cantbetamed71 Forum Posts (901)

My own thoughts..

I don't know about the rest of you here, but I use this forum for many things. I use it as a source of amusement, connecting with friends, venting frustrations, sharing thoughts, pasting and copying somethings that I find to share with others might be included in that definition of "sharing thoughts".

I enjoy communicating with people from all over the world, finding out about how life is in their part of the world, things that they they are interested in, are also interesting to me. I love sharing stories and interacting with everyone on here. I try to treat others as I myself would like to be treated, with respect and tolerance. But, there are some people who make that almost impossible with the things they say or how they come across in their threads. We are all here with one thing in mind and that is CONNECTING...hence the name CONNECTING SINGLES.

Some members are here to meet a signifigant other, some are here to enjoy the forums once they find their other half, some are here for the humor, some are here for ulterior motives and I sometimes just can't presume to know why some people even bother to log in. Some people find this site as a method to relieve their inner tensions, some use it as a forum for their own agendas, some use it to provoke reactions from others for some unknown reason, but every is here for a reason and has a purpose.

Is it too much to ask to just enjoy the time we have on this forum, to openly communicate, to spread laughter, joy, humor and opinions. I realize that every opinion is not going to be thought provoking, humorous, light-hearted or enjoyable to read. But, that is what makes it interesting and in my opinion beings that I am the one writing this post...that is what makes these forums so diverse and unique...there is something to be said for those to qualities.

Who doesn't want to be free to express their opinions??? I'll tell you who...those people who don't have their own and they must have very boring almost non-existent lives to have absolutely nothing constructive to add to anything.

Just my OWN thoughts, words and opinions. Thank you for listening to me vent! Most appreciated!

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

Exactly Charlie.....EXACTLY!!!!!!

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

I rely on my own mind and observations before I form my opinions. What I see, what I read, what I know..everything influences my opinions and thought process. If it walks, talks and barks whatta you think it is? Call it a dog and be done!

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

Hilly, sorry to have to say this..but you know as do I...open containers are illegal, so we can't argue with that. As far as tazing being too much? What about when the only alternative is to use a baton and break bones or just shoot em? As Charlie said above, gotta ask yourself which is the lesser of two evils. People recover quickly from being tazed and from the things I've read, there are no long term adventageous results from being tased. Such as broken bones or death, which would be preferable? Not picking on ya honey, just posting my thoughts...

RE: Am I MATERIAL girl?

You are hear to meet/corrospond with some new women right?? You may want to rethink some of the things you say before you say them, just a thought. Your statements are not exactly going to be bringing the women to you in droves.

RE: Am I MATERIAL girl?

that is too funny! Thank you, you have proven my point! LOL

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

Right on Charlie!!!!!!!

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

??????? You just stated that the police were to violent??? OK..go figure???

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

Tazing is a weapon that will inflict a shock onto a person. I believe Roquecop can explain it better than this. but that is basically what it is.

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

and you believe that everything you see on the news is 100% accurate??? I question things from all angles and I want my OWN proof, not just what I am view on some biased news station. In fact, I believe that is called confirmation bias...I question everything. That's how I form my own decisions and views.

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

This woman was not only a real danger to herself but because of being intoxicated..she was also a danger to others but I guess we should forget about the dangers or drinking and driving right??? WTF????? Are some people advocating drunken driving vs. tazing this woman to put her under control and to prevent her from hurting herself and others??

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

and you back this statement with what proof??? Just prefer to weigh both sides of the coin before I would make a statement like that. Cops in the US have become real brutes lately......have you ever walked a day in a policeman/womans shoes? I just wonder on what authority you are making this assumption.

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

I was waiting for you to come back and respond. I have no law enforcement training and it didn't take me long to see that this woman was blatantly asking for something to be done to her. They said she was drunk and you can see that just from observing her behavior and hearing how she speaks. She's stupid, she's lucky that all she got was tazed...they could have done a lot more. She should consider herself fortunate and thank goodness law enforcement has some non-lethal alternatives available for situations just like this.

Hey Charlie if you thought that one was funny here's on I just was crying I was laughing so hard..this guy was ssssssssssoooooooo drunk he couldn't stand up barely.......it too funny!!!!!! check it out...

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

UH what clip are you watching this woman did NOT weigh 90lbs. maybe in her left butt cheek!!!!!!

RE: TASING OF OHIO WOMEN

She was tasered ONE time from the video I saw and she was also warned several times before they even used the taser in the first place. When a person is obviously highly intoxicated, they are prone to acting out which this woman did. She bit another officer or was it her husband..hell I don't know..she was a loney bird, she didn't do what the cops told her so they tased her stupid drunk *ss.

RE: Am I MATERIAL girl?

RE: Am I MATERIAL girl?

No problem...I am just wondering how much more this one mere man can do??? He just seems to always have some kind of issue that he projects onto you and that is not fair to you. I wish you the best in this situation and I don't envy you either.

RE: Help! Everyone around me is...

Think about a movie that made you laugh yourself to tears..that always helps me..maybe watching a tried and true funny movie will help you overcome the funky moods. I remember the scene from the Adams Family movie where they stuck Wednesday and that little boy in the happy room with all those sickenly sweet sappy movies and they told her she couldn't come out till she smiled........that is enough to give me a mental smile cause I've felt that way before!!LOL

RE: Help! Everyone around me is...

Do not and I repeat do not.......sweat the small stuff. Try doing things you enjoy and when you are around these people I know it is hard mentally not to let that rub off on you. But it is a conscious decision that each of us makes about what we allow to effect and control us. Get a headphone set and listen to lively, upbeat, inspiration music and drown out the negative brain waves....when you feel the negativity starting to creep in..sing a song in your head, tell yourself you are pushing it away, go for a walk and inhale some fresh air deeply and refresh your brain and you senses. Little things make a bigger difference than you might think.

RE: What would you do if someone stole your mind??

If someone stole my mind it would depend on which day of the week it was and I Might let them have it! LOL

As far as stealing hopes and dreams..well some people seem to do that to themselves by doubts and apprehensions.....but for someone to steal them from you..nope can't be done unless you are a complete pushover...you give up the control and it would be your fault if you let someone steal your dreams and hopes.

Hopes and dreams may change from time to time, but a person should never give up on them.

RE: Am I MATERIAL girl?

Angelana, you have had some issues with this guy before if this is the same one you were questioning in your last thread.

He asks you why you like him? OK, does he even seem to like himself? that would be my first question to you. If he doesn't then he is his own inferiority complex and if he doesn't like himself then that is another situation. People who don't like themselves have self esteem and control issues which they will project onto you, is this the way you want to live your life? You cannot and I repeat cannot FIX this type of person, he has to work on it himself from the inside before he can be anything to you, he must be something to himself.

Well of course people change in the future it's called growing in maturity, wisdom and understanding. How does this person know that you will change your value system and become materialistic?? He doesn't but it is another thing he is worried about and he is threatened with change..not a good sign.

He isn't complicated at all if you really take an honest look at the situation from an honest point of view. He doesn't know why you are with him, he is threatened by any changes, he is being disrespectful if he is forcing you to answer questions that make you feel uncomfortable. I know what I would do but I won't advise you because it is your decision to be made..but I do have to ask you one more thing..

You ever heard of RED FLAGS???

RE: HOW RESPECTABLE ARE YOU ? ..AND HOW RESPECTABLE SHOULD YOUR FUTURE PARTNER BE ?

Don't talk bout yourself like that or I'll come get ya and smack ya on the forehead!!!!!! As long as I'm here you need to be positive about yourself...you are a good person, say it with me, you are a good person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RE: finding a Christian girl

I don't know who told you that you couldn't meet a woman at church...but you shouldn't go to church with that intention only.

RE: When was the last time you were pampered?

I regularly indulge in manicures and pedicures does that count? I pamper myself.

RE: When was the last time you were pampered?

WILL YOU STOP..........you are killing me!!!!!!!!

RE: happiness

the only ones who don't want to be happy are the manic depressants of the world and they will FIND or CREATE reasons to be miserable.

In conclusion to the "dangers of flirting"

OOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHH

In conclusion to the "dangers of flirting"

has BND been holding races in his boxers????

The dangers of flirting

You are too damn silly..........maybe you should stop eating the lead paint chips honey! LOL (kidding)

In conclusion to the "dangers of flirting"

Something I see a fair amount of is people flirting on purpose with someone else to make their partner jealous. They feel their partner doesn´t appreciate them enough, so they go flirt with someone else, as if to say, "See, HE thinks I´m pretty" or "See, I could be with HER unless you shape up".

If you´re feeling neglected, the solution isn´t to upset and anger your partner. That might only cause him/her to neglect you even more, figuring you´re not really serious about the relationship, and cause a downward spiral. Also, you´re ´using´ the person you´re flirting with as a tool to needle your partner, which isn´t fair either.

Instead, sit down and talk with your partner. Explain that you´re feeling neglected, and find ways to help change that. If you deal with this honestly, that´ll make the relationship even stronger going forward. Relationships shouldn´t be based on manipulations and trickery.