I hear you— in the classical sense “ ego” is definitive, not demonstrative. Many people associate the word as a negative, as in, “We don’t want to hang around with John. He’s embarrassingly egotistical..” it seemed to me that the negative connotation was being addressed, but, I’m a stickler for correctness and your comments are patent to the term. Good enough?
Not quite so fast...Derek Chauvin is, hands-down, egotistical. How’d that work out for him? His emotion, as it were, erased the ID, and EGO stepped in. Not groovy...
What an interesting thread— here are some points to ponder regarding the topic: it’s perfectly fine to have an awareness of “where we came from”, and the abilities and skill-sets we’ve learned and developed. But there are ways to say and feel this. For example, instead of saying, “Yeah, I worked hard for everything I have and earned every red cent”, say, “I’m very grateful that I was blessed with opportunities to have a job and save”. Egotistical people seldom find simpatico. Even egotistical people dislike other egotistical people. Knowing that you are handsome, friendly, educated, successful, is one hing. Being sanctimonious about it is another—AND, wrong.
So, there’s this new fellow who tries to get along. The other employees aren’t really helping much, but he comes in with a happy heart and friendly greetings every morning. Twice he is asked to the manager’s office. “We’re happy to have you on board, but there are lots of complaints. You talk too much. People don’t want to be bothered—you’re too gregarious,,,” So, the poor schmuck, needing his job, tones it way down. He only nods and smiles now, sits bu himself in the lunchroom, and only speaks when first spoken to. He is asked to the manager’s office. “The other employees are upset. You don’t seem to want to talk to them. You don’t sit with them at lunch, and now, they’re complaining you’re not a team player”.
NO— minding your own business doesn’t always work...
I really understand this— I was marginally acquainted with a very small man (but not midget or dwarf) who was an absolute perfect example of being athletic, fit, etc...good looking man, too. And, straight as an arrow. But people, usually other men, would do and say things that were clearly meant to target his size. We have, still, a terrible society that doesn’t seem to care if it’s hurting people...
Top of the morning— this thread reminds me of a couple of things: there’s this thing about small men who make up for it in another way—AND, something about guys (in general) and their trucks...some correlation there. You see, the “truck” thing....hmmm...
Howdy friends - today I’m going to shop for a new can opener. One outlet here carries “Safety-Can Express” as seen on TV. It’s about $30.00. Just wondering if anyone knows if these are good, and/if there are other types that are good, too. Also, wondering about those “cable-free” devices, to attach as an antenna, to get great reception with no cable cost. Other ideas on products? Thanx...
I haven’t met anyone in person, but have spoken to a couple of members on the telephone. One member lives about 7 hours away; she and I plan to meet fairly soon, as that is not considered a great distance in the United States. Another member lives an hour and a half away; we’re both familiar with each other’s town, and may have occasion to do so. I’d participate in a meetup in Boise, Denver, etc.. but not much further.
Sure. It’s called “ surrogate”. At first I thought you should know this; however, it’s not a practice everywhere and I’m sure in some regions, illegal. There are tons of considerations, one primary one being that the surrogate will “change her mind” and want to keep the baby, which has been upheld by courts. I’m personally against it— just has way too many crosshairs in the scope. And, not to be cruel, but why can’t people accept the ups and downs of Life? We all have to...right? There is a certain sinister air about always wanting to go against the Providence’s of this life, with exception. Jmo
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RE: How important do you see "Roll play" is a healthy relationship?
I like a little on, for awhile, anyway.(for teas in’ and such...