It means that it's unlikely I'm the only person in the whole of Britain, or the world who is well educated and working in a fast food outlet.
To state that people who serve in fast food outlets are 'morons' (with a mental age of 7-12 years according to an an outdated classification model) comes across as judgemental and ill-informed.
At one time there was a theory regarding why people with anorexia nervosa were so active, despite the lack of nurients they consumed: the idea was that they behaved like starving animals on the move searching for food, like it was a fundemental survival mechanism to be energetic when under starvation conditions.
There are also theories of addiction, possibly addiction to starvation, or food control which are interesting. Trauma, particularly in childhood, messes with neurological development inhibiting production of certain neurochemicals. People who have addiction behaviours are usually self-medicating, compensating, or reacting to their messed up brain chemistry, however destructive that is.
I think entitlement to material gain is getting mixed up with the inner stuff here.
People who, for whatever reason, feel they don't deserve happiness will find it difficult to create their own happiness from within. It can take a lot of emotional and cognitive work to create inner peace.
It's very difficult let one's light shine outwards towards others without that inner light.
Is that the statement of someone who feels they deserve happiness, or is it something else?
Perhaps, "I deserve material gain", or "I need distraction from what's going on with me"?
I go back to my earlier post - if someone feels they deserve to be happy, then maybe only then can they create for themselves and share it with others. Doesn't criminally offending against someone kinda rely of thinking, feeling, or deciding that someone else deserves the crime perpetrated against them? That they don't deserve some state of being that they are perceived to have, like happiness?
But that still implies one must have a sense of deserving happiness before taking action, doesn't it?
If someone feels, or decides they are underserving of happiness then they are perhaps unlikely to take action to create it their lives...and perhaps the lives of others, too.
I think we can all have a pang of 'jealousy' from time to time, but it's how we deal with it that's important.
I think can be about feeling insecure, fear and distrust, or maybe a bit of greed for that person.
Personally, I'd rather take a look at myself and what my problem is, than stop any partner from interacting, or being kind/flirty/sociable with others. I like to see a partner interact positively with others, even if I get a little pang of wishing it was me getting all their attention.
At the end of the day, if someone's gonna leave you, they're gonna leave you. If they're not gonna leave you, they're not gonna leave you. You can't control that, but you can certainly chuck a bloody great spanner in the works of a relationship with mistrust, demands, arguments and trying to control your partner's interactions with others.
If it's worrying about making the rent, rushing to A&E with a loved one, or finding a spider so big in my room I can't find a glass big enough to catch it, then no.
If it's passing a test I've worked hard for, seeing an enormous wave crash on the rocks, or having my granddaughter explain how to make cherry pie to me (it was dramatic), then yes.
Childbirth is kinda the best and the worst all at the same time. I've mixed feelings about that one.
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RE: What would you give the person above?
Just because mine's bigger than yours...