My Syrian friend tells me that despite Syria keeping it's borders open to all refugees from previous conflicts in other Arab countries, the other Arab countries have closed their borders to them in their time of need.
Bearing in mind we have a bit of a language barrier, when I asked him why, he said it was because the presidents of these countries are stupid.
I know he believes self-defence. I know he doesn't understand why the Arab countries don't unite peacefully together. I know he is anguished by the propaganda in the media about Muslim people and the enormous number of innocent Muslims who have been killed by the US military.
Oooh, you don't want to see me on coffee. Think chipmunk with an amphetamine drip.
Personally, I'm not sure about the zing thing.
At one extreme, there are people who I've found tinglingly attractive, but the moment they open their gob ~whooomph!~ and it's gone.
There are others who I've not been initially attracted to, but have grown on me because they're kind and utterly charming.
I think that's why profiles are a pretty ineffective means of finding people to develop a rapport with. Forums and blogs at least give us an insight into someone's 'charms'.
I think to a certain extent we can control, or at least have some influence on zing. Generally speaking, we tend to like and gravitate towards people who show signs of liking us. It follows that if we show we like someone, they're more likely to find us charming.
I'm not sure it's the whole story with zing, but maybe a fairly hefty part of it.
So, why do you think this man is the sort of chap you should have a relationship with? What is it that you might learn about your relationship needs from this friendship?
I've seen you work through some stuff out in the open - y'know when you pinpoint how you're thinking, feeling and behaving, what it reminds you of, why you're doing it, the consequences, etc.
You know, when you have those little Eureka moments, understand something about yourself...and then move forward.
You mean things like love, respect, equality and not harming others?
That should be intrinsic to all laws and belief systems and not the sole domain of christianity.
It's not an excuse to push dogmas into the law of the land which don't equally and respectfully apply to other's belief systems, or to do harm to others.
It says it in the Oxford Dictionary, that thing about u's, therefore I have the right to pull out American's toenails. It's the 171,476 words in current use, 47,156 obsolete and 9,500 derivative words of the Goddess Espeller.
So, if your higher law is greater than the law of the land, that means anyone who says they believe in a higher law can do what they want with impunity?
My belief system is that there's a higher law than the Fifth Amendment and that I am duty bound to the Goddess Espeller to pull out the toenails of all Americans who refuse to spell appropriately with the letter U.
Fair enough? Or would you all of a sudden want legal protection from my marauding, pliers wielding, cult-like ways?
Errr...this isn't the first time you've done this, is it?
I seem to remember you regretted doing it the last time.
I get the hiding behind the sofa when things get scary, but maybe you might find a less final way of doing it so you can give yourself some time to think things through.
A very good excuse, or two, or a feeble excuse, or two?
You're giving a mixed message and this is not a clear communication.
Yes, we can take care of ourselves and our emotions.
Yes, we can observe our inner child...but maybe to see if we're reacting as we did as a child, rather than taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and behaviours as an adult.
Nobody makes us feel anything, we can choose how we feel.
Any interaction with another person is not just about them, it's about how we each choose to partake and how each of our histories interact. For example, if someone has lied to us in the past, we might react as if the other person is lying - they might not be. They might have experienced insecurity from another in their history and react to that - but you might not be insecure.
All of a sudden we have a big thing about lying and insecurity, but actually the interaction may have nothing to do with either.
So, how might you find out what's really going on? How might you sort it out?
Because all the 25 year old platinum blonde women have cried, "Piss off you dirty old man! You should be ashamed of yourself!" and they thought they'd try their luck when you turned up on the scene?
It would be interesting to find out if their advances towards you are based on some kind of common perception, or belief about you based upon your appearance, age, gender, race, supposed culture, whatever, wouldn't it?
Would you be prepared to move those boundaries just a little as a matter of compromise?
I'm pretty insular, but even I like to sit in a pub garden with a lemonade and a bag of crisps after a long, muddy walk.
I'm thinking you've got quite a lot of requirements which narrow your chances of finding a partner. The spending time with family, but 'no kids' is especially confusing.
Maybe it's a matter of finding a different way of expressing your needs?
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RE: Where's the brotherhood gone?
My Syrian friend tells me that despite Syria keeping it's borders open to all refugees from previous conflicts in other Arab countries, the other Arab countries have closed their borders to them in their time of need.Bearing in mind we have a bit of a language barrier, when I asked him why, he said it was because the presidents of these countries are stupid.
I know he believes self-defence. I know he doesn't understand why the Arab countries don't unite peacefully together. I know he is anguished by the propaganda in the media about Muslim people and the enormous number of innocent Muslims who have been killed by the US military.