures and stole from them. The film became the Must Watch film and I watched it recently.
Wen, check out Japanese loos. They are very nearly there
Loos for man-caves, though, you could have something there. Self-cleaning would be good, a comfortable warm seat for the rare times you need a seat, daily newspapers delivered through the door - any good?
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Molly, where do these women hide? Or do they only switch from Jekyll to Hyde when a man appears? I think that's why I never realized before how loony a woman can be on a date, because although I've worked with single women who talk about their experiences (not good) I hadn't realized they were applying their own filters.Maybe not every guy they dated was after 'one thing' and by the way where are those guys, I could handle being chased around a bit