Its easier to think that...I still believe the point of what I’m saying is either missed or dodged. Not a “ thumper”, but if we’re talking scripture, “cast those iniquities into the sea of forgetfulness “‘TO BE REMEMBERED NO MORE.”’ I say if you can’t forget ( wipe the slate clean) then you can’t truly forgive. It’s not that I think badly of people, and I agree that forgiveness is an ideal virtue..we are not able, as mortals, to complete the picture, because we can’t, through no fault of our own, do both. I champion your deep desire to want to forgive, and it’s a worthy cause. And, we shall soar like eagles. Just not now
Because the mandatory laws regarding assault in Oregon are so severe, we don’t see the following nearly as much: Many, many times in my younger years I’d see women goading their boyfriend into a fight with another guy, often one they also had an interest in. They so obviously enjoyed the ensuing donnybrook; absolutely tickled they had caused such chaos. I NEVER ONCE saw a guy goading two women this way. Just sayin’..
Flo: Andy Capp! Are you going to lie around on that sofa all day long?!” Andy: Not at all, love. When I get tired of it I’ll go upstairs and get in the bed.
For myself, primarily to be even more grateful. Things could be much worse ( for me) so...no complaints, and especially about little things that never should have mattered much, anyway..
This was a mantra pushed by teachers since I entered the first grade. Good to develop a thick skin. Words and names can hurt, though. Forty-seven years ago, when I was just starting out in life, I said something very unkind to a young over-weight lady in a restaurant. Even being so young, I knew better. That has followed me my whole life, as I will never forget the sad, bewildered eyes that met mine. Yes, words can hurt, no doubt about it.
“..and of all the harm, e’er I done, alas ‘‘twas done to none but me”
Three things returned not: the spent arrow, the lost opportunity, and the spoken word.
There are more grains of sand in all the deserts than there are apologies for a cruel comment.
What the world needs now, is love, sweet love....play it, Dino, if you see this..
I agree that it is good to strive for it, like many other intangible ideals. But....look at it this way: say you DO convince yourself that you’ve forgiven someone. And, theoretically, you DO. All’s right with the world - God is in His heaven, and so on...THEN, they do you wrong AGAIN. The first offense comes back to mind full tilt. Why, what happened to the forgiveness?? Do you really think people will think or say, “Well, the slate was clean, we start fresh on a new forgive”. Not so much...
I’ve written about this before. People are not able to forgive. It’s a wonderful ideal, and makes a charming, heart-warming bedtime story. Doesn’t happen. Not in the truest sense of the actual meaning. Saying “she wrecked my life, but I forgive her” is an oxymoron. Saying “I can forgive but I can’t forget” is just another way of saying “I don’t/can’t forgive”. There’s no blame or judgment here: it’s the way it is.
“Nobody ever forgets where he buried a hatchet”—-Josh Billings
One can learn to get along, be kind and polite, all those fine things, but always, always, in the back of the mind, is that haunting, warning: that person did me wrong and I can’t trust them anymore.
I bump my own threads from time-to-time - if replies are not coming in and I’m wanting to talk...it works, btw...you’re probably not the only one that finds the practice annoying, but the solution is extremely easy. Change the channel, hover the stylus/mouse and choose something else, etc... Good heavens, we have a serious global health crisis, the police are killing people, homeless camps expanding...a thread bump is rather insignificant, don’t ya think?
I can’t top that, but I had finished junior college and was driving a very questionable old car from San Francisco to Grand Junction, Colorado. I won about 200.00 in Reno, and added to my trip money, it was fairly good for the times. After the Colorado visit, I journeyed home through Steamboat Springs/Craig/ Dinosaur, then across the Bonneville Salt Flats.(To give you an idea, this stretch is used for testing race cars, etc...) well, a sudden blizzard hit, the car froze and of course halted, and there I was, in the middle of the Utah desert freezing cold, blinded by the storm, no one in sight. Scary. I attempted three times to thumb down a ride, but no one was driving. Finally, after about four hours a huge truck stopped. He took me to Wendover, bordering Nevada. I found a garage with a tow, he agreed to go get the car and repair it enough to get it back to California, which he did. He took most of my money ( which was fair) I spent almost everything else on a room for the night and a sandwich. The motel gave me breakfast. I coasted into friends’ driveway in Sacramento, and they loaned me enough money to get back to SF. There is absolutely nothing about Utah, snow, or ice that interests me in the least. I won’t have winter scenes as decor, and I pick out the snow-laden Christmas card pics and donate them to charity. Can’t stand it...
Sometimes I’m not quite sure which category some figures of speech ‘fit’ into, so feel free to help if I don’t know or am mistaken. Also, give some of your faves— and give the meaning....unless it’s crystal clear...
Carry coal to Newcastle ( idiom..do something unnecessary)
Comfortable as an old shoe ( simile.. possibly metaphor..( likable)
When you get to a fork in the road, take it (Spoonerism ?)
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RE: Forgive/Forget ?
Its easier to think that...I still believe the point of what I’m saying is either missed or dodged. Not a “ thumper”, but if we’re talking scripture, “cast those iniquities into the sea of forgetfulness “‘TO BE REMEMBERED NO MORE.”’ I say if you can’t forget ( wipe the slate clean) then you can’t truly forgive. It’s not that I think badly of people, and I agree that forgiveness is an ideal virtue..we are not able, as mortals, to complete the picture, because we can’t, through no fault of our own, do both. I champion your deep desire to want to forgive, and it’s a worthy cause. And, we shall soar like eagles. Just not now