It's easy to criticise people for not working at relationships, but how many people would be prepared to invest in educational programmes for children to provide them with the skills they need to negotiate adult relationships?
A neighbour's son very kindly brought his plough and cleared the the three roads on our small estate so people could get out in their cars.
As my daughter and I were the only family without a car, he dumped all the cleared snow in front of our house.
My daughter was heavily pregnant, and whilst I could climb the compacted Everest at the end of our small drive, she was alarmingly housebound.
We had an anxious two weeks, hoping nothing would go awry causing the need for an ambulance.
Finally, the warm Welsh rains came back melting almost everything overnight. At 6am on the 30th December her waters broke spectacularly as all but a few patches of snow had gone. My granddaughter was born on 31st in time for a party.
I can't help, but think my daughter held on for those two weeks with a will of iron.
We had heavy snow in 2008 and 2009, as well. Before that, I think it might have been 1996.
Presumably, this company gets some business, the implication of which is that there are a number of people who like this idea. Each of those people will have their own reasons for wanting to use this service.
Your reasons for finding it a disrespectful use of someone's remains will be unique to you and I'm curious about that.
I find the objects a bit tacky and factory produced and that strikes as being demeaning/disrespectful.
If I found that the frame was hand cut and turned, the glass hand blown and that each piece was a result of dedicated craft, I might change my mind about the aura of tackiness.
If someone deliberately wanted something outrageous and tacky for a not so loved one, maybe even that level of disrespect might facilitate a complex grieving process.
What's that book/film set in Newfoundland where July Dench plays the character who puts her brother's ashes down the latrine and pisses on them? There's that oh so subtle bit of acting where after going to great lengths and deceit to achieve this moment, she realises that it's an anti-climax and changes nothing.
The psychology of that for individuals would make an interesting discussion.
Personally, I would feel like I was trying to trap a lost loved one, and in not setting them free, inhibit my own grieving process.
There's also a juxtaposition for me in the loved ones time having ended and yet using their remains to keep time.
Others may have an entirely different perspective and I'm curious about that.
I suppose it could be a healing tool as well. Maybe it could be a reminder of good times. Maybe it could be used therapeutically - set aside a hour a week to contemplate feelings of grief in order to progress with them.
My daughter had her own paper round business by the time she was 12.
I did it with her, so it was a safe learning experience.
She paid for her bedroom decoration and furniture, 2 school ski trips, a school trip to Disneyland Paris and more.
I had the child benefit (which all parents get in the UK) paid into her account and she budgeted that for swimming, martial arts, horse riding, skiing and ballet lessons/equipment.
It's educational for children to work, earn and budget. It's educational (and fun) for children to save up for extra-curricula lessons and experiences.
12 hour shifts in a sweatshop for two bowls of rice and a hard floor to sleep on, no.
I remember a time when you had to be quick to keep up with the forums.
I used to contribute quite a lot and always made point of trying to respond to newbies. I remember my first tentative posts and how difficult it was to get going, but really it's just a matter of posting enough until people start to recognise you.
You're not being snubbed, it's not personal, it's not about cliques - it's just that familiarity takes a little longer than when interacting in person.
I've already moved on from 'who's Molly Sawdust?' to 'oh, it's Molly Sawdust!' and I think this is only the second time I've replied to one of your posts.
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RE: Telepathy
Which bit do you think is a load of absolute crap, Pat?Picking up on subtle body language and facial expressions as a means of communication, or that the mind might not be confined to the brain?