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RE: Favorite or Meaningful Quotes

”I’ve never regretted something I DIDN’T say..”.(Twain, I believe)

RE: Favorite or Meaningful Quotes

Hi there...glad to see you. I’ve been feeling a bit left out, lately. Here’s a quote I really like, but I can’t say I’ve heard of the author

“Don’t let your simplicity be imposed upon”. (Vin Suerid)

RE: Have you ever had to serve on a jury, and if yes, how would you rate the experience ?

I served 5 weeks, and sat two trials. One was rather long-Friday - to Friday. Years later, while describing that trial, a fellow in the bar ver sanctimoniously told me that I, and the eleven other jurors, had voted inappropriately, because of this and that. I chose not to argue. However, here, I want to explain a key element regarding jury trials. Convening a trial means the defendants are challenging the charges. If everything was slam-dunk, then the outcome would be settled. But a jury is asked to determine an outcome based, frequently, on circumstances, probababilities, and, exponentially troubling, gray area. The public may read about a supposed crime/incident, and sometimes righteously, form an opinion/desired outcome, but a jury digs deep, down to bedrock, and has at their disposal, much, much more information. For example, two things helped decide our ruling: the correct usage and meaning of ONE WORD, and a tiny notation on an “arrow” sticky-note. Minor, perhaps, but evidence the “public” could not factor in. I’m really not trying to sound condescending, but people (in general) need to look before they leap, and not rashly make up their minds...there is a beloved physician STILL in prison, convicted of murdering his wife. He is systematically prevented from having his case heard again. The law appears stubborn. Virtually everyone, including myself, supports him. He didn’t do it. But public opinion was so unbalanced at the time, it polluted the jury..my six-bits for today

RE: what you wanted to be as a child?

Oh, I wanted to be a teacher. I became a vocational nurse/ pharmacy technician, but completed a teaching program at a state college. Except for classroom assisting, I didn’t go into the professional teaching field. (Made far more money at the hospital)

RE: what you wanted to be as a child?

that was supposed to be spendy. I so wish this system would stop correcting what doesn’t need correcting. Btw...it takes at least 3 tries before it lets me spell the term the way I want...is there a “fix” for this?

RE: what you wanted to be as a child?

OMG! Slot cars! In the mid 1960’s my brother and I had a paper route, and wanted to use some of the money to buy a “set” (Aurora), but if you might recall, the rave was SO great that these were incredibly expensive at the time...heck, even the individual race cars were rather speedy. Our step-dad allowed us to each buy one car. The local hobby shop in our Portland neighborhood sold “track-time” on Saturday’s, so we would spend all those afternoons racing our cars with our “gang” of other paper-boys. We even broke the “rule” and saved enough money to buy another car each. What fun we had, and whiled away many otherwise gray, rainy afternoons. Thanks for the memory...

RE: TODAY'S MANTRA

Where have you been? Or maybe I’m just not seeing ...anyhoo...glad to see you. Everything’s cool in this neck of the woods...

RE: Cuisine: Which is the healthiest?

I still love Wheetabix...so yummy...

RE: Has anyone seen a new all-electric car being built in Germany?

I didn’t know that! My gasoline car will go (about) 360 on a full tank, so that’s good enough for me, too.

RE: Favorite or Meaningful Quotes

Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind, then I am of what is true.—- Robert Brault

Enough is a banquet


If you reach for a star, you may not get one. But you won’t be empty-handed, either.

RE: Older women and dress style

Sage quote: (no, it’s not mine..)

“When in doubt, don’t...” your concern would indicate that there must be some things about it that you, yourself aren’t comfortable with. Life should be as spontaneously carefree as possible. So, my answer is that IF an older woman THINKS it is appropriate for HER then, go ahead. If she thinks otherwise, then, don’t wear it. Kinda rather simple...but, I guess these questions do come up. Wonderful, lazy Sunday...

RE: Has anyone seen a new all-electric car being built in Germany?

Ive often heard that one of the main “drawbacks” of all-electric cars is that they can’t go long distances on a “charge”. Now, I’m not anywhere near being an engineer (see, I don’t think I know EVERYTHING::laugh: ) but isn’t it possible that the “cell” could regenerate simply because the car is moving When I was a kid, I had a bicycle that generated its own power to operate both a headlight and a tail-light. Just wondering...

RE: Could you have a fake platonic relationship with someone you hate

Are you OK? That didn’t sound like you...guess this pandemic has just thrown everything out of kilter...

Hope you have a good day and week...

RE: Could you have a fake platonic relationship with someone you hate

We do it all the time in the business world. All the time...etiquette wouldn’t be necessary if everyone naturally did the right thing

RE: Lord. Please Have Mercy on the U.S.A

’Mornin’, Bud. Nice to see a friend..everything’s cool here, just wish the weather would make up its mind. Went out to Charleston (Coos Bay neighborhood on the ocean) and got a good laugh watching the shallow-net fishermen trying to keep up with gulls stealing the chum bait. Dang, those birds are big, and one actually grabbed the last corner of my sandwich right out of my hand—I felt it’s beak on my knuckles. (A little ticked—it was a rather expensive Reuben...) So, the tide was neap, and I wanted it out so I could look into the pools. Didn’t have my almanac, so couldn’t tell if it was coming or going— I think “neap” can be in-between, either way. I should know— born here! Well, I rattle on. Most businesses still closed; my second fave pub moved out a ways so they could have an “outdoor room”, which means they can serve drinks, meals, and allow smoking. Brilliant, but not for me, as I absolutely will not drink and drive, and don’t want to pay an extra 20-30 (cab) ...well, howz your day?

RE: Lord. Please Have Mercy on the U.S.A

So sorry for whatever experiences you have had to nurture such melancholy feelings for America. There never has been, nor will ever be, a perfect global community. However, we do make a brilliant effort, comparatively. Even in rural Oregon, Italian families, and their kindred, celebrate their various cultures and enthusiastically invite the rest of us (I’m Scottish..) to join in. They are very happy to be here, either by birth or immigration, and are among the first in the community to offer support and help to virtually anyone in crisis. It was an Italian writer who first coined the term, “Let’s knock the ‘t’ out of “can’t, don’t, won’t, and shouldn’t”. Italians were paramount in building America up, literally stone-by-stone...read the book “Brickie”, about a poor Italian family that rose to great success in New York City. Wonderfully, the spirit of your country lives fully, enthusiastically, and inclusively in America. We have grown and nurtured one another for many, many years. Again, so sorry for whatever has hurt you here. I will be the first to say that I, or “we” (although I hesitate to speak for others, I’m comfortable in this case..) shall earnestly try harder, and better. If you ever visit, you would be as welcome as flowers in May, and perhaps some of us could heal those terrible, deep wounds you have . Peace, brother,

RE: Downsizing & Downgrading In Your State/Region

until last year, there was no moratorium on rent increases in Oregon, and a landlord could, with minimal notice, raise the rent “reflective on the current area pricing”. So, low-income people paying, say $550.00 would get a notice that the rent would be increasing to over $1,000.00. A law was passed in Oregon that rents may only be raised once yearly, and only up to 7%. I realize there are good arguments; currently I’m all for it. The deliberate disenfranchising of people being able to have a decent place to live has GOT TO STOP. It’s like they’re creating a gentrified commodity for the rich only. Unconscionable.

RE: Just a minute

Asalaam, nice to find you my good friend..

RE: Just a minute

Speaking of small increments of time: It is said that Princess Diana’s chauffeur had his eye off the speedway less than one SECOND...not generally taken in by exaggerations, however, having worked some emergency in my career, uh, yeah, this is VERY possible.

RE: Boxsets/series/movies

Just starting second season of “The Crown”. Who IS that chap playing young Philip, The Duke? Dang, he’s buff...

RE: Lord. Please Have Mercy on the U.S.A

Since it’s been so long, and we’re now much older, can we get the senior citizens’ discount? I mean, the tea WAS a tad rancid, and some of the packs looked bedraggled—like rats had been chewing on them...and you did stuff bricks in the bottom of the crates to increase the weight...and all those poor little folk who were disenfranchised and exploited hours on end to harvest the tea...I mean, is there any room for negotiation here? Can we talk? I’ll put on the coffee...

Just About Anything & Everything

I figure I’ve saved about $1345000.00 by staying single..Very, very grateful for the work I had for over 30 years...constant, predictable overtime at very fair rates (time and a half for the first 4 hours, double time thereafter, unscheduled Sunday or holiday automatic double-pay..I once was called in on Christmas Day, on a Sunday, to work a double-shift. I made more money that day than I made for a two- week pay period. Double time x 15 hours x time and a half for 12 hours plus double time Holiday pay for 15 hours. About $127.00 an hour!) I ordinarily worked 3 regular shifts and three double- shifts a week, every week for 18 years of 31.) my retirement is not super- wealthy, but all those years paid off. I’m what one of my sisters’ calls “comfortable”. So what am I doing with my life now? Folk music, trips down to the beach (it’s close by) raising my kitten, today I’m looking at curtains and faux fireplaces...

Just About Anything & Everything

Our local library is doing a super job of being accommodating. We can’t go in and browse, but can call them and they’ll find what we’re wanting. Guess what?? They rounded up the three full seasons of “The Crown” (DVD’s) and had them ready. I’m still on the second of four discs in the first season, Phillip is still very dapper, the (two) children are not school age yet, and The King has just been told he has cancer. Elizabeth’s sister has been severely reprimanded for flirting with a married (officer?) “Peter”, and The Queen has privately successfully got the press to be quiet about it..(how different were those days..!) Anyway, I’d wanted the series for awhile, don’t have Netflix or that available on my cable. Each season is priced at $40.00 at Freddie’s or Walmart, so I saved $120.00

**learning to survive this crazy, compromising time.....boogers!


Blessings, Lovie—- you’re a real calming factor in choppy waters..

RE: Any place world wide A-Z

Is that red building a water-wheel mill? Looks like it could be...I’d love to visit Tasmania some day..

RE: Any place world wide A-Z

I needed to add that in the earliest days, it was more just a neighbor-to-neighbor courtesy; one report states, “citizens of the villages (probably Charleston and Empire, now both merged and part of Coos Bay) would holler over to one another and whoever could PADDLED across the strait to pick them up.” Hardly what we consider a ferry... Some historians believe there was somewhat of a system in the hollering to indicate how many people would be boarding, to avoid making multiple trips. Remember, this was before automation, etc...and waters were choppy, weather unpredictable, etc...

RE: Any place world wide A-Z

The Hollering Place. Located in the Empire District of Coos Bay, Oregon. Ferries would take passengers across the bay, summoned by shrill whistles, and/or “hollering”. I believe there was a small shelter with old college-style ‘cone megaphones’, to use, but originally, one just cupped their hands. Quaint bit of my town’s history.

RE: Worst Food

Because I do not know, I vote that animals DO have a soul. You do know, I hope, that no person has a more loyal, unassuming heart than a faithful dog. Now THAT is proof enough for me...and thank you for saying animals have a soul...

RE: How important is communication to you?

RE: How important is communication to you?

RE: How important is communication to you?

I’ve wanted to comment on this thread, but wasn’t sure how to proceed without stepping on toes or being in opposition to anyone’s cherished beliefs. I “get” frame #2– however, I have a bit different overall belief: even in the most solid marriage/similar, I think that there needs to be a certain level of respect for privacy-of-thought, and therefore, not “everything” is fair game. Not singling women out; I have never known a woman to not say to her loved one/mate, “I don’t want to talk about it. It has nothing to do with you...”, or similar. An example of what I’m saying is illustrated in the following, concerning a married couple I know well. The wife is extremely headstrong, yet frequently says things like “My husband is the family leader—he’s my “head”, like The Bible teaches”. (They’re very churchy) but nags him like there’s no tomorrow. When I’ve sat with them in church, and the minister tells the congregation to close their eyes and bow in a few minutes of personal, private prayer, she stares at him the whole time, and then needles him later about what he was thinking/praying. She then announces all of his emotions to her churchy girlfriends, reveling in airing his most sacred part of his personality. First, his private prayer/meditation is really none of her business, married or not ( she doesn’t tell him HERS..) second, she is severely compromising his personal inner privacy by betraying him to her gaggle. Communication is great, but I adhere to Khalil Gibran: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness”.