Nobody (men, or women) can make us feel anything, or have power over us (unless perhaps they have a gun to our heads).
Our feelings are our choice and our power is our own.
Whilst I get that we may need to process stuff to create change in ourselves, if we get to the point where we're thinking about having a gun to someone else's head perhaps we need to very carefully frame that as philosophical, or fantastical...and look at why we choose to use that approach.
Whatever choice she makes, she has to live with the consequences.
I certainly have some empathy for not wanting to deal with being bombarded with age prejudice. When I was a mum of a five year old I looked about 13 years old. It's much more enjoyable being treated like a respectable young mum now, when I'm out with my granddaughter.
Having said that, other people's ignorance was never going to be a reason for giving up my greatest love, my daughter. Learning to ignore it, confront , laugh at it, whatever, was by far the most preferable option.
I dunno about 'really happy', but are many people 'really happy' when in a relationship?
Sometimes being single can feel like hard work, but so can being in a relationship. I can't say I look at being in a relationship as some kind of utopia which is going to save me from the destitution of singledom.
All I can say is being single is right for me right now and I'm not in the right place for a relationship right now. I'm okay with that.
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my post looks very bad, KB.
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