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RE: Your 1st school.

Thank you so much for that. He had a bit of a rough life, drinking a lot and rather unable to hold a job, but he lived with his mom all his life and his siblings, along with me and a few other friends, saw that he was supported. He never spoke harshly to or about anyone; had a very tenderness about him. First friend— my goodness, how life is...

Cards

So, I’m doing a little research here— it’s possible for more than one player to have a Royal Flush, or a Flush or Full house. With a Royal Flush, the suit rank rules— ie, Spades is highest followed by Hearts, then Diamonds, then Clubs, which will always lose if another like hand is played. Here’s where it gets tricky, and I may be mistaken so any Hoyle freaks feel free to educate me: if two players or more get Full Houses, then the highest ranking “set”, whether two of the cards or three, will win. Example: player one has JJJ99, and player two has AA333. Player two wins because he has a short set of aces, which win over even three jacks. Right

RE: What

just what do you want to do?

RE: Your 1st school.

My first school was in a Portland, Oregon suburb. Situated in a quiet, upscale neighborhood, the building was red brick with white colonial window surrounds. The yards were fully gardened with roses and rhododendron. It was the epitome of the cute 1950’s public school. My first-grade classroom (I did not attend kindergarten) was painted lively with Disney characters, and there was a big, working fireplace covering half of one wall. My longest running friendship was made in that classroom; he was hit by a car a few years ago and did not survive. I learned tons my first grade; the teacher, who I still know, was marvelously talented. That first Autumn was tragic— President Kennedy was killed. So many memories.

RE: Experience

check

RE: Experience

RE: Experience

Im always a bridesmaid, never a bride...

RE: Experience

Ill stay awhile...at least 29 more minutes ( then Jeopardy! Is on..)

RE: Experience

It will all meld

RE: Experience

Im online now...pick up the speed, pal..

RE: Love

There’s a saying that goes along the lines of it being incredulous to believe a moment’s passion can somehow endure forever...I googled it seven ways but couldn’t find the exact quote. Btw—why the “thumbs-down on my comment regarding choosing friends? What is there to disagree about?

RE: Love

Being able to choose the people who will be in your life changes the geography of human relationship. (You can’t choose family, ie...)

RE: Time to take a break .

thanks for the laughter...and for giving me the right words. Gee, now there’ll be MORE of them stuck in my brain loop. How can I thank you, dearest?

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Good to have you for a friend....

RE: The Draft

Thank you with my whole heart for your service. We have a large Coast Guard post here—very nice personnel. They are always well-received wherever they go.

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Much appreciated, lovie— I enjoy your threads and posts—you are eclectic, grounded, empathetic, and easy-going. Totally my cup of tea— blessings, my friend..

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Not always...it’s often useful to get other people’s points of view, even when it might seem we should have the academic tools at hand. All life is a learning process and journey, and I’ve gained some insight and perspective from some CS members, so I’m satisfied that going about it like this was more productive than not. I am handling the situation...thus far. I don’t see the seats as “cheap”, and some really good feedback has been given. I’m good..

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

OK. I didn’t say you did. But I did. The situation is not “fixable”. I believe, after three decades of her conduct and behavior, I can state that. Sure, you said nothing about “fixing” anyone. But why did you need to assert that? Just wondering...

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Skedaddle is still my precious little prince...he had his vet visit and nail trim yesterday. Thanks for mentioning him..

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Passive-aggressive people/emotional blackmailers cannot be redirected or shown/taught anything because THEY DON’T THINK THEY’RE DOING ANYTHING WRONG. It’s not fixable.

RE: Time to take a break .

We all go through this—I take breaks from this from time to time. Something that helps: just no response when the negative is unkind, rather than helpful...I’m all for taking a break, btw, but don’t be a stranger...

RE: Write some beautiful words for your parents

Thanks a million for that, and for the nice letters on other forum...going to bed now (it’s 9 ish evening here) but will now sleep soundly because of your lovely out-reach to me. Blessings to the moon!

RE: Write some beautiful words for your parents

My grandparents took me into their home when I was ten. They rescued me from a very bad, tragic set of circumstances. All my beautiful words are for them.

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Your letter is quite helpful. Need to clarify, for others, for a minute— She’s not a romantic interest. (Wrong everything-). She’s married—( he’s also a friend, but doesn’t visit me every time she does. He’s very nice, and appears to have some control of the sitch. She knows enough to not aggravate HIM. Besides, he’s hard of hearing, as well..) Her behavior is perennial; she is not going to change. Trust me. There is no meeting of the minds. I’ve done this many times, this is a cold case if ever there was one. I’m doing much better today. Actually had a call from my sister this morning. She cannot stand this woman, and of course upbraided me intensely for tolerating her this long. My sister is so concerned about my well-being she is going to send me two hundred bucks cash in two months if I disengage from this freak-Zilla. I’m going to take her up on it— Judas or not...this hot mess of a poor excuse has to exit my saloon. It’s just not working—I’m a day late and a dollar short making this decision, anyway. Besides, after reflecting about this for two days, and appealing to my wonderful friendships here, one fact remains: I don’t like her any more. Gotta go...this one. Thanx for writing, yes, I do have a heaping helping of love in my heart, but this one is not fixable. I don’t even feel bad about it anymore.

RE: Troll

Bandon. This thing corrects unnecessarily...

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Very much appreciate you taking time for me. I’ve had a really tough four days...coming to the conclusion that I’m going to have to trim the rose on this. Not easy, I don’t like to give up on a friendship, but it’s gone on too long and is not going to change, and is causing actual health problems and flare-ups. (I have an auto-immune condition). Thanks for saying what, unfortunately, needed to be said.

RE: START YOUR DAY WITH A SMILE

What are you doing up, Boss? Work nights?

RE: Troll

Hi Stan...thought about you the other day..Took Whiskey Run, then on over to Charleston. Brandon Beach/Devils Kitchen on Saturday. Homesick for Coos yet?

Ideas for dealing with high maintenance friends

Here I am burning a little night oil pondering a recent series of events. A friend of many years visited, staying over three nights. Every time she visits, we end up getting into it at least twice. I’ve been very clear about my boundaries..( she is extremely passive-aggressive, interrupts constantly, talks on and on and in superfluous detail, doesn’t allow the other person (it’s not just me..) get a word in edgewise. When confronted, she readily “owns” her behavior, but often wants to pick up the pace immediately and point out the other person’s faults instead of absorbing what is being said. She quickly goes back to her behavior, even though she will agree it’s negative and annoying. (She has been taken to task by many, many people, dropped by many, etc...so this is not just a one-sided observation from me. However, I do care about her, but as I sit here tonight, after reading several articles regarding this genre, I don’t honestly believe I can ever have her in my house again, and for sure, not stay...for even one night. She’s pathological— even after a very harsh response to her, very soon she quickly textures to the behavior, as if nothing has been said by me (or another). Pathological behavior in the classic sense. Is there a way to quickly dismiss her without being cruel? I’ve already had to come to agreeable terms with myself that I’m not in the wrong, I don’t have to feel guilt for telling her my feelings, etc...yet, I don’t want to damage already damaged goods. Not quite sure where to go from here, except I know this friendship must change or get tossed. Can’t maintain it as current, and no sign she “gets” it, even though she insists she does. I am SO wiped out physically and emotionally from her visit. Pray for me, my friends. Thank you.

RE: Anyone up for a game?

Won’t work. She’s in denial. Thinks I’m gonna straighten up any day now...


Hope springs eternal!