RE: What's the easiest and safe way to open tight Pistachios from Turkey?

I use a nut cracker.

Call me old fashioned. grin

RE: Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?

Don't get me started on the subject of uniforms. I hate them with a passion. laugh

RE: A legal question

Sorry, I missed the bit about it being hypothetical because my cogs and wheels started whirring.

I hadn't thought about the weighting of the burden of proof, that is how much the injured party has to prove the injury and how much the person who caused the accident has to prove what aspects they were not responsible for.

I hadn't included the bartering process, either. The injured party will attempt to claim for as much as possible, the person who caused the accident will accept responsibility for as little as possible. Ideally a settlement somewhere inbetween will be negotiated which is satisfactory to both parties. It's in part a game.

RE: Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?

It sounds like there's more than one violation there, even if only one of them was a written rule. laugh

What were you thinking as you performed this ceremony?

What were you feeling?

RE: Who would like to be in a relationship where your significant other contributes equally to it?

I suppose that depends upon the childcare you choose, or is available to you.

I chose self-employment working from home as a lone parent. I really didn't like the idea of someone else looking after my child. I worked a ridiculous number of hours day and night for little financial return.

I co-parented my granddaughter, by which time I was seriously running out of steam. My daughter and I decided that some of my granddaughter's care needed to be outsourced, so for three mornings a week she went to a local child minder. My granddaughter loved it and it increased the quality of her life. I had more energy when it was my turn to care for her because I didn't have to work in the night as well. My daughter got to continue with her education.

My daughter and I also learned a thing, or two about childcare from someone who was old enough to be my mother and highly skilled. It brought us more together as a family because we were less exhausted and fraught.

I really had to do a 180 with respect to my opinion about outsourcing childcare. There is no right, or wrong, as long as children are being well cared for and have an acceptable quality of life.

RE: A legal question

I'd like to have an uniformed guess at the logic, if I may.

If you hit a two year old child at 10 miles per hour with your truck, that child may sustain head injuries and all sorts. If you hit a 6'6" adult male at 10 miles per hour he may sustain cuts and bruises. You can't argue that had the child had the decency to be a 6'6" adult male they would have only sustained cuts and bruises therefore you're only responsible for the cuts and bruises to the child.

In that case, you have to take the situation as it is, not what it might have been.

The law about the fragility of the person you injure probably came about through people arguing a lesser responsibility. It's there to protect the two year old who can't possibly be a 6'6" male and deserves adequate compensation to attend to their needs.

The problem with this idea is that it may leave the person who caused the accident more vulnerable. You might have a situation where people argue that an unconnected condition has been aggravated - you hit me at 10 miles per hour causing cuts and bruises and it made my ingrowing toenail far worse which needs medical attention which I couldn't afford before the accident.

What you need to find out is whether the injury you caused to the arm really did affect the pre-existing back condition, or not. If it did, take responsibility for it because you have to take the situation as it is, not what it might have been had this person had the decency to be more robust. If the injury you caused was isolated to the arm and the aggrieved party is just trying to tack the back condition onto your bill then refute the responsibility.

You need to review:
*the medical assessment after the injury;
*who did the medical assessment and their reputation/history;
*medical assessments of the back condition prior to the accident;
*the financial/medical insurance position of the injured party with respect to treatment of the original back condition;
*anything that they should, or shouldn't have done to protect themselves such as not driving, wearing a brace of some sort; &
*possibly other things I can't think of off the top of my head.

I'm really just guessing at this Ro, but I hope it might open a door a little to help you understand your situation and how to tackle it.

RE: Drinking alone...?

I don't drink in public.

Half a glass of wine and I start slurring my words, two glasses and I'm likely to walk into people, or walls.

If I drink, I need to be safely tucked up in bed with a good book.

Personally I find drinking a fairly anti-social activity, particularly if I have to catch a train home on an International day (it's a rugby in Wales cultural thing), or have to get a late train home on a Friday, or Saturday night.

Clearly, as I drink alone and don't like being out surrounded by people who are pissing in the train station sinks, vomiting on the carriage upholstery, or shouting catchy little pop tunes en masse, it must be me who has a problem with alcohol dependence.

I appreciate that for some people having a barrier to excessive alcohol consumption like never drinking alone, or in the home is healthy, but it's not a catch all indicator. One person can be out all day every day drinking alcohol, another can have one glass of wine everyday with dinner in company, or alone, another might have three alcohol free days a week, but binge well over their units on the other four.

Alcohol can be detrimental to your physical health, but because it's psychoactive we also have psychological and cultural interactions with it. It has a physical and emotional dependence element which is far more complex than simply when and where it's consumed.

RE: Seperated not legally though.

I have a friend who raised his kids as a single parent, but only recently got round to getting a divorce now they're all in their 20's and 30's.

The motivation was to make sure his kids inherited his house if he popped his clogs.

Is the paperwork the priority? A relationship can be well and truly over without a divorce and a divorce doesn't necessarily end a relationship.

I'd say someone's emotional, rather than marital status is the salient feature with respect to their ability to develop a new intimate relationship.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

Is laughing at AI, or saying she's talking gibberish a reasonable way of arguing for, or against something?

I don't always understand AI's choice of language. She has a different perspective, maybe a different belief system, or knowledge base than I, but I wouldn't dismiss the contribution she makes.

She has to be one of the kindest, most positive people I've had the privilege to interact with.

I think I'm just trying to point out that none of us are perfectly clear to everyone all the time in our communications. Debate, or discussion is at least in part about clarification.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

It's not that kind of waste ground.

It's part of a communal garden which is being wasted.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

If there are any doubts about proteins, there are plenty of vegan full spectrum amino acid protein powders on the market you can add to smoothies, or other meals.

I can't help thinking that this micro-analysis of food is unhelpful, mostly because there's so much contradictory information coming from the diet industry. Generally, if you have a reasonably varied diet of fresh stuff you're at the very least doing better than the population of the third world and the US.

B12 is the only thing I try to keep tabs on, but that's because of allergy/food intolerance restrictions more than restricting my diet to plants.

RE: Seperated not legally though.

I don't get it either, but then lots of people won't get how I can be content mostly in my own company.

There's no right, or wrong if it works for one person on their own, or a couple together. It can just get messy for one person in a couple, or people around them.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

I know lots of people who eat a plant based diet, none of whom have any issues, or have to cook complicated meals to achieve being issue free.

I suppose it depends on what you call complicated.

And whether you ignore the health issues meat and/ or junk food consumers experience.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

So, it's an argument in support of plant based food even though you laughed at AI for saying eating meat can affect your immune system? dunno

PS. I have never eaten anything in the US.

RE: Seperated not legally though.

I've noticed over the years that some people really don't like being alone.

It's not uncommon for people to seek the next relationship before leaving the one they're in so there's no 'all on my own' phase in the transition.

It's not weird in the sense of being strange, or an infrequent phenomenon, but it's perhaps emotionally immature and likely to be messy.

Even, or perhaps especially, when people decide to go their own ways amicably, there is very often a winding down period, a detachment phase. We invest a lot in relationships in all sorts of ways and it's difficult to switch that off. Remove the pressures of a relationship and we may remember how we saw that person in different circumstances. There is a grieving element to every loss.

We can take the time to detach, or we can transfer it someone else. It's emotionally simpler, more practical and generally less painful in many ways if we can transfer, but it will come with it's own set of complications.

One of those complications is that on the receiving end we may feel objectified: this person wants somebody, anybody to replace the object of their desires.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

That's a myth.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

Are you arguing that we should continue intensive animal farming because eating the veg contaminated by it is more of a health risk than eating the meat?

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

I thought the overuse of antibiotics in the animal farming industry was a food chain issue. dunno

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

More projects to enable people to grow their own vegetables might help, even if some families still need to hunt.

Growing your own veg is something which can be done pretty much wherever you live, even if it's in tires, dresser draws, or polythene bags.

There is a communal garden where I live which includes some waste ground that I have my eye on. I might start digging that when everything dies back, but it will be one helluva job.

RE: Have Mercy on the Animals, they have feelings too.

Last night I had roasted fennel casserole with lemon rice.

It's easy to make, low cost, healthy, freezes well and it's delicious.

It's also more environmentally friendly and efficient eating plant based meals. There would be enough food for everyone in the world and we'd use a fraction of the land space currently used for farming if we ate a plant based diet.

It's not just about having mercy on the animals we might farm and kill for food, it's about looking after all the animals and habitats on the planet including our own kind.

RE: Is there a homeless crisis where you live

That's not really true.

There are so many rental regulations now, it's no longer a low cost, easy investment. It's only right that those regulations are in place so tenants aren't living in death traps, but the costs are passed on.

I was technically homeless just before lockdown, but luckily never without a roof over my head. It was a very stressful experience, but hopefully one I'll never have to repeat.

To my mind the biggest problem is the disparity between housing expense and non-living wages. More social housing would help too, although it's still expensive compared with lower-end incomes.

I'm aware of one homeless man in the fairly isolated village where I now live. I imagine it's a day to day, meal to meal crisis for him. I've only seen him a few times and never in the same place twice. I don't know how he survives.

I knew quite a lot of the homeless people when I worked in Cardiff. I had a sneaky source of left-over food and would walk 'the long way round' to the train station on my way home. I'd keep the most interesting, well presented food items for one young woman because she'd be beside herself with excitement about it. I often wondered whether looking at pretty food, or exploring something different relieved the boredom of her situation.

In the summer months people would beg for water, or anything to quench their thirst, but I didn't often manage to get my hands on beverages.

I'd like to see public water fountains reinstated and public lavatories, but the trend is to make it as difficult as possible for people to live on city streets.

A few years ago it was bitterly cold before Christmas and I couldn't find anyone for a few weeks. I thought extra shelter might have been available due to the risk of people dying in the severe conditions, but later found out that everyone had been driven out of the city by the police. They were told their presence was disturbing Christmas shoppers. Again, I don't know how they survived, particularly without 'tapping' workers and shoppers for spare change.

It's illegal for homeless people to beg in the UK now, so you have to keep your eyes peeled and approach them with donations. It can happen to any of us.

RE: Boris Johnson doesn't comb his hair becoz

It's a way of promoting a harmless, scatter-brained, 'man of the people' image, with a touch of the professorial to lend credence to his position of power.

The reality is that he's perhaps only a bit shy of nationalistic and racially prejudiced politics; a man of the elite.

His hair is deliberately styled to look unkempt. You can see the hairspray sparkle under studio lights and it doesn't move when he does, despite being the kind of slippery hair that would do justice to a L'Oreal shampoo advertisement.

RE: Olive Oil

Extra virgin is cold pressed.

If it's hot pressed it affects the structure of the fatty acids, reducing the mono-saturates and increasing the saturated fatty acid content. More oil can be extracted through hot pressing.

If the oil is chemically extracted, it becomes contaminated and I think it affects the fatty acid structure as well. This method is used because more oil can be extracted than with either cold pressing, or hot pressing.

I'm going to hazard a guess that olives go through all three stages in most processing plants, unless you buy from an eco-friendly company.

I don't suppose toiletries are routinely made from costly cold-pressed oils, so it's more than likely that an olive oil soap will use the lower grade, chemically extracted oil. It might be worth checking before assuming that a product is natural and healthy.

RE: Anyplace in Europe - A-Z

I didn't read the instructions properly.

A-Z, not last letter-first letter, eh?

Zealand.

The old one, not the new one. giggle

RE: As of today it is illegal to sell tobacco/nicotine products to those under 21 in the U.S.

I hadn't thought about exploitation. sigh

RE: As of today it is illegal to sell tobacco/nicotine products to those under 21 in the U.S.

No, Ali.

The rise in price is done through taxation, not through giving more money to the farmers.

The revenue goes to the government.

RE: As of today it is illegal to sell tobacco/nicotine products to those under 21 in the U.S.

If kids don't start smoking, they are less likely to start as adults.

As adults they don't have to prove they're grown up and smoking loses it's appeal.

To target youngsters is a psychological tactic which is perhaps more likely to reduce smoking that putting prices up. Once someone is addicted, they'll pay.

The money is worth finding for kids who want to prove how grown up they are.

A lot of youngsters these days vape anyway. Vaping fluids come in nice flavours and some produce the kind of vapour that the kids can create patterns with.

At some point, all the changes designed to reduce tobacco use will likely put farmers out of business. It may be a slow process, though.

RE: As of today it is illegal to sell tobacco/nicotine products to those under 21 in the U.S.

At the very least it should be legal for that age group already addicted to buy substitutes, like vaping products.

Recipe For Disaster

1 cup nicotine withdrawal (known to have side effects such as anxiety and depression)
3 cups loss of 'adult' freedoms
Pinch of young brains not yet hardwired to fully perceive consequence
Stolen guns to taste

RE: Anyplace in Europe - A-Z

Nefyn (pronounced nevin) in Gwynedd (pronounced gwineth), Wales.

Known for Garn Boduan, an iron age hill fort dating back to 300BC. The remains of about 100 of the 170 stone round houses found there may still be seen.

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RE: The British Royale Family

There are some who think he looks more like James Hewitt than Charles.

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James Hewitt and Diana were lovers after the breakdown of her marriage with Charles.

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