I was with my ex-husband for a total of 14 years, married for 7 years to him.
Longest relationship post divorce is 3 years off-and-on.
Ex's: (drum roll please) ....about 6 ex's (not including the mercy dates my hairdresser has set me up on..in the past..i don't count because I struggle to forget!)
I'd have to say for me that quality would have to be without a doubt....my partner would have to be supportive.
Why? Because when you know you have the unwavering support and love of the person you are with, you can work through any problems, tackle any issues and know without a doubt that no matter what happens this person is always there beside you no matter what happens.
I quit my stable, steady job and decided to change my whole profession at 35 years old. I entered healthcare and while it's been a scary transition I wouldn't change a thing. We tend to regret the things we don't do and I wish you all the luck, success and happiness possible as you start your new life in FL!
I think if the two people involved are realistic and honest about their expectations that it is quite possible to have a long distance relationship. I know that it would involve an unspoken but understood trust and it isn't for people with jealousy or control issues. Because you have to trust that other person implicitly with your heart and you have to be 100% clear in your understanding of expectations from each other. As long as you communicate openly and honestly and you are both of the same thinking and logic then I believe that it could work, but only for those who can be totally secure in themselves because self-doubt and jealousy are ugly destructive things.
I read the thread even though you asked for men's opinions you did state you would like females to post also.
Here's my take: Is this person strictly an F' buddy? Do you have genuine feelings or sympathy for what she happens to be going through? Would you believe she would do the same for you if the situation were reversed? If you are truly friends or as you put it best friends, then without a moments hesitation I'd be on my way to be by her side. Everyone goes through hard times and needs someone to be there for them, and someday you may find yourself in the same predicament and she will have an opportunity to repay the kindness.
Yes, how do you think we all figure out what we want vs. what we don't want. So your relationship ended, many of them do because the person isn't suited for us. Carry on in your life, take the lessons you have learned and don't regret anything because it is all going to make you a smarter, wiser, better prepared woman down the road.
If she is asking because you are coming on to her and she is interested in reciprocating the feeling then YES, tell her the truth, you owe her that much. Honesty is always the best policy and it avoids misunderstandings and hurt feelings later on down the line.
This question has been posted a couple times already..but just for you I'll answer it again..lol.
I'd like for a man to treat me with the same respect, kindness and consideration that I would bestow onto him. I'd like to have open and honest communication and a solid friendship from which we could both relate.
depends on what you consider lonely rac, everyone has their days of melancholy but as far as lonely...can't say that I experience that very much because I keep my body and mind busy and never give way to actual boredom or lonliness.
cantbetamed71 Forum Posts (901)
scary, very, very scary! LOL
RE: Need help ..
Well, what can I say I try to accomodate all!!!!