Hi. Couldn’t get you out of my mind, and actually, especially today, have felt some empathy for you. Sometimes, often, actually, I want to be around people; friends, but then, I do or say something awkward or clumsy, and find myself thinking about just being a hermit ( but I’m not sad about it, either) because it’s so embarrassing that I’ve tripped on someone’s foot or said the wrong thing. It’ll be a few days before I venture out….
Hi Ali: I thought about this carefully and I chose France. Here’s why: Employment law dictates that every French worker receive 30 days paid leave a year. This indicates a value for rest and leisure. Most families spend a great deal of time teaching cooking and basic housekeeping to both girls and boys. This helps define and develop every-day self-sufficiency. Art and music are continuously introduced- this develops the creative process throughout their lives. Meals, and even coffee, are consumed at a slow pace in al fresco restaurants and cafes. This reminds people that there is far more to life than work. Flowers are grown everywhere, romance is always cheered on….I personally believe that France has got it right.
After reading others’ comments, I do wonder- why mention it then, if you’re fine with it. Your average Joe is going to think exactly as I did— that you want a solution to being alone. It’s a little muddling…
I thought this rather odd, but then realized she may be a widow, or, she was indeed awarded custody, which occurs here in the U.S. as well. But, primarily only step- mothers. As I said before, child relationships with men, even natural fathers, are seldom awarded in custody battles. Men/ fathers are not generally dealt with equitably in America. I don’t mean anything by this— it’s just the way it is here.
a side comment irrelevant to topic— I just researched the word “matrix” and discovered I’ve been using it somewhat incorrectly since college days. I believed it indicated something unlikely; that doesn’t appear to be the case. It generally means “of its environment”, which isn’t exactly what I meant. “Improbability” would have been the more appropriate term. Just doing a little self-mentoring. Forty years late..
Well, guess that’s the matrix, my friend. Kind of impossible to not be alone and not be around people. How about just one people? Find a comrade or paramour or …? (I could have read your OP wrong: it sounded like you weren’t happy with being alone…)
First, I totally get where you’re coming from. But hey, you’re handsome, eclectic-don’t hide your candle ‘neath a bush…please don’t take this as an imposition. I researched your area a little. Have you tried The Hopper, or Marmadukes? How about The Treehouse Board Game Cafe? That place sounds fun and interesting. Any contra- dance groups near you? Senior centers? Sometimes we just have to make our optimism come true… Great luck, Bud…
Sorry for your hardship, by the way. Life is very, very tough. Choose your next partner very, very carefully. Research her. Separate the wheat from the chafe.
Probably not, although I’m not in the know about your country’s laws. In The U.S. the other side of the coin is that if you discover later that a child you’ve been supporting as your own, married or not, is actually NOT yours, family court will still impose financial obligations for the child, on you. But it is extremely difficult (although there are a few rare cases) for a non- custodial “ friend” to be given any equitability concerning someone else’s child(ren), particularly if that parent is opposed to it. Mean, yes. Damaging to the child? Yes. Law is strict in family court here, specifically with minors. Men are frequently given the shaft…
I actually have this picture/sign framed…it’s hilarious. Somewhere in the Midwest, Nevada I think, is a tourist stop called “Slumber Motel”. The neon sign rises above the boulevard /street sign in giant, bold lettering: WOODY WAY
Then it wasn’t for you, right? Sometimes things can’t be microed…so, move on. (Unless you’re completely uneducated, it would have taken less time to read what I had to say then it took to make a rude comment about it….duh….and, look at all the frequent multiple posts YOU make. Kind of the pot calling the kettle black….
People drive over to food banks and other free social services in $60,000.00 cars and trucks, carrying the most expensive computer notebooks. While in line they talk about their upcoming Hawaiian or DisneyWorld vacations. Oh, and there’s a $2,000.00 Yorkshire terrier in their $1,400.00 de la Renta purse. Just saying…
They use tons of oil. You can squeeze it out—, actually. ! once inside you, it gels/ solidifies, binding like school paste. Doesn’t digest very well. Crams into your arteries and blocks everything. I peel the breading and skin off, if and when I have KFC. Not much meat after that. (You’re spending good money for grease and cracker crumbs. ) Think I’ll pass- “. Check Please…”
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sure seems to like wood…
RE: How should women behave?
Whoa, Nelly. Take it down a notch. I was being friendly. It’s always good to remember that discretion is the better part of valor.Bloody well think about it…
( now, did that sound nice? Get it, friend?)0