I don't know that my views are the same as when I was in my twenties. I've had a few boyfriends since my divorce and came very close to marriage with two of them. When it came down to it though, I had to force myself to sit back and really look at the quality of person that they were. Were they someone I could feel safe and grow old with? The answer was resoundingly no...which was no big loss either way because I've learned from both situations.
I've learned that it is OK to be alone, if this is the way I am meant to spend my life then that is ok with me. Of course I'd love to meet my perfect match..show me somebody who woulnd't. Human beings are not made to be alone, I don't care what anyone says...being alone by choice and then being alone because you just don't want to commit or get hurt again, are two different things.
I know that I will never again be put into a position to where I have to totally be dependant upon a man. Being single has made me stronger than I 've ever been, I've got two wonderful kids, am working towards all of my goals and my life is full. Yes, it would all be enhanced by meeting my match, someone to respect me, love me and grow old with me...but that doesn't have to neccessarily be in a marriage situation..I'll reserve my stance on that, only because I am a believer in the saying "anything is possible".
Dear atanyrate...the nose issue is OK..as long as you don't look like Pinnochio when you turn sideways I wouldn't worry about it..nobody likes a vain man....lol
Now, now Ice maybe the newest patrons have something constructive to add to the thread..lets give em a chance to redeem themselves...I am not going to respond to anymore taunting..so they can either contribute or whatever...i could care less. I'm officially ignoring them because they are just here because they are bored and seeking attention with their unwanted taunts. I'm only responding to the vigilante patrons..all others are put on permanant BLOCK MODE
Due to recent breaches into the inner lair of our Cafe we are going to have this place BOMBED for roaches and vermin...to clean this place up!!! I'll bring the turpentine and the matches...clear out if you wanna live!!!!!!!!!
There's always a way back to the yes threads for anyone who doesn't want to be nice in here and play well with others....
please see rules for any other questions...if you aren't a patron of vigilante activities you are invited to exit this thread peacefully...thank you and good night!
If you "like" who you are then the rest will fall into place Deb..wobbly bits and all...(not meant in an offensive way, I just like that little saying "wobbly bits")...lol
You seem to have a great outlook and personality from what you've written here..remember nobody is perfect..the best we can do is work with and like what we've got!
IN the movie the characters (rehab patients) are told that if they can keep a house plant alive for 6 months then they are ready to date..helps them develop "attention skills"....lol
This is true, I shouldn't discriminate..men may want to get some advice from the ladies or give up some tips as well....how true! Thank you for correcting me in my thinking...most appreciated!LOL
College girl you are right...any woman a man wants to be with is going to require effort put forth and vice versa with men too! It works both ways..if you don't want to go to the effort to impress someone else then I guess it's best just to stay single and get a house plant.
Well point taken...women have many more levels than just two..did you think about this before you posted your thread? Women don't like being labeled anymore than a man would and for lesser reasons, because we as women can be b*tches when crossed...lol
Maybe I don't want to figure out men anymore..I just want to find one that doesn't play those kinds of games like "guess who".
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"Volunteering"........wow.......thats a heavy load for you Charlie???!!!! feel for ya babe!