No, you'd all start speaking way too fast and out the side of your mouths and I wouldn't be able to lip read any of you!
Reality No.1: the Irish are one of the hardest people to lip read, only outdone by African people who seem to talk at the front of their mouths with no sideways lip movements whatsoever.
Reality No.2: you all slip into writing in the vernacular on the Irish forums which is not unlike speaking too fast out of the side of your mouths.
Reality No.3: I'm using my phone, can only access the International forums and I'd miss you all.
Well, being a painfully shy, deaf old git, I'm only really comfortable socialising with one person at a time who speaks like Charlie the Cat so I can lip read.
Anything else I find stressful and I end up feeling a bit socially inept because I miss so much of group conversations.
I'm pretty much at home being in my own hermit-like company, but, y'know, I get a bit lonely sometimes too, especially now daughter and granddaughter spend a lot of time staying with my daughter's boyfriend.
It's the way it should be - my girls are growing up and moving on. I'm liking having more of a grandma role and less of a mum role. I'm liking having some peace and quiet.
But rebuilding my life after nearly a quarter of a century in the 24/7 carer role and having to approach it with a significant hearing loss? T'aint simple.
I'd probably go a bit doolally flip flop without you lot. Just sayin'.
I have trouble thinking up a few threads a year which other people might be interested in.
I sort of agree with Molly, but sometimes people want to look at an issue from more than one angle and then compare - say one thread aimed at women, the same subject, but aimed at men.
Sometimes, one thread may spark an idea for another.
I wouldn't want to see people's curiousness thwarted, but I'm not overly fond of flooding the forums to the detriment of others, either.
What nasty assumptions do you assume people have made, Snooks?
I asked you if I'd got the sequence of events correct from the information you have given in this thread.
If I have got the sequence of events correct, I suspect your work colleague likes you rather a lot.
I'm wondering if you think you've made it clear that you're only interested in friendship, but he thinks something else, like you want to take things slowly.
It comes across to me that you're perhaps unwittingly giving him mixed messages - I don't ask people I don't like to take me out to dinner, or accept expensive gifts from them. I don't ask that of my friends.
I might ask a friend if they want to go hill walking, and if my friend drives, I make the food, flasks and pay the car parking fees so it's kinda...fair.
I'm thinking that your work colleague wants to see you happy, will do anything you ask to spend time with you and may end up feeling horribly hurt and used by you.
I'm not saying you're doing this deliberately, but it looks to me like some rather essential social cues are being missed by you.
A work colleague has tried it on with you a number of times, but you've rejected him because you don't like him.
You then ask him to take you and your son out because you fancy seafood, he picks you up, pays for your dinner, buys you an expensive gift and then drops you back home.
Yeah, my daughter being gravely unwell at the age of 15 was a far more terrifying experience than being wheeled into an operating theatre knowing I could still feel stuff.
I could control my mind and my response to pain. I couldn't control what was happening to my daughter when she was ill.
Feelings of utter powerlessness are the most terrifying. That's what torture is based upon.
I could put my dog on a raw food diet, but he's been dead for 12 years.
As are the other three rescue dogs I had over a 25 year period.
I have a granddaughter now: not as easy to train, probably should be kept on a leash and way too lanky to be a suitable candidate for a raw food diet. She's equally as hilarious as the dogs, mind.
I meant to reply last night to say thankyou for my birthday wishes, the cakes (the poof's in the pudding) and join in with the laughter, but I fell asleep. Plainly, the excitement was all a bit much for me at my age.
I did consider banning you all, but then I'd have no one to talk to, so I'll just ban Non.
And thanks to the kindly and good humoured mod who poofed my rant, but not my birthday wishes. Stylishly done.
jac_the_gripper Forum Posts (5,363)
RE: struggling
I would have been happy enough if some rough guidelines came out with my daughter's placenta and I had to make the rest up myself as I went along.I mean, the 10 commandments weren't much of a bleedin' revelation, we're they?