It was unclear where your meaning was going...but thanks for clarifying. So, tell me about the value of therapy/ talking with other human beings...I agree this is healing, or at least steps in the right direction, so certainly not in denial here. How about washing a few dirty dishes while talking with a trusted friend while boiling water for chamomile tea? Sounds like a winner to me—-what’s that Streisand song—“People who need people are the luckiest people...” since you said I could talk to you— let me tell you how I feel about something— you seem to get after me when you don’t need to be getting after me— we are on the same page much of the time. You are confusing me at times...I don’t get it.
So, are you saying that you want other people’s input, but if it isn’t exactly how you think, they’re in denial? Why ask for input if you’ve already decided? It’s like you’re saying, “ Please tell me what you think, so I can tell you you’re wrong..” Has it occurred to you that maybe YOU are in denial, instead? Does that sound nice? Get it?
Where is the denial here? You are not making sense. Do you mean that ( some) anxiety sufferers need chemical adjustment/medication? Sure, that’s true. Please explain, however, why you said what you did— thanks.
Since at least the early 2000’s, anxiety is on the rise. Slow down, world...I’m completely confident in saying this, cat, these problems are caused by people going too fast. Period. Haste makes waste. Be patient-or be one. If you’re in a hurry, you’re doing it wrong. Measure twice, cut once. Triple- check that medication BEFORE you dispense it. Read the whole document before you date and sign it. Look both ways. It’s all back to slowing down. For real.
Disclaimer— the following is not intended to be “ medical advice”:
When that “aura” of anxiety rears, slowly go and do a few simple, relatively normal tasks, such as washing a few dirty dishes by hand, taking the wash to the machine, heat some water and make chamomile or other herb tea...purposefully relax. This seems to be very helpful for some people.
Well, HI THERE!! Haven’t seen you or heard from you for awhile...Don’t you know you’re my hero? Don’t you know you’re the wind beneath my wings? I’ll be your friend forevermore—for sure.. SO good to see you this evening.
At this minute, regular gas here in Coos Bay, is $3.35 (average) a U.S. gallon. This morning I saw the “ gas lines” across the country on TV news— I’m frugal with driving, but will completely fill up in the morning...just in case.
I hear you— in the classical sense “ ego” is definitive, not demonstrative. Many people associate the word as a negative, as in, “We don’t want to hang around with John. He’s embarrassingly egotistical..” it seemed to me that the negative connotation was being addressed, but, I’m a stickler for correctness and your comments are patent to the term. Good enough?
Not quite so fast...Derek Chauvin is, hands-down, egotistical. How’d that work out for him? His emotion, as it were, erased the ID, and EGO stepped in. Not groovy...
What an interesting thread— here are some points to ponder regarding the topic: it’s perfectly fine to have an awareness of “where we came from”, and the abilities and skill-sets we’ve learned and developed. But there are ways to say and feel this. For example, instead of saying, “Yeah, I worked hard for everything I have and earned every red cent”, say, “I’m very grateful that I was blessed with opportunities to have a job and save”. Egotistical people seldom find simpatico. Even egotistical people dislike other egotistical people. Knowing that you are handsome, friendly, educated, successful, is one hing. Being sanctimonious about it is another—AND, wrong.
So, there’s this new fellow who tries to get along. The other employees aren’t really helping much, but he comes in with a happy heart and friendly greetings every morning. Twice he is asked to the manager’s office. “We’re happy to have you on board, but there are lots of complaints. You talk too much. People don’t want to be bothered—you’re too gregarious,,,” So, the poor schmuck, needing his job, tones it way down. He only nods and smiles now, sits bu himself in the lunchroom, and only speaks when first spoken to. He is asked to the manager’s office. “The other employees are upset. You don’t seem to want to talk to them. You don’t sit with them at lunch, and now, they’re complaining you’re not a team player”.
NO— minding your own business doesn’t always work...
I really understand this— I was marginally acquainted with a very small man (but not midget or dwarf) who was an absolute perfect example of being athletic, fit, etc...good looking man, too. And, straight as an arrow. But people, usually other men, would do and say things that were clearly meant to target his size. We have, still, a terrible society that doesn’t seem to care if it’s hurting people...
Top of the morning— this thread reminds me of a couple of things: there’s this thing about small men who make up for it in another way—AND, something about guys (in general) and their trucks...some correlation there. You see, the “truck” thing....hmmm...
Howdy friends - today I’m going to shop for a new can opener. One outlet here carries “Safety-Can Express” as seen on TV. It’s about $30.00. Just wondering if anyone knows if these are good, and/if there are other types that are good, too. Also, wondering about those “cable-free” devices, to attach as an antenna, to get great reception with no cable cost. Other ideas on products? Thanx...
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SO good to see you this evening.
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RE: share, it helps.Mental Health
It was unclear where your meaning was going...but thanks for clarifying. So, tell me about the value of therapy/ talking with other human beings...I agree this is healing, or at least steps in the right direction, so certainly not in denial here. How about washing a few dirty dishes while talking with a trusted friend while boiling water for chamomile tea? Sounds like a winner to me—-what’s that Streisand song—“People who need people are the luckiest people...” since you said I could talk to you— let me tell you how I feel about something— you seem to get after me when you don’t need to be getting after me— we are on the same page much of the time. You are confusing me at times...I don’t get it.